Ever since I have been pregnant my doctor has been giving me an extremely hard time about my weight gain. The first couple months I didn't gain any weight, but then in month 4-5 I gained about 5lbs.
Since then, I've gained about 7lbs, then in my last check up I gained 10.
I realize this is more than what the guidelines are, but I also started working out after I got pregnant, which gives you muscle mass. I eat very healthy, healthier than I have since I was vegetarian, but I still seem to gain a lot of weight. This past month though I've only gained 2 lbs so that's a relief.
Anyway, back to my point, I just get so frustrated that she puts me through hell about my weight gain. My last two apt's I ended up crying in the office because she made me feel so bad about myself. She says things like "if you eat for two people, you're gonna look like three people" and "that is WAY TOO MUCH to gain" and she purposely bugs out her eyes when she looks at my weight on the sheet. I try to prepare myself and stick up for myself each time I go in, but after she says something I get so emotional. My mom says if she says anything next time, she's kicking her ass. LOL.
Does anyone else have this problem, and do you think she should be doing this?
you should go get a diff doc asap that is not acceptable. she can politly tell u to watch your weight but doing things like that are un called for Im so sorry she is treting u this way.
Your weight gain sounds fine to me, and your doctor sounds like a total jerk.
Honestly, I gained 70lbs when I was pregnant. and I DIDNT look like three people. I was back in my normal pants within a few months. And my doctors NEVER freaked otu about my weight gain.
I hate this "average" bullshit. How hard is it for doctors to accept that everyone is friggen different, and has individual characteristics. Like maybe some women gain 25-35lbs....some may gain 70. Some may only gain 15. A good doctor would realize that.
Change doctors....it sounds like your doctors 1. Trying to antagonize you, or 2. Just plain dumb.
get a new doctor! she sounds like a crappy person!
were you underweight before?
I think before you switch doctors you should tell her why. I'm not excusing her behavior but maybe she doesn't realize its rude or something so you should tell her when you switch.
I'm sorry she is being a jerk and I hope you are able to find a better doctor!
Get a different doctor. I gained fifty pounds during my pregnancy.
I do not know where you live, but have you considered West Suburban Midwife? They are in Oak Park, which a smidge west of the city. That is where I went, and I would strongly recommend them. They take public aid, if you are on that.
Is there an office manager? I agree with finding a different doctor, but I also think you should place a complaint that way they know why you switched. I doubt your the only one she is making feel crappy about their weight gain. Hopefully, if she realizes what she is doing she can make some changes but I still think you should find a doctor that respects you and your choices. Also someone that won't make you feel shitty about them. Because if she will make you feel like this over weight imagine how you will feel giving birth with her in the room.
I didnt gain alot either. My doctor gave me alittle trouble but no where near the point to making me cry. Desipte the lack or weight gain my daughter was a healthy baby born at a good weight. If your eating healthy then there shouldnt be a problem.
I agree with everyone else get a new doctor.
You should get a new doctor but if you can not you should definitly tell her that you dont want her talking to you like that. with gabriel i gained almost 100 lbs! but i lost most of it in like 7 months and my doc was just like oh your gaining alot weight and i was like yea... that was the end of it. as long as you feel fine then dont worry about anything!
I had a prenatal on Monday and I gained almost 8 lbs in the last 4 weeks.
My Doc didn't say anything.
It happens!
Get a new Doc, seriously.
I switched twice already because the previous docs said stuff that wasn't in line with my beliefs.
I'd switch doctors, as well ... everyone's different in weight gain ... and the way he is treating you isn't cool at all.
My daughter's friend's mom is pregnant and she is due July 4th and has gained 17 pounds & he wants her to gain 10 more pounds ... who knows?
I'm with pp, in that I would consider switching Dr's.
My Dr. was worried about my weight gain, in the beginning because I had lost weight.... HELLO STRESS.....
So I was a bit behind the mark, along with being under weight to begin with...
Then I put on 10lbs in May, and 10lbs in June....
So I ended up fine..... and let me tell you, when I got on the scale in July.... I could see him HOPING I hadn't put on another 10lbs, which I hadn't.......
Everyone is different..... and while it is their job to help you stay healthy, it's not their job to be-little you, discourage you, or guilt you.... that is completely unacceptable.
Oh, and I want to add, that I switched Dr's. in my pregnancy too... I had had a woman Dr... the only one in town, and I felt like she was rushing me through appts.... and not making me feel better about concerns I had.... so I switched to a male dr, and I loved him!!!! I still do!!!!!!!
I want to switch doctors, but I don't think my parents would support that decision and I can't really talk them into it. My mom doesn't agree with my doctor, but she thinks I've "already gone this far" blah blah blah.
If I had the choice, I really would switch doctors though. Especially since last friday I was in the emergency room because the fetus hadn't been moving frequently in about two and a half days. Everything turned out okay, except that the heartbeat dropped twice to 90. My dr was informed, but she has still yet to call me and ask if I'm doing alright which kinda ticks me off.
Why isn't it your choice whether or not you switch doctors? Is there a reason that you need your parents consent? There is no time that's too late to switch healthcare providers if you're not comfortable with your current one. (I moved halfway across the country when I was about eight and a half months along, and it turned out fine.)
i agree with momto be19 u need to change doctor
I'm with Hilary.
If she can't be bothered to call you (which I might add also brings back memories) and you feel uncomfortable, your parents should be more then supportive.
Have you talked to them about it... aside from just bringing up the weight.... or along side it?
You REALLY need to have a health care provider that you are comfortable with.... I switched right after my first 10lbs.... so end of May....
So I had June, July, August, and had my baby in September....
There will be a Dr. more then happy to help you, regardless of what month you are in!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Really, it's entirely your choice, it's your pregnancy.
a good birth expereince is nice, but a bad bad one can leave you feeling traumatized for a long time. sounds like this inconsiderate shitty doctor might not be very good to you while you're giving birth. would your parents understand that if you brought that up?
are your parents paying out of pocket for this doctor? if you have medicaid or insurance where they're not paying they can't say a damn thing. i can see how there might be some difficulty if they're paying the bills. it shouldn't be but i can understand how it could be a practical concern.
Yeah, my parents are paying for it and that's why it would be hard for me.
I haven't actually pushed it with my mom or anything yet, so I've decided I'm going to today. My mom is usually a very understanding person so hopefully if I really explain it to her she'll understand.
Good Luck, I'm sure if you explain your concern, she will be more then understanding.