im glad he stuck around but thats not right for everyone. i have a friend whos bd stuck around but probably shouldn't of. i also have a friend whos bd didn't stick around and it obviously was for the better. your support group whether its a bd, family, friends, or a website like this is whats going to matter most in your life. i try to be strong for my family but it doesn't always happen that way. i have days where i just get so frustrated that i try to imagine what life would have been like if i never had gotten pregnant. don't get me wrong i would never go back and change things even if i could. but it would have been nice to have a normal teenage life. but thats not how it happened. ive had to teach myself to always look forward and not dwell in the past
yeah, that's what predicament i'm in... keep my baby and dedicate my life mostly to my own family... or to have a normal teenage life... but at the end of the day don't most people plan to have kids in the future? I mean yeah teenagers can go out clubbing and to college and so on but so can parents but it's a lot harder right?
thats the way i see it. my husband and i still go out. you just have to find a babysitter and its not nearly as much as if you were a "normal teenager". i went through all the stuff you're thinking about. your option that you have for your pregnancy are yours and you have to do whats right for you. mine just happened to be to carry my pregnancy thru and then raise my child. but thats not right for everyone. and the way i see it, and this is just my opinion, is that i wanted kids but not til i was a lot older but at least now when my sons are teenagers i can still remember what theyre going thru bc im not that far off from there. also it sometimes seems like i have the energy that i wouldn't have if i had waited bc im so young. . . i dunno maybe its my mind tricking me so ill keep going even when im dead tired!
hey again, you think the same way i do. I was going to post about being younger and more energetic for my children if i have them young but didnt know if any older mothers might be offended by it. Well for anyone interested Im keeping my baby, i told BD that i would love him to stick around but either way this baby is coming into the world. I had to go to casualty last night and spent the night in hospital. I started bleeding and thought i was miscarrying... turned out it was a threatened miscarriage but the blood coming away isnt affecting my pregnancy i was told. It really opened my eyes to how much i want this baby and i know i can do this. I have another scan in a weeks time... i was told i was 9 weeks pregnant but im only 6. Baby's heart is a bit faint but i'll find out more in a week. Thanks to everyone here i havent made the biggest mistake that i would later regret so thanks :)
hey my name is lauren and im a 21 year old mom to emily who is three. I got pregnant at 17 and was in labor for my 18th birthday. you do what YOU want to do. It isnt your boyfriend's or boyfriend's parents decision. You can do anything you put your mind to, as corny as that sounds.
Good luck and pm me if you need anything.
hiya lauren.. Yeah i've made my mind up... if this threatened miscarriage doesnt turn into a complete one i'm bringing my baby up with or without my bd help :)
ive had a miscarrige it was a late one at 15 weeks and then i got pregnant with my son aidan like a month later. then at 15 weeks again i started bleeding. i was so scared i thought i was gonna lose another one. but it was just a threatened one. like yours. and i carried aidan to full term, i even had to be induced with him. so everything will be fine. im glad you made your decision. i know its hard without bd. mine was around the whole first year because my parents wouldn't let him be around. but you know, parenting is just hard period with or with out 2 parents. its a lot of work. but the love they bring you is so worth it
dont mean this as in im glad it happened to you... but im glad someone else has actually bled like this cos as you can imagine im really worried. i have my next scan a week today to see if baby is still there or not. I'm hopeful though it really has opened my eyes to how much i want to be a mother. I don't actually know you but i envy you. Sounds like you made a fairytale come true and it gives me hope and im sure it will give other girls hope. BD may stick around but if not then i will do it alone. life aint easy whatever decisions you make.. i think being a mum now is my calling :)
aww im just glad to help. i feel so empowered beinga a young mom, i feel like i broke the stereotype of teen moms and i just feel like id like to help as many girls in my situation as i can. and i totally understand what you mean. when i went thru my miscarrige my mom was right there and she totally understood because she had a stillborn in between me and my brother. and then when i started bleeding with aidan i was so scared but like i understood because i had been there before just a few months earlier. i think i had 6 ultrasounds with aidan to monitor his condition plus he was born with club feet. which we found out when i was 6 months pregnant. like i said if you ever need anything im here.
cheers hun you really have given me hope.. i have no doubts now it's time for me to be a mummy :) what better achievement is there :) Aww that must have been awful... a still born must be like a million times worse than a miscarriage :( well it sounds like u have a close caring family and with that situations become bareable dont they. Hopefully after i have my baby and get used to motherhood i can help other girls... only been 6 weeks and so many emotions have travelled through me.. helps to have somebody to talk to
ya i know that feeling. i was so upset when i found out i was pregnant and then i felt ian kick and that was all it took for me to straighten up and realize that i was just caring for myself anymore but also a baby growing inside me. thats a hard lesson to learn and 14 going on 15. but now my oldest is almost 4 and its like wow! where did the time go. the only regret i have is not trying harder to let my husband be there more in the beginning. my parents forbid him from being around but still. . . i know that no matter what i did it took my mom realize my stepdad wasn't a good guy at all for her to wake up and realize that she just wasn't keeping her daughter from some guy but also a child from his father. me and my mom were close now but when i was like 13 until like 16 we were far from close.
and just wait the next 44 wks are going to fly by. if you ever need some1 to ask questions or just vent to go to my profile and get my email and email me or is you aim i have a screen name there to. im here. if theres one thing ive really learned is that to rely on those who really care for you and have your best interests at heart not their own alterior motives
thanks... :( i dont know if its too late. This morning ive passed some clots in the blood and i have like bad period pains. im not sure if it means that the miscarriage is happening or not. It's typical because i got a call last night from bd saying his family want to talk to me about supporting me as they know my mind is made up. I must be the most unlucky person in this world. I hope i havent lost my baby but the chances are that i have :(
gh. I'm so sorry you'e going through this. No matter waht happens, just rememebr to keep strong, ok? *hugs*
im so sorry let me know what happens. you don't have bad luck. most of the time when you miscarry its because there was something wrong with the fetus. so bad that it wouldn't have been able to function in the outside world. when i had my the whole bottom half wasn't formed. no legs, or genitalia. so as hard as it is sometimes its for the better. i know that as much as i wanted to have that baby that it was better that i didn't because it wouldn't of been able to survive anyway
but anyways sweetie let me know how everything goes
:'( I miscarried... Bleeding badly at the minute... a huge clot came out when i wiped and i paniced and broke out in hysterics... I'm i n bits all this stress and i feel its my fault.. i should have been stronger from the beginning and now it's gone. I knew it was gonna happen as soon as i started bleeding. Guess all the time on here and then deciding to keep it... soon as i get strong enough to stand up for my body and what i wanted.. this happens. Life just doesn't want to work out for me. Thanks to you all for your help though and good luck to everyone else xx
You didn't do this. It's not your fault. Almost every woman I know with grown up kiddos has had at least one miscarriage. I am sorry for your loss.
it isn't your fault adcaela is right. ive had a miscarrige. i know it hurts because right after you make you mind up, you miscarry. im so sorry
this so not your fault, and you're welcome to stick around here if you need to proscess this in a place where people will understand howmuch you wanted to be a parent. nobody here will tell you "it's for the best" we'll also understand if you need to not be in communiationwith so many pregnant mammas.
i hope that you can maybe find a way to talk to someone about this. i had a mc in High school too and it's just so damn hard.
thanks... i think i will be ok... just got to sort my life out. I feel so lost and awful.. everytime i go to toilet theres bits of clots n just makes me want to cry