When I was a young teen, I thought being a teen mom was "cool". I wanted a baby really bad. I am soo lucky now that that didn't happen so soon. I had finally decided that waiting till I was out of college and older would be better for me. Too late. I got pregnant at age 16. I was terrified but I was also happy. My pregnancy was hard for me in the beginning, but got better towards the end. I would have a little baby to play with and cuddle. I would be loved unconditionally. HAHA! Boy was I wrong. Babies also poop, spit up, and cry. A LOT. I love my daughter more then anything and I would give my life for her, but honestly, I was naive. I had no idea how hard this was going to be. Being a mom, regardless of age, is hard, but when your trying to finish school, work, fight against stereotypes, ANd raise a baby, is the hardest thing ever. Did anyone else not realize how hard mamahood was going to be? sometimes i feel alone in this.
i don't think anyone is ever prepared for being a mother. no matter what age a woman is, being a mother is something that you can't even get a taste of until it actually happens.
Everyone told me that nothing can prepare you for being a mother, but I thought I had some idea because my baby sister was born when I was 18. Hahahaha, was I ever wrong. Being a mother is both the toughest, yet most rewarding thing that has ever happened to me.
I agree that motherhood is something that you can't know about until you are one. No one knows regardless of how much they babysit or how old they are, and even if you think you've got it down with the first kid- the second can be comepletely different and you're back to square one.
I think also, though it's hard, it's one of the greatest things I've experienced. It is tough as hell some days, but it's like the good days are just that much more good, better than even the best day before being a mother. The smiles and laughs, watching a little person grow up and experience things for the first time.. seeing the world through their eyes- so awesome and innocent. I love it. And those are the moments I think about when she's teething really badly, or I get no sleep, when I get evil looks at the mall for having a kid (and a crying one at that) or when I just feel like I can't take it anymore.
And even if someone told me all this, it's different for everyone and no one can be truly prepared.
I never knew how hard being a mother would really be. I thought that there was this cute baby to love and to hold but i didnt think how many diapers i would have to change or how many bottles i would have to make or how much laundry i would have to do. Motherhood is the most rewarding experience but it is also a very hard experience. I love my son very much and i may not know very much about being a mother yet (sons only 2 weeks old) but i know that you have to be strong and courages to be a mother. I congratulate everyone who is a mother or a caregiver to a child because it is the hardest thing you will ever do in life!
Lisa
I never knew how hard being a mother would really be. I thought that there was this cute baby to love and to hold but i didnt think how many diapers i would have to change or how many bottles i would have to make or how much laundry i would have to do. Motherhood is the most rewarding experience but it is also a very hard experience. I love my son very much and i may not know very much about being a mother yet (sons only 2 weeks old) but i know that you have to be strong and courages to be a mother. I congratulate everyone who is a mother or a caregiver to a child because it is the hardest thing you will ever do in life!
Lisa
I took care of my younger cousins but that didn't perpaer me when I had Cheyanne. I love her to death but I never expected this to be this hard. Everybody tried to tell me it would and I wouldn't have any time for myself. But I thought differently becuase I took take of my cousins. Its hard to balence college and work. Forget having a social life that went right out the window when Cheyanne was born. All my frinds didn't want to be around someone with a baby. I hope I can graduate but its just so hard without any help or support. Not to metion not getting any sleep.
I dont think anything can prepare you for being a mother. I also dont think that age determines what kind of mother you will be. Look at the headlines. You see grown women, killing and beating their children, it really makes me sad.
I never wanted to have children. I do thank God every day that I do have mine, no matter how hard it gets sometimes.
True, they do cry,puke,poop, and eat a lot. The good news is..they grow! And they end up going to school, and make all sorts of friends and bring home art projects that just make you so darn happy to be their mama.....
But in answer to your statement...you are definatley NOT alone in this. I think we all feel that way sometimes.
Things were super easy for me until I had my second. I had no idea what a difference a second child made.
What do you mean by "grown women"? Is there such a thing as "not-so-grown" women?
I imagined a baby being much worse, but my child was sleeping through the night at 5 weeks. Although she was an extremely easygoing and adaptable baby, I was much more stressed out than I ever imagined I could be.
Let me rephrase what I meant by that.
I think society looks down at young mothers and think they are uncapable of raising children. I was just trying to point out that parenting is hard, for a woman of ANY age, and age should NOT determine how good of a parent you will be. That's all. I didnt mean to offend anyone.
i dont think i realized what a fight it would be, im rather thin skinned and the stereotypes still enrage me. if anyone so much as makes one rude remark about being a single mother, im upset for the whole day. it was tough forming that shield around myself . and as an after thought, i dont think i realized what sleep deprivation was untill kayleigh was born, now thats something no one can tell you about , fully
firefly
I deffinetley have to agree with that.
Things are easy for me now - they're still pretty hard, but compared to the beginning, it's quieted down a lot. When Trey was a newborn.. I was in hell ;) NOTHING prepared me for that. I saw other moms with their new babies, and their babies were always sleeping, perfect angels..
Trey spent about 16 hours a day.. just.. screaming. With no end. Until he was 4 months old. I'd sit there and rock him for hours on end just hoping he'd stop. So now that colic is over and he's still hard to deal with, but in a nice quiet manner.. things in perspective seem a lot easier ;)
I'm sure with my second child though, I'll be back at square 1.