During the entire time while I was trying to make the decision to have or not have an abortion, I thought my mom was okay. I thought she was shocked... and upset (what mom wouldn't be?) but I thought she was okay.
Today she told me that it was the worst thing she has ever been through. Worse than rape, worse than a mental hospital, worse than depression, worse than the death of her father...
I'm so confused... I have the urge to just hug her and tell her I'm so sorry over and over again. I don't know how to make it any better. I feel a lot like shit... :cry:
I just want to make her feel better. Any suggestions?
I would sit down and talk with her. Honestly as rough as it was for her ask her to imagine what it was like for you!!! I hope she just feels bad that you were in the position and not for other reasons...
After my abortion, I felt sorry for putting my mom through my mental anguish..but when I talked to her about it, she said of course she was upset but she knew I would do what wa sbest for me and that no matter how hard it was for her..she knew it would be way harder for me, because I had to go through it. My mom had an abortion when she was 14, so she understood a lot of what I was going through. Thats why she REALLY wanted to be there for me..bcus she didnt have her parents support, they called her a tramp and stuff, and she didnt want me to go through that added on to what i was going through with the abortion. I hadnt even known that my mom had an abortion till I had mine. She thought I would be upset. I was only upset that she held it in so long. I understand why she did it and Im glad this has brought us a lot closer. I wish you luck with your mom. I know shes hurting, its hard. Maybe she could talk with other moms of teens who've had abortions? I know its probably hard to set that up, but if she has email and would want my moms email, I would give it to her. PM me!
(((Hugs))) to you! I cant imagine how hard that was for you, and I am sure it was hard for your mom to watch you go through all of that. I think you should both just sit down and have a heart to heart about it, because she is obviously feeling some mental anguish too.
I dont think her telling you it was the worst thing she has ever been through is really helping the situation, do you??? You need to heal too, and I think it's sweet that you love your mom so much that you want to take her pain away too, but you need to focus on you as well.