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so i think i've finally decided that i want to pursue a career as a veterinarian, more specifically i'd like to work with large cats in a sanctuary or rehabilitation center someday.

going to school to become a vet would take around 8-12 years, and i was wondering if there are any other mamas out there that have pursued a career that takes quite a bit of time being a student? did it effect your relationship with your kids being in school? were you able to do summer internships/summer semesters? how did you handle the summer internships/semesters if your kids were/are in school, but had that summer off?

i have more questions, but can't think of them right now. i'd really like to do this, but i'm wondering how things will turn out because i wouldn't finish school until my daughter was around 9-13 years old. also, while my dh is supportive of me going to school, i'll have to work too for us to make ends meet. did any mamas do/doing an extended study in college while working full/part time? do you feel that being a full time student and full time worker would be too much time away from my daughter?

any tips/advice/personal experience that anyone has would be much appreciated. thanks!

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I started off going to school to become a vet, but ended up switching majors the beginning of my sophomore year. The school I attended had an excellent pre-vet program. We got to work with animals from day 1. But, they also told us that we had to have a 4.0 to even think about getting into vet school...and I just didn't have the discipline to do that.

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I'm not a parent, but I work full time and attend law school part time at night. I take one or two less classes then the full-time students and I have to take summers, it is pretty tough, even w/o having a kiddo at home to worry about.

When I get home I'm usually really tired and on the weekend I have to study. But, I think part-time work, part-time school is really doable. I'd say try to find a way that you can work only like 20 hours/week.

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Awesome! That's great!

I started college when Lyric was 2.5 years old. I started at a community college and got my associates in graphic design. She was in daycare during the day and I was still with BD at the time, he watched her the nights I had night class (once a week) ... over the summer, she was still in daycare.

Now, I am starting UND in the fall. I will probably go into majoring in English and/or Sociology, minor in Women's Studies and probably apply my graphic design degree into a minor in art. She starts K in the fall. I am going to get my master's degree after that, too. So, for now I have been in college for 3 years ... and probably have another 6 left. who knows? The preschool she is in has a great after school program for after K and then on, they also have openings in the summer when she is done w/ school ... check those things off.

I think more cities/towns realize there are more mothers, parents, single mothers etc wanting to go to college - so I think they have more options available.

Good luck!

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I agree with the PP. Although when I was in college, I wasnt a mother yet. I know it was difficualt juggling that and a job. But as long as youre dedicated, and work things out so they all fit together, you should be fine. I am going back to school in September. And I will be in your situation then..

i wish you good luck...

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Have you ever gone to college before? If so what was it like for you then? If not can you see if there are other parents in the program you want to get into? Or atleast other students to talk too to see what it is like for them?

I have been in school since before DS was a year. I went back full time and completed my BA in two years (I had two years in before that) working full time. I won't lie that it was hard. I put in 35-40 hours in three days at work to make sure I could work as much as possible and yet still have time for school. I was in a masters program part time due to my full time day job (and part time night job) and it was really hard. I had a hard time getting in all my reading when you factored in work and the kiddo (many nights were spent behind the bar working and trying to read for school). I still have another three years when I go back in August!

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thanks everyone for your input.

i have a year of college done, but during that time i was going to portland state university, and my parents paid for my school and housing, so i didn't have to worry about financial stuff.
i'm trying to assume responsibility for myself now, but my dh and parents are very supportive of my choices. and i'll be going to a local community college to finish off my general ed. before transferring to (hopefully) uc davis, which has an awesome vet. program. i'm hoping i can get everything together and do this.

a few more questions: did anyone breastfeed while in school? i'm hoping to continue bf'ing, but my daughter is refusing bottles when i pump.

and did anyone use daycares that were located on their campus? were the waiting lists as long as other places? and did you feel comfortable with students taking care of your kids?

and has anyone been able to pull off full time school, full time work, and full time mommy? or does work or school usually have to become part time?

again, any input is appreciated. thanks!

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and has anyone been able to pull off full time school, full time work, and full time mommy? or does work or school usually have to become part time?

right now I'm a fulltime student, fulltime mom, and I work a fulltime and part time job.

It can be done. And I wish you all the luck in pursuing what YOU want to do.

I started in college when my daughter was 6 WEEKS old. I graduated when she was 3. Started again when she was 4.5 and now that she is 5.5 I'm doing the above. I have a wonderfully supportive family in my husband and mom and dad, and probably wouldn't be able to do what I'm doing with out them, but it is possible to do it.

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la petite monster wrote:
so i think i've finally decided that i want to pursue a career as a veterinarian[...]

HAHAHA--I'm not wearing my glasses, so i read this as "so i think I've finally decided that I want to purse a career as a vegetarian" Yeah, no glass+no sleep=not very bright Kristin :shock:

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My daughter went to daycare on campus starting when she was 6 wks old. There was at least 1 non-student in each classroom and I honestly didn't have any problem with students watching her. It was a very secure place with a code to get into the daycare building and you had to sign your child in and out. They actually were part of an inter-generational program on campus and the children and toddlers (not the babies) got to go visit a retirement/nursing home next door several times/week. I loved the program!

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Congrats on your decision! Here is a bit about what I did: I worked as a nanny several semesters while I was in school so I could stay with my daughter. I breastfeed her first year and was also in school that time. I supplemented one bottle/day and would pump and arrange my courses so she could nurse. I'm sure she could learn to take a bottle. I mostly took full time night courses when she was a baby and worked during the day.
The best childcare situation I have found is other mothers and wives of full time grad/phd students. My daughter could go play with her friends while I was in class, it was very affordable, AND not more than 15 hrs/week. You can also trade a certain number of hrs/week to make it more affordable.
I also went to a public school with really good financial aid so that I wouldn't have to work- I took out a few loans but received virtually all I needed through grants. It didn't make any sense for me to graduate until I'd maxxed out the amount of aid I could get as an undergrad so I took that route.
We also lived on campus and that was very helpful, rent is cheaper. The college run childcare centers have non student teachers with student aides as well. The preschool my daughter currently goes to has like a one year wait list BUT it has openings in the summer so I got her in then and she was automatically in for the fall.
Since you know you want to get a graduate degree it would make a lot of sense to work really hard on your undergrad so you can get more help later- that way you don't really have to work. I would definitely look into schools with good financial aid so you wouldn't have to work as much as could concentrate on being a mommy and student more.
Good luck with everything!

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Also, you may be eligible for work study (I have been most semesters) and there are jobs on campus that you can work. Also, more larger colleges/universities have on-site daycares - even after they're out of school.

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thanks again everyone!
i'm looking into work study programs that are offered, and found out that the school i'll be going to is pretty supportive of nursing mothers and has "lactation stations" on campus. it also seems that at this school that more older women, once stay at home moms, are going back for an education, so i hope i wont feel singled out as a young mama.
i'm a little nervous about wanting to do so much, but so excited at the same time.
thanks again!

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look into loans. i found out that if i take out max loans and worked part time gong to school full time i came out making almost twice the money o would have just doing a job job. the only thing is YOU MUST GRADUATE or you end up stuck with the loans and no higher earning potential.

being a student and mom works out better for me and i find that i like keeping my son in daycare during the summer so he doesn't have his routines all messed up.

just got married but that schedual worked well single too.

congratulations on making some big decisions. love that time in life when you make big changes. so exciting.