Yeah. So my boyfriend and I found out I was pregnant about two weeks ago. I decided I don't want to continue with the pregnancy. It was such a hard decision for me and I don't know why. I've been having a lot of trouble emotionally lately. I'm crying a lot and quick to snap on my parents and boyfriend. I never ever thought that it would be this hard for me to make this decision. I always said that I would have no problem if I got pregnant again to get an abortion, but it's been hard on me. However, I completely am sure about getting this abortion. I don't have the money or energy for another kid right now and I simply just don't want another or want to be pregnant at this point of time. It's still sucks.
So I researched herbally induced miscarriages after reading about Inga Muscio's story in Cunt. I did massages, took herbs, etc for about 6 days like I was supposed to. It didn't work. So now I have to medically abort which is really straining because my boyfriend lost his job and my hours were cut back at my job dramatically. Pretty much I'll be making 70 bucks every two weeks which barely covers Landon. I have no money saved up at this point and my boyfriend doesn't either. We don't know what to do. We're running out of time because I know it could get really expensive as time goes on. My wonderful best friend and her husband gave us 100 dollars to help out, which we are going to pay back once we have the money, but that still won't be enough. I don't know what to do and I'm extremely stressed out. My parents don't know, and if they did, I highly doubt they'd support or help with money.
Plus I don't know much about actually getting the procedure done and it scares me. I know what they do in the procedures, but I have no clut how it feels, how much it hurts, how much it hurts after.
I'm just unbelievably scared anmd stressed, but I just reallyu want it done and over with.
I guess I just needed to vent...
oh hunny im sorry this is so tough. You hormonal emotions are probably tying in with it all and making htat much tougher. it sounds like you are making the right decision though. is there any type of companies or anything like that that help out financially? im not too sure of the options out there. what about family? i know thats probably not the bestbut yo are handlingthis ver well hun. im sorry sweetie! i hope things get better!
Call an abortion fund, they can help with money. Where are you? I can try and help you find one. Also, you can get medicaid pretty easily when you are pregnant, and a lot of states do abortions with medicaid. (even if the actual medicaid doesn't cover it a lot of clinics have special funding for medicaid patients to get abortions). Good luck.
thanks both of you, it means a lot.
I didn't even know there were abortion funds. I live in the SW chicago suburbs. And I can't get medicaid, Landon has it, because i'm still on my parents' insurance and their insurance doesn't cover abortion.
As for family, I think I'm going to ask a couple of my cousins for help. They are all older than me, but we've always been really close. I know they'd support me I just don't know if they have the funds for it.
http://www.chicagoabortionfund.com/
try this!
I don't have any advice, just wanted to say I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
Hey hun. I was in your exact same situation earlier this year. I had my abortion in early March... I think.
It was really hard for me to deal with it at first, I cried literally every day. I knew that I had to/wanted to have the abortion, but my emotions and hormones were all out of wack. After a few weeks I was totally ok with it. And by the time I had the procedure I felt really good about it.
I got on Medicaid and it payed for the entire thing. You should try to get on Medicaid and just tell them that you dont have any other insurance. They probably will not check. And if they do, say that you thought that you were not covered.
I have had two medical abortions. With the first I had local anesthetics and it was extremely easy and not at all painful. I barely felt a thing and healed immediately. With the second, most recent one I chose not to take any pain medicine. I was also farther along in the pregnancy and it hurt so bad. I had really really bad cramps for about an hour after then healed and felt little to no discomfort.
If you need anything PM me. I can also try to help you find some resources in your area.
Thanks so much for everyone's support. It means the world to me.
I'm feeling a little better now. I'm barely crying anymore, which is a relief. And I am feeling so much better about this decision everyday. The money problem is pretty much the only thing stressing me out right now.
Tyroneasaurus, thanks for your story. I appreciate it. it make me feel a lot better knowing you felt the same way.
And I am checking out that website right now, thanks!
I'm coming to this thread late, but I'm glad that you're feeling better about your decision, Elyse. Take care.