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So about a week and a half ago Eric started wearing underwear. He has been doing, in my opinion, very well. Obviously he has had accidents, and he has pooped in his underwear a few times, but usually he stays dry all day. I don't know, is that good? My parents don't seem to think so. My mom is constantly on me about how he is not doing well enough and its somehow my fault, because I am lazy. And then every time Eric does have an accident my dad tells me he isn't ready and that I should put a pull up on him. And when he has watched him, he'll change Eric into a pull up right away. He came out and told me that he did it because he doesn't think Eric is ready and he didn't want to deal with an accident. I asked him not to do it, but he did it again. I don't know how to get it across to him that he is going to have accidents and putting him in a pull up isn't going to get him any closer to being potty trained. It just sucks because either thing I do someone is pissed at me, if I put him in pull ups my mom thinks I'm being lazy but if I don't my dad thinks that Eric isn't ready and feels that it is his place to step in and put a pull up on.

Another thing that is kind of a problem, or maybe not, I really don't know but Eric usually doesn't ask to go potty. He goes when I put him on the toilet but he hasn't asked to go, except for a few times. He's going to be three really soon, so isn't that when they are supposed to be able to know when they have to go? Or should I just give it more time and he will start to know what it feels like.

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I'm not to potty training yet, so I don't really know the answers, but I wanted to make sure you got a reply. That seems like a frustrating mix with your parents.

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Every child is different. Some train by two. Some not until after 3.

Andrew has been wearing underwear during the day for the past 4 weeks.
Diapers at night just incase he pees. If he stays dry every night for the next few weeks ill probablly switch to underwear all the time.

He used to not tell me when he had to go. Id say ok potty time like every 15-30 minutes depending on what he ate or drank and when. Dont ask cause hell probably say i dont have to go. Andrew did that. Now hell run to the bathroom when he has to pee.

The thing is if your father is putting him in pull ups and your putting him in underwear he is going to get confused. Hell think okay i can pee in both of these. You need to tell your dad that he is going to confuse him. If he keeps doing that eric will probablly train slower.

Accidents happen. I hate when andrew has one but hey shit happens. clean it.

He still wont poop EVERY time on the potty. I think its a relaxation thing. He hates sitting there. So i gotta find a toy or game or a book he cant put down so he can use it for poopy time. Other then that no pee accidents.

Its trial and error for each kid but dont worry its fustrating i know but the time will come. Plus youll start to learn his routine. i know now that andrews time to usually poop on a regular day is between 5:30-6pm.

Also if you notice eric grab his butt or penis, he probably has to go. I can tell when andrew has to poop. He grabs at his butt :) lol

Good luck and ask any questions youd like.

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Like I told you before, DS was closer to 3.5 then 3 when he was finally potty trained. He did not do well when we tried him closer to three. He sounded a lot like Eric, he went when I put him on there but he never went on his own. He was also easily distracted, if he got too into playing or watching TV he had an accident. Honestly it was more trouble then it was worth at the time. We went through a lot of laundry and a lot of my patience.

When he was ready it was a easy transition. He told me when he had to go! I reminded him sometimes (like when he was watching TV or playing a game) to go but other then that he went all on his own. The first time he ran down the hallway screaming "I GOTTA POOP!" was hilarious but also good in the sense he knew when he had to go. Maybe Eric just isn't ready. A lot of my friends and my parents said he should already be potty trained. It made me stress it which also made DS stress over it. The more upset my parents got or I got the harder it was for DS. So maybe he just isn't ready. Could you give him a few more months? I know some people bribe their kids into being potty trained (and what mother hasn't bribed their kid at one point or another? seriously whatever gets the job done!) but we didn't even have to do that this time. PM me if you wanna talk more about it, or vent about poop in underware hahaha.

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I remember getting pressured all the time about Katie not being potty trained yet. She just wasn't interested and didn't tell me when she had to go or anything. She finally just "got it" when she was a few months past 3 years old.

How about just removing all pull-ups from the house? If they're not there, then grampa can't put them on him. Since it sounds like he's just having a few accidents, I'd be tempted to stick with the underwear.

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I wouldn't use the pull up. Don't even have one around. We couldn't use one because they were so close to diapers that Ian just used them like one. I tried potty training Ian before he turned 2 but you could tell he just wasn't ready. And then he started showing signs he was. Like peeing when I put him on there, telling me he pooped in his diaper and wanting out of it asap! And then he just all of a sudden started going when he had too instead of when I made him, and pooping took awhile after. He would not poop on the potty for anything! Then he did and that took some practice and shortly after that he stopped going during the night. He was just 2 months past 2 but I think thats early for kids! I think they just have to be ready. It's sooo much easier when they're comfortable with it then when we want them too. I wouldn't worry too much about his age, there is such a wide range for potty training. It all depends on the kids. Good luck!

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Hows the potty training coming?

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It's going pretty well, he started telling me when he has to go poop and pee which is great! He still has a few accidents but they seem to be getting less. My mom asked him how he could tell if he had to poop or pee and he said that when he has to pee his penis goes up and when he has to poop he feels a bubble in his butt. LOL I thought that was hilarious!