I have been trying to find a way to tell my mom about my pregnancy.. but, mom's eventually clue in, considering they have been there. I moved back in a month ago and she asked if I gotten my period yet! It's been 32 days since I have been here and of course, no period. So she asked me if i knew who BD was... and that's all she really was concerned about. Of course, I had the whole "this is not the life I wanted for you" speech. She was 18 when I was born and a single mom, and than started the "you have no idea how hard raising a child is" talk. She is planning on having another child herself, but, she figures now she doesn't have to lol.
All in all I think she is being pretty good at taking this. She must have known for a while. I have had the craziest mood swings I have ever had... smells make me sick, I cant even look at an A & W while driving by...makes me gag haha.
I am just curious. How did everyone's parents find out. Was it eventual or were you brave enough to tell them?
with jaiden, my mom and i were traveling by bus about 8 hrs away, so i got a bunch of parenting magazines (free from my doctors) and was reading them on the bus.. i was hoping she'd clue in that way. on our way home, i was sick and she is like, if your pregnant, im gonna kick ur ass... are you pregnant? i said are u going to kick ym ass, if so, than no. lol
kinda funny. with emma, i just told her she is going to be a gramma again.. she wasnt thrilled or upset.
oh ya and with my dad, well:
jaiden: he disowned me for my pregnancy... kinda rough because i was very heart broken, although he was never there for me.
emma: he was set with adoption or abortion. he did NOT want me to have another baby. he is like "you will be 18 and have two kids, what kind of life is that"
Well I had already been late on my period for about 1 month and a half. I was nautious just about that whole time too and when you have to run to the bathroom to puke at random moments it gets pretty tought to hide. lol Funny thing is I still didn't think I was pregnant. My mom brought it up and asked me if I thought I was pregnant. I lied and said, "No way possible!!" Finally I was pushed into getting tested by bd and somehow I was still in shock when I found out I was in fact pregnant. The next night, or morning like at 3 am, I decided I would tell my mom. She was obviously sleeping. I thought that maybe if I told her while she was sleeping she'd think it was a dream. :roll: haha, I'm not sure what I was thinking. She obviously woke up right away and took a deep breath and said, "okay. Well now we have to find you a doctor. I'll take you tomorrow." And that was it. I think it was because she already suspected it. My dad passed away a while back so I didn't have to deal with that but my older bro is kinda like the adult male figure. I couldn't tell him. My mom did. He didn't even talk to me about the pregnancy until the last month. Every day his eyes were real red from crying at night over it. But he came around and is now a great uncle! :D
i found out i was pregnant in december 1999. i was around 12 weeks already. i was too scared to tell my mum for ages and i waited first till after christmas had passed and then till after new year and then some more just because i xouldn't bring myself to do it. i think i held out till 18 or 19 weeks and i had a huge fight with my mum because she was accusing me of being on drugs becasue i slept all the time and kept being sick.
i stormed off to my room in tears and then my dad phoned my private bedroom number and of course he asked why i was crying and the whole thiing came flooding out. my parents are very traditional (even thought they were never married themselves :roll:) and i had to tell them that i was 16 and halfway through a pregnancy fathered by a 22 year old man.
as soon as i told my dad, he said "i'm coming over now." and drove 75 miles to my house in about 45 minutes. i still hadn't said anything to my mum and when my dad got there i couldn't say anything at all. my dad had to tell her. she then proceeded to drink 5 large vodkas and tried to go for a drive. my dad had to physically restrain her from going outside with her car keys.
once everyone slept on it and got used to the idea though, it wasn't so bad. and when M was born, she was welcomed like any other baby into the family and i felt able to hold my head up. so although it was a bit disasterous at first, it turned out more than ok in the end.
I think my mom suspected it. I told her when I was 6 weeks. My breasts were the first thing to swell up and I think that's what she noticed. I told her while we were out shopping. She was shocked and upset. She stayed that way for about 2 months. She didn't stop talking to me or anything, she was just a little disappointed. I couldn't bring myself to tell my father. My mom told him for me when I was around five months because I couldn't hide it too well anymore. He was upset, but he seemed to have gotten over it quicker than my mom. He didn't have a much time to think about it I guess. Now they are both really looking forward to meeting the baby, especially my mom. She cannot wait. I think she's more in love than I am. I bought her to one of my prenatal appointments and she started crying after she heard the heartbeat. I couldn't believe it. So much has changed. I hear that most parents are way shocked at first, but a lot of them get over it and things start to feel a little more normal. I guess it differs parent to parent.
We told my husband's family first and that was easy. His mom was mad at first becuause we were in a bad place money wise and housing wise. But after she SOON got over that and was ecstatic that she was going to be a gramma. With my mother, I didnt tell her til I was about 5 months along. The reason for that is because she basically takes care of my niece, and I didnt want her to think she'd have to be taking care of my child. Because I would be staying home with her anyway. Finally, once I started to really show I told her. She was like " what? wow.." then she started talking about all the stuff they had from when my niece was little.
when you say that your mom was going to have another child, but doesnt have to. what does that mean? is she making you feel like you wont be able to take care of your child therefore she will mostly be taking care of it? Or is it just the fact that she thinks you're so young ( which youre not) and that it'll be like her own kid?
That just irked me a little bit. I hope she doesnt think that its her child. If she does, then she can carry the baby for 10 months, Right?!??! lol
Me and my mom have a really good relationship .. but i was still scared to come out and say it ..so i planed it out lol. i asked her to get me a pregnancy test and so she did, i took it and it was posotive so i handed it to her and was like "i dont no what it means" :wink: haha sure enough it worked i didnt have to say a thing and she new. she wasnt really upset..cuz she had me when she was 16
It took me a while to get the guts to take the test, I was just scared to find out cuz I was pretty sure already. My friend bought me a test and told me I had to take it. It came back positive but I didnât want to believe it, so I wanted to take a âreal testâ (the store ones test the same way that the ârealâ one I wanted did, it was just denial). I lied to my parents and said I had to stay after school for a study group and went to Planned Parenthood to find out for sure. I lost it when they told me and I cried hard for about 2 hours, then I went home and told them both.
It was hard, I was scared to tell them because I knew they would be mad and disappointed. But I knew I could never hide it from them, I just suck at that sort of thing. And I think they were suspicious of what was going on with me at the time, there was a lot that I wasnât telling them back then.
They handled it as bad as I thought they would, but they made a point even as upset as they were that what happened from there was MY choice and no one elseâs, and that they would support me thru those choices.
My brother's freaked out a lot, they were upset that their baby sister got pregnant....but they got past that too. My family adores my son and has been very supportive overall.
i told my mom. She was actually happy. wierd but i wont complain. its better then getting lectured.
With my son I just "knew" as soon as it happened. I was pretty sure of my cycles (back then) and I knew I was fertile at that time, then the damn condom broke, and I just knew. I had to wait for like 4 weeks to take a test (well, I didn't HAVE to, I chose to) then it was positive as soon as the pee hit the line thingy. Then a few days later my ex took me to Planned Parenthood, got tested again, same result. I had them repeat the test 2 times, which they were really great about and did it, then I started crying. I didn't want to put it up for adoption, I didn't want to have an abortion either, but I didn't want to have to tell my parents that I was pregnant either. I did, and they got over being upset a LOT faster than I thought they would. Well, I thought they were gonna be mad at me for the rest of my life, but they were a little upset for about 15 min, then over the upset part. My mom actually told me then that she was pregnant with my sister when she and my dad got married. I was mad then, I said well why didn't you tell me that before?! I would've been more careful if I'd known that!! At that point in my life (this is NOT accurate, and NOT how I feel now, but it was THEN) I thought that only the "bad" people had kids as teens, because of that "sex ed class" which is a TON of bs, and it makes me mad that they still teach the same bs, and show you movies of teen moms standing in welfare lines with sick babies who cry and puke all the time, and the mom never acts like she loves the baby, and the movies are just horrible. Argh, but I got off topic, I told my parents before they found out, then I told them again when I was pregnant with my second and third (I was married then, so they were happy). I didn't tell them with my 4th, because I was going to have an abortion, and they are so anti-choice it isn't funny, and I didn't want them trying to talk me out of it or saying the hurtful things that anti-choice people say to try and make a woman not have an abortion. I just told them that I needed them to watch the kids so I could get my tubes tied (which is true, I did get my tubes tied), and that it was an outpatient procedure, but that I would need some help the first few days (which I actually didn't, I felt fine the next day). But thats off topic too, they knew before my dad died that I had an abortion, which they actually weren't too bad about. They were actually supportive of it, which SHOCKED me, I doubt they would've been had they known about it before-hand tho.
I told my mom on yahoo messenger...she threatened to call the ppl at planned parenthood and ask them cus she knows a few ladies up there...*they SO wouldnt have told her...* she thought I was kidding with her...but when she realized I wasnt she accepted it..and now shes friggin thrilled!! she cant wait for "her boy" to be born..she never had a son herself...just girls hehe...I think shes been looking forward to being a grandma her whole life??..maybe because she can give him more than she was able to give me and my sister growing up..she was a young momma too...infact..shes the same age i was when she got pregnant...my dad...i was more upset about telling my dad cus i had to tell him over the phone and i started crying and it all came out and hes like "Well why are you upset?" ....lol...he's thrilled now too...
and so are my grandparents :)
My Mom knew..... I was too much like she had been......
My Dad flipped, and told me that I HAD to get married, or my baby would be cursed... :roll:
Bd's Mom....... was pretty stressed.... She's STILL stressed.
Bd's Dad, was pretty calm.. as far as he was concerned, people ahd been having baby's for THOUSANDS of years.