my daughter has recently discovered that not all relationships are heterosexual. whenever i've dated anyone male or female, i've never really had to explain anything to her, they were always just "mummy's friend" and that was that. but my gay friend brought his new boyfriend round to my house recently and and meghan saw them kissing in the hall. she didn't say anything at the time but after they left, she was like, "mum, why was ronni kissing another boy?" so i explained that some people love people of the same gender and some people love people of the opposite gender and some people love people of both genders but it doesn't matter cos love is a good thing and it doesn't matter what gender you are.
she didn't like this. i'm not sure if it's just a phase where she thinks that everyone kissing is disgusting but she's got it into her head that being gay is "silly" and she "hates it". you wouldn't believe how much this is stressing me out. she brings it up quite a lot and every time i just try to reinforce that its ok to love people of the same gender but she wont let me talk. if i try to say anything, she'll just start yelling and laughing over the top of me and putting her fingers in her ears.
and then sometimes - and its always in the most innapropriate places - she'll just randomly shout "I'M GAY!" and that can get pretty embarrassing. my mum and other family think this is terrible and that she shouldn't even know what the word "gay" means. i think if she's old enough to ask, she's old enough to be told. i'm not out to my family though as they are such homophobes so i can't say anything really.
i'm really hoping this is a phase, but how do i get her to see that being gay is perfectly okay?