would you have sex on the first date?

Well, I have almost alwats ended up having sex on the first date. I'm not saying it's right or wrong...it just always seems to happen. :oops:

if you feel that comfortable with someone right away and you want to then why not

I don't see anything wrong with it. Just be safe and wrap it up.

I agree. Condoms are a must and I think that it's a good thing to ask about STDs and talk about what would happen if you became pregnant before you have sex with someone.

I do think, though, that waiting can make it even better when it does happen. I usually end up having sex right away but when I don't, the feeling of anticipation is amazing. I also think that for me, personally, getting to know someone before I have sex with them creates a stronger connection between us once we do have sex than otherwise. It makes me think of them as a person I'd like to get to know better rather than "OMG I want to have sex NOW."

I don't see anything wrong with it either, just be safe.

i used to sleep with people on the first date.
and then i did that, used protection, and still got pregnant.

i'm not saying that it's a bad thing to do it, because clearly i did it for years.
but i will never, ever do it again.

in fact, i'm never sleeping with someone i'm not in a serious relationship with ever again.

clearly, i've had some real problems with my BD.

I think it varies person to person and it should. I wouldn't tell anyone to sleep with someone on the first date, but I wouldn't tell anyone to sleep with someone period. It's their body and choice adn whether a person just wants one night or a relationship it's completely up to them.

I'm just going to throw it out there that I'm a little concerned. Just given all of your recent posts and such, you seem a little insecure and like you're jumping into something because you feel like you need it.

Be safe, okay?

I feel the same way.

If you are not sure, I wouldnt do it. You can always do it later if you want to. Be careful. ARe you meeting in a public place... I get paranoid with people meeting from the internet. Keep us updated

Ok, that sounds safe! If you are unsure then I would wait. There is always time in the future to have sex, don't feel like you have to do it right away! Like Erika said, sometimes its better when there is anticipation and a strong connection. And people can be way different in real life than online. Have fun!

I have had sex ona first date, but I think if my parents were there it would make it a little awkward. :wink:

Really though, I think it depends on the person. By the end of the date I usually know if I will sleep with them or not, or if the date was just an excuse to get to the sex. :lol:

I kinda have a policy not to do it becuase I find the sex akward a bit. I find the sex SO much better as the comfort level rises so waiting is better for me.

Often times I later think it might not have been the RIGHT thing to do, but I do it.

I agree with revolt. If you're not sure, don't. You can always put it off til later, but once it's done you can't take it back if you regret it, so it's better to be sure first. Good luck with whatever you decide!

I have been known to have sex the day i meet someone. With my fiance we waited until we knew that we loved each other. And I am glad that we did becuse it was the best I ever had.

sex is awesome. feel free to do what feels right. i dont have sex on the first date, one you dont know anything about their sexual history. plus. i think for me, sex is personal, i h ave to like you, alot. meaning i should know at least a little bit about you. now if your intention is a one night stand, thats different. but if your goal is a longer term relationship. id wait. see what i think of the person. its my body, im picky about who i let near me. but be safe with the internet thing. ive done that before and it can be weird. be safe love

melissa

I've done it before, though I wouldn't if I thought the person had any potential for seriousness. I actually quite preferred stranger sex to committed relationship sex (though both are great).

My first "date" with my husband we never left the house.

I was told by everyone not to get involved, just to expect to have a good time and let him go, becuase he sucked at relationships.

Nine years, three pregnancies, two weddings, a graduate degree and a house later, here we are.

Weird shit happens. Would I recommend always having first-date sex? No, but you never know.