this came up in a previous thread but since it wasn't really about that and some of the conflicts in that thread seemed to be reaching a resolution so a new thread seemed better.
i think that being a SAHM is a real job. i did it for almost a year and do it in stints between semesters and when i take a semester off. it is the hardest job i've ever done. it requires work and lots of it. keeping a house clean behind a toddler left me exhausted but the part where i had to use my brain and creativity was keeping the kid entertained. i had to figure out what would keep a small kid happy, learning, and healthy all while managing a house on a shoestring budget. I'll admit it was easy before he was walking he was just in the sling and content to look at the world.
when i hear people saying that full time, in home parenting is boring i can sympathize. it can be isolating and much as i love my son, he's not much conversation and he's got terrible taste in music and movies (Thomas the Train anyone?!) but when i hear people saying it's not much work i have to wonder what they're doing? maybe i am jut not good at it? i'm willing to concede that some people may find being a SAHM "easy" as some people find being a lawyer "easy" but how do you define bathing, educating, potty training, cooking, and cleaning as not much work?
not exactly offended but i am curious as i have always taken it for granted that caring for kids in the home is a valid carrier choice that ought to be valued more than it is. really am looking for different perspectives on this.
weather or not it's a "right" is maybe debatable but it's clear to me that being a SAHM is definitely a valuable and difficult job.