Some of you know that my brother Andrew is missing. It's finally
hitting me really hard, we have had no leads through friends
where he could be.
The last time anyone has spoken or seen him has been nearing
eight weeks. He was depressed, talked about killing himself, running
away to another country....
Now well, I'm angry I'm upset, we don't knw where the fuck he is. We filed a missing persons report, but it really doesn't do squat in this situation.
At first I thought he'd check his email, the only way for us to even contact him. But he hasn't responded. I'm really lost on how to feel by this point. Where does a depressed, angry, confused, thirty year old go?
I just want him to get a hold of any of us, even if it's for a ten second phone call.
sorry for the downer post,
ames
i'm sorry ames.
think positively tho. I know when I am feeling shitty I just want to run away from it all. Maybe he just needs some time away... I'm so not justifying him not calling but just think for the best...
Amy, thats awful.. Iam so sorry that he is still missing.
HAve you or anyone put up missing person posters?
I am so sorry, You're in my thoughts and I'm hoping that he'll contact you soon.
I'm sorry hon. You're in my thoughts. I don't really have any advice, but I'm available if you ever want to talk.
Ugh. I know how you feel (somewhat). After my ex and I broke up (we are still really close) he was really depressed and dissapeared for almost 2 months (he decided to hitchhike around and be homeless for awhile). Nobody knew where he was--not his friends, his family, nobody. It was one of the most scary things that has ever happened to me. It also really feel the whole frustration thing where you just want them to call for a second and let someone know what is going on. When I was going though that, I took to googling his name every few days. I had this theory that if something really bad had happened they would find ID on him and it would show up somewhere on the internet. Probably a silly theory, but it made me feel a little better.
I am soo sorry hunny!!! You and your family will be in my prayers!!! I hope things work out and he comes home! Keep faith!
You are in my thoughts. I hope everything turns our alright.
Im sorry. I am keeping your family in my thoughts. I hope everything will turn out ok.
Just a quick update...
well, there is none, still no word. The police can't do much, being that he's way over the age of 18. I got a hold of a bar he used to go to a lot, and they are going to post up a missing persons sign up for us.
thank you everyone for your support.
ames
I'm here for you, mama.
Is there any way to get a copy of his phone records to see the last places he called? Or any way to get into his email account?? I hope something turns up soon. Im sorry this happened...Hopefully he will turn up soon and all will be resolved.
you and your family are in my thoughts, too, mama. <3
i'm thinking about you ames. youre in my thoughts and prayers
Well here's the kicker, the cell phone he had is turned off, and it was in an old girlfriends name. I tried to get into his email, but I can't figure out his secret question answer.
I hope someone sees the missing persons paper up at the bar he used to go to, and knows something.
thanks again everyone,
ames
Maybe he needed to get away from a situation and just get out on his own. There have been times when I've just wanted to up and leave without leaving any way of contacting me. I never do because I don't think it's a good idea, but I'm sure there are people out there who do. Maybe your brother is one of those people. He may contact you soon, or he may not. I guess just wait it out and see if he calls or emails.
I'm so sorry you're going through this hell of not knowing.
I hope a message finds it's way to you.
Take care, love, hugs.
Do you know what service provider he used?? If you do, then go to their website and create an "online account" for the phone number....You should be able to access detailed call listing that way...I can do it on my phone and a friend of mine did it when her boyfriend was acting all strange and then disappeared.....
Also, sometimes for email servers you can request that they email you a password and give an alternate email address....
Or even just call the the email service provider or cell phone company and explain the situation (or have the police do it) and maybe they can give you access to information that you couldnt normally get..
I hope he turns up soon...
I'm thinking about you and your family and I'm really hoping your brother is okay.
Please let us know if you hear anything at all.
(((DG)))
well if we new how to contact his ex girlfriend who's cell phone he used to use, that would be a start. Nopes, don't know the provider either.
we are racking our brains to answer his secret question to access his email. If not, we'll see what the police can do.
thanks again for your ideas...
ames
go to www.whitepages.com click on REVERSE SEARCH and enter his old cell phone number. It should be able to show you who the provider is....
If there is anything I can do to help please let me know.
tried the reverse look up... no luck. I don't think you could look up cell phone numbers. I mentioned checking the old phone to my parents, we have a friend who's a PI who's helping with things.
Also, he really only used that phone until last year. I spoke to his last girlfriend, and we went thru bills and the only numbers he called were family and friends, no odd ball ones that stood out.
hope that made sense.
thanks again mj
ames
If you register with white pages.com it lets you do reverse search on cell phones....it wont give you the name of the person but it will give the name of the carrier...
I really hope hes ok.. :)
x posted from my LJ
update
quick update on my brother
well I managed to figure out my brothers email...
he's been checking his email from somewhere, but not sending
anything out.
at least we know he's alive.
now, he really is an asshole like my grandma said on the phone to me yesterday.
ames
I'm happy that you know he's safe. And I agree it's an asshole thing he's doing to you and your family but maybe keep in my he is your brother and he has a reason for what he is doing.
when my friend went missing (her body was found 2 weeks later...) we were able to get hotmail to release her password when we filed a police report. same with her bank account information. when both came up inactive, we suspected that she was probably dead.
i dunno if in this situation it'd help, but you can track a person sometimes. but if they don't want to be found, it's hard.
i'm sorry for bringing my shite into this. but yeh, you can get email to release passwords or open the account with police help. having a bank acct info released would show if he took out all his funds, or got cashiers checks, or drawn on the acct at all in the past few weeks.
if he has credit cards you could track that too...
thanks, but I was able to get into his email account last night, he's been checking it recently. Big problem also, he's only using cash, he has no bank accounts nor credit cards.
I'm really sorry to hear about your friend, and thanks for your help.
ames
well that's good that he's checking email. seriously. it means he's not super physically hurt. you could prolly check some IPs of where he logged in to get a location. it means he's reading what you send him. it means he's in touch with reality enough to find a computer & log on. all of these are good signs.
i'd keep sending him emails, daily if not more frequently, brief & to the point: you care about him, you really want to see him, you want to support him, depression is treatable, you can help him access services, you love him & miss him.