I dont know what to do,but i know i want to do SOMETHING,fuck ANYTHING.I feel so fukn helpless and my heart is literally breaking just thinking about my little cousin Alex.Heres why....
My cousin Alex lives in Mexico.Hes 3 years old(I think).I've never met him,but I've seen pictures of him.The reason I feel so helpless is because I cant do anything for him.I wish I could go to Mexicali and bring him over here(that can easily be done...a "coyote" can handle that, i dont know how u guys feel about illegal immigrants but i would not have ne problem bringing him here "illegally"for his safety)My aunt is wut ummm 27?im not sure.But she USED to take care of him,but now well she cant.Shes involved in drugs,and they have NO MONEY.I dont know what she does for food because i know that she has no electricity and other things.I think my mom says that a neighbor feeds her and Alex everyday because she was a friend of her daughters that passed away.Neways it fukn breaks my heart to know that my little cousin is over there going through and seeing who knows wut.It makes me cry,and it makes me angry.But my aunt has never really taken care of her kids, she has 2 older girls besides Alex.She does in the beginning but she isnt capable of taking care of them after a while.She used to have heart attacks when she was younger,i dont know exactly why because i havent asked,so my mom thinks that it affected her ability do think "normally"and to be an adult.My aunts not a bad person,but its just that shes been through so much in her life that she isnt able to handle everything.My grandma is taking care of one of the older girls,and the other one well...i cant get into her because its way to complicated.But i just wish that I could do something for my little cousin.I wish I was already settled with a good job and an apartment,instead of here living with my parents and sleeping on a sofa bed,i wish that i could take him and take care of him.it wouldnt matter to me that i would be a single mom of 3 kids,what matters to me is that my cousin is safe and not going through shit he shouldnt have to go through.AGGHHHH!i hate this,not being able to do anything for him or even to be able to see him and help him out just a little.its so hard to send things over there because everyone steals things,and i mean can u blame them?with all the poverty they have over there,stealing=food on the fukn table.so we havent been able to send money or clothes unless a family member visits.my grandma is going tomorrow and staying for a week.they might put her in an institution,but then where would that leave Alex?the government would take him but shit the government over there is even more corrupted than our government.The orphan kids over here have it a lot better than the kids in mexico.that government,shit that whole fukn place stinks when it comes down to helping people.I dont even think that it has a program like we have here,welfare.cuz it would help a whole lot.but fuck fuck fuck i fukn hate this!!!!!!!!!!i dont usually like to think about him or my aunt because it depresses me so much but i cant help it,i have a heart,and my heart is telling me DO SOMETHING.i just dont know what!!!!!!!!!!!??????????i want him,i want him i really do,and i wish i could be his "mother" but i cant right now.im still trying to finish going to school,if only i was older.shit i know its not my responsibilty but i feel so obligated to have him,its not obligation though its its i dont know its my conscience telling me.i wish so much i could help,but what could i do???????
AGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!i just had to let out a scream and tears and get all this shit out.thank u for listening.i fukn hate having to think bout this when ive got other shit in my head frm bd-but hes my fam and i love him so i dont mind the added stress.:(
I don't have any advice or anything, but hopefully something works out and the kid gets the care and love he deserves. I hate feeling helpless, too.
Firstly I admire your lack of judgement regarding your aunts problems and I greatly admire your compassion for your cousin.
Would your aunt consent to you looking after your little cousin?
Because if you can do it, get him where you are, then by all means go for it.
It is a courageous and beautiful thing to do to reach out and do what you can to help him.
You know what I think about "illegal" immigrants?
I believe no one is illegal, a cliche I know, but so true.
This child deserves to be cared for, looked after.
Best of luck.
hey
my only advice to you is slightly second hand. See, my mom has worked as a student attorney in an Immigration Clinic, giving free legal services to those wishing to immigrate to the states. If you do get a coyote to bring him in...BE CAREFUL! I've heard too many horror stories about really horrible border crossings. Would you cross with him? I'm assuming you would, but that could just be an assumption on my part. And, if you do bring him over here, I would urge you to get him citizenship as soon as possible. For one, its sooooo much easier for minors to get citizenship (though you might have problems, if he has no legal guardian), and also, I've lived in the South West my entire life, and though I don't know from first hand experience, but I think it would suck to be an illegal immigrant. No rights, and unfortunately, there are lots of people out there willing to exploit them.
Maybe I got a little to preachy there, and all the advice I'm giving you is second or third-hand, so, I'm not sure if I have any right to give it, but...for what its worth...good luck and good for you for lookin out for your cousin.
and also word to maja's no one's "illegal"
borders are shit, in my opinion.
Immigrants get caught ALL the time when they're coming over the mountains, either by Border Patrol or the military. When we went to Ramsey Canyon, we would find clothing lying on the path that a Mexican had left there when they changed clothes, and we would find gallons of water left for them to drink that we would have to confiscate and bring in.
I heard a rumor that the Coyotes tell the immigrants they can go to the right, but they might get caught by Border Patrol. Or they can go to the left, but they may get caught by the military. They have to choose one or the other because there isn't any other way to get into the U.S.
One day when my husband was shooting on the range, a family of immigrants came over the hill. My husband and the other soldiers wound up holding them at gunpoint while someone fetched Border Patrol. A little extreme since the immigrants already knew they were caught. I wonder why they didn't hear the gunshots? It's hard not to hear an M16.
When I lived in my other house, I would frequently have bags of garbage left in my backyard from immigrants passing through. I also had a pit of ashes back there where they used to light a fire. I had two large bushes in the back, which is why I think they stopped there. It's very hard to be seen between them.
What I'm trying to say is that going the Coyote route is a very risky, very difficult way of getting your cousin into the U.S. The chances of being caught are HUGE! If you cross the border with him, make sure you have proof of your American citizenship (S.S. card and birth certificate) or they'll send you back to Mexico with your cousin. Is there an attorney you can speak to in order to find out the best way to go about getting custody of your cousin? That may be the best route if they can help you.
Why did you have to confiscate the water?
u guys want to know something?for a kid my cousins age it is so EASY to get him across the border.:)(ex:papers from another kid his same age) the coyotes that i know of are ones that dont take those routes that are dangerous.they go right next to the border patrol,they talk to them and they have no clue that the kid they are bringing through is "illegal".do i make sense?neways thanks for replying u guys! it is just breaking my heart,my grandma left yesterday night to mexicali so she said shed call when she knew wut was up.my little cousin isnt even registered in mexico.my aunt never did it.so its basically like he doesnt even exist to the government.i guess.if we were to bring him over here,we would definetly fix his papers and make him a citizen-that is the plan if he were to come over here.:)we know wut its like for illegal immigrants-its hella hard to get a job here that pays decent if u dont have papers.
Good luck, please stay safe.
I'll be hoping for the best for you and your cousin.
I'm sorry you're going through this. It does suck to feel helpless. Just be careful.
I hope everything works out for you and your cousin. It sucks to feel so helpless, I hope you can help him. Let us know what happens.
best of luck, girl!
I'm really sorry that this is happening! I don't know what you can do but I deffinately admire your courage and compassion for someone who you've never even met! Good luck!