So has anyone had their older kid(s) at their birth?
I was watching a birth on youtube where the mama was pretty loud, screaming "I can't do it" and "I'm scared" repeatedly and her kids were there the whole time. I don't think I'm really comfortable with that for my kid. But also from what I remember of my last birth I wasn't loud, I went inside myself more, KWIM? Although I didn't make it very long without an epidural, so I dunno.
This time I'm really hoping for a homebirth, and I would like DD to be there when the baby is born, but I don't really care if she's here while I'm in labour (actually I'd probably prefer her not to be here, so I wouldn't be distracted). DD will be newly 4 when this one is born.
I have a friend who says she is really loud during labour too, and her 4-y-o attended her birth. She just prepped her LO by watching lots of birth videos together and letting the LO know what to expect and that it's cool if mama freaks out.
I've also heard a mama say her midwife really disapproves of having young children attend because she says of all the births she's attended the kid always ends up traumatized. Although I'm not sure how she could know if the kid was traumatized, and def. my friend's LO was not traumatized. But it does make me wonder.
I'm not sure how I feel about the whole thing. Experiences? Thoughts?
Oh, and here's your cute story bonus:
I had explained to DD a few days ago that babies come out through their mama's vagina, and she was like "Ohhhhhh!" As if she had been wondering. Today in the shower she asked me if the baby was going to fall out onto the floor! I told her no, babies don't just fall out they need their mama to work hard to push them out, and then usually someone catches them. And she said "ohhhh!" again. And then said that she wanted to catch the baby, that she is very good at catching. So sweet! I told her the midwife usually catches the baby, but we could see about her cutting the cord.
Which is what got me thinking about this.