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About the change in due date - second trimester ultrasounds are extremely inaccurate for determining due dates. If the one based on your last menstruation gives you a later due date, I'd insist upon that being the one used. First time moms on average gestate ten days longer than their due dates.

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I agree with bgw

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Yeah, I'm not too terribly concerned with the due date because I know that only a low percentage of women actually deliver on their due date. My first due date was march 17th based on our estimate, and then when I went for my 19 week the Ultrasound read 18 weeks 2 days. So that moved it to the 22nd of March. I got an idea of when it's coming, so I just gotta look forward to it. =) Having a due date is nice, but I think it's also a nice surprise to never know for certain when it's coming.

I really want to know the gender of mine, too Momnipotent =P Every time I've had baby's heartrate checked it's been high. But I'm just gonna wait until it can be confirmed. I guess a bonus about finding out later in the pregnancy (if at all during the pregnancy) is that there is less chance for error in determining genders.

It would be nice to go without knowing the gender for the whole pregnancy, but I'm really prone to anxiety and not knowing creates a lot of wonder. It's hard enough coming up for a name for one gender, let alone two. =P My SO is so picky. <3

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N is 16 months... placenta is still in the freezer.

I have two raw placenta recipes BGW! Would you like me to post them.

I am with BGW on the EDD, even the date being moved a few days earlier can mean pressure to induce or not... which affects you risk of cesarean and other interventions or not. :)

When I write down my clients EDDs, I write the date, and their name one 41 weeks + 3 days as well.

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Moving it back is a good thing. It's cool that you know that due dates aren't really for real, but the only thing is that if you go too far "overdue" they pressure you to induce labour, which makes labour harder and induction comes with its own set of risks.
To be fair, there are risks with being very far over 40 weeks, but they're still small and for some reason many OBs will try to induce you way earlier than is necessary risk-wise. So it's really important to do some research and be assertive in your care.

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Moving it back is a good thing. It's cool that you know that due dates aren't really for real, but the only thing is that if you go too far "overdue" they pressure you to induce labour, which makes labour harder and induction comes with its own set of risks.
To be fair, there are risks with being very far over 40 weeks, but they're still small and for some reason many OBs will try to induce you way earlier than is necessary risk-wise. So it's really important to do some research and be assertive in your care.

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Oops, double post!

Yabinti, what do you plan on doing with the placenta?

I'm thinking I'd better start thinking about whether or not I want a doula.

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The risks actually start when you are 'post term' which is over 42 complete weeks. This is the confusion that the due date causes, lol!!!

I have my placenta in my freezer right now... my daughter is 15 months old... I think I would like to plant it with a really cool tree, on my family's property in NS....

I haven't quite decided. :)

Momnipotent, how many weeks are you? The best client relationships I have had have been with women who hired me pretty close to 20 weeks. We had lots of time to become buddies! :)

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I'd love to see your placenta recipes, yabinti, particularly if you tried them and liked them.

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I just felt the first kicks from the outside! :party: And I wore mat clothes for the first time yesterday. So exciting!

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Midwife appt today... I've gained 20 pounds and I'm almost halfway through the pregnancy. Last time I had trouble gaining weight and eventually DD wasn't gaining enough, so I'm really excited that I'm not having that problem this time! :D And loving feeling the kicks and movement.

What's going on with you guys?

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I'm 14 weeks now, and not sick anymore! I cleaned my house for the first time in months yesterday, and didn't even collapse from exhaustion! Got my bloodwork back, and everything's perfect!

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That's so awesome! The first trimester can be pretty intense. So glad to be in the 2nd tri now! :)

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I haven't been by this thread in a while (for obvious reasons), but it's really nice to see how you all are doing! Sounds like a number of you are feeling better these days!!

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I heard the heartbeat today for the first time!!!!

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Well I feel more pregnant today than I have throughout my entire pregnancy (I'm 17 wks). Perhaps it was the Thanksgiving weekend, I ate a Thanksgiving sized meal three different times, goodness!
I'm definitely feeling better in the second trimester than my first, I just have such a hard time having any motivation for school. I really don't know how I'm gonna graduate in May with these blahs at this rate.

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So exciting MamaButterfly!

Pintsized, I also have zero motivation right now. None! I'm a procrastinator, but always manage to pull off good marks anyways. This time I think I've cut it too close. And *still* no motivation. Gah. I would really like to drop out right now, although I'm not actually considering it because it would screw me over so badly.

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Ditto momnipotent, but it ain't happenin' I've worked too hard these past 5 years to just give up.

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So I had my 18-20 week ultrasound today! Aaand... I found out the sex!
It's a girl! :party: :party: :party: I'm so excited.

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thats so awesome mama. I want a girl ( but I don't plan on having any more children) so yay for your girl!

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Thanks! :) I'm so excited.

I've got a genuine belly right now too, so it's all starting to feel more real now! This is my favourite part.

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So, I have only a month and a half to go. I still don't have everything we need for the new baby and the birth, plus I still have major cleaning to do. Last birth, I strolled through target looking for last minute baby items (and ended up making some weird choices) while breathing through birthing waves. I tell everyone that my biggest fear around homebirth is that the house will be a wreck when I start my birthing time. It's just that somehow making ornaments for the tree or reading holiday stories get done, but prewashing the diapers doesn't.

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I can't wait to be where you are, bgw.

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Glad to hear I'm not the only one worried about the state of the house! I'm such a slob. Shouldn't we be nesting or something? That would be handy.

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my house looks like one of those houses that normal people walk into and think, oh my god, how do people live in this pigsty?

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My house had that same look to it until a couple weeks ago. I think maybe nesting has kicked in? But really I don't care what's caused it, I'll take it! I suddenly have the energy and the motivation to clean, it's like a Christmas miracle. LMAO!

I've been having these super intense pregnancy dreams, anyone else? Some of them are pretty scary or disturbing. Earlier on I was having great sex dreams too but I haven't had one of those in awhile, just the shitty ones. Booo!

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I had this one really silly dream early on in my pregnancy, maybe at around three months. Anywho, in the dream I was in my living room when I started going into labor. I yelled to my partner, "I'm going into labor!", fell to the floor and pushed once or twice and out popped a tiny naked cartoonish boy with yellowish skin as you'd see in say the simpsons with blond hair, a top hat, and cane. Immediately he jumped up onto my belly and began to sing and do a little jig.
That's all I can remember, it was so bizarre.

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LMAO! That's too weird!

I've been gaining weight really fast this pregnancy, I think about 30 pounds already and I'm only around halfway through. I have a midwife appt on Wed, hopefully she will have something reassuring to say about that. I've always had trouble gaining weight, even last pregnancy, so I'm really uncomfortable about the weight gain thing, it's just totally outside my normal realm.

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I'm not having the same experience your having momnipotent, I've only gained 15 pounds or so I think, (half way through too), this is my first pregnancy, but I'm totally surprised by the way I feel about my growing size. I've never considered myself a vain person, nor someone who cares much about appearances, but things are changing so quickly. So often I just want my familiar body back.

I'm sure you're healthy and doing fine momnipotent, tell us what you hear from your midwife!

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