i am very interested in this topic, especially after a workshop i took on it at the mama gathering left me not fulfilled and educated, but disgruntled and frustrated. apparently, i can really only learn or relate to mamas who not totally privileged, but thats besides the point.
i don't claim to know the answers to this area of motherhood, and i am very interested in what your thoughts are in this issue. so i guess i'll just ask you all some questions, that will hopefully start some sort of dialogue.
what is your idea of feminism?
to me, its roots lie in the empowerment of women, but it branches off into many other areas and sub-areas. so basically, to ME, a feminist boy would be someone who understood and respected the issues that women face, and worked to use his inherent privilege to further women's issues. ....or something like that (i'm still trying to get my head around this).
what do you think of boys who are in a stage where they are basically living out the stereotypical male attitudes?
i tried really, really hard to get noah to be this non-gendered person. i didn't buy into stereotypes, i encouraged him to be an individual, and not a gender, and it was going so well for a while. but now that he's 3, he is obsessed with anything that has to do with being "strong," and "tough," and "powerful." superheros, SPIDERMAN, fighting, spaceships and adventures, and more, are pretty much the only thing he cares about. its like watching the boy i thought i was raising to be my kid, turn into this creature from the planet stereotypical jerkie boy. awful.
what are your ideas on how we can allow our kids to feel proud of who they are, including allowing our boys to be proud of their "male"ness instead of shaming them by throwing their privilege back in their faces?
at the workshop, people mentioned letting your boys let out their inherent aggression in healthy ways, like through crafts or sports, but there must be more ways than just that.
it really troubles me how much my kid has morphed into the stereotypical boy, despite my best efforts to raise him in a more conscientious way. i don't have a male partner, so i'm sol there, so please don't advise me to let him hang out with nice guys to learn how to be a nice guy (like they even exist).