How are babies made? For an almost four year old

I would just tell him the truth, like you have done. Just use age appropriate words. It sounds like that is what you have done, I plan on doing the same, but when it comes down to it I don't know if I'll be able to handle it :oops:

What I did when my son asked was I told him "When a mommy and daddy love eachother very much they like to get close. Sometimes they get so close that daddys sperm gets inside of mommy and makes a baby grow there. Then when the baby is ready to come out, mommy goes to the hospital (because I always did) and the doctors there help mommy get the baby out safley." He's only asked about 3 times, mostly when I was pregnant. He's 4, and that answered his questions pretty well. He didn't ask for any additional info. He knows the basics without knowing too much for his age.

there are books for little children, I will get the name of one I cant remember off hand :wink:

I had a book when I was little called Where Did I Come From. It is great.

I myself am a fan of introducing words like sex, penis, vagina, etc... I think it's important to make these words normal and not wierd. My step-daughter calls her genitals her "pee-pee," but she's becoming aware that there are many different parts to it, which all have special jobs. One of those parts is just for having sex and bringing babies into the world. But she still calls it all her "pee-pee," and I think that's fine--just as long as she's familiar with the words.

My daughter is too young to ask, and too young to talk. But I'm with Emerald. I really want to be able to openly talk about things using their appropriate words. And I completly understand people who want to be more canon with it, it's just when I was younger asking about sex and stuff was a no-no. So it made me all the more curious to know about it. I don't want my daughter having to go to others asking about sex, or other sex related stuff, and have to be embarassed. Espically if she didn't know things by their correct name and only by nick names.

Dylan knows babies grow in bellies and come out of "ginas" (or occasionally out of tummies, like his Uncle John from his Mimi.) He hasn't asked how they get in there yet.
This is something I think about a lot, because the typical explanations parents give don't work in all of our situations. Many of us aren't married, got pregnant accidentally (or without consent), and with people we didn't, and don't, love. Some of those men are total assholes, and for some of us (namely Alli and I in the future) those men may even be barely existant by the very nature of their involvement.
When my son asked me if I loved his daddy, I at first said No and he was shocked. I amended that and told him I love his daddy, but i'm not IN love with him, that I don't love him the way I love Alli, and we aren't going to live in a house together. But I have a decent relationship with Joey and genuinely like him as a person...what about for people who would rightfully rather their babydaddy fall off the planet?
I guess what I'm asking is, do we need to sugarcoat the whole conception process for them? Cade and Dylan will probably eventually realize they were about as unexpected as they come. Do kids still need a fluffy bunny story about love until they're old enough to process more?
Because on the flipside, I'm nervous about him knowing "too much" by society's definition about sex, what with me being a sexual deviant and all.. :roll:

I love your reply Julie. :o I love how cover all aspects of what could happen. I agree, I guess the story has to fit the situation. I'd love hear what people plan to say to their children who didn't love the dad, and don't plan to ever see him again. Because I sure don't know what I'm going to say when other parents are saying; "well mommy and daddy loved eachother enough to first get married and then planned to have a sweet baby."

i found an awesome book that is really detailed, but could be used for nearly any age group. its called "that's so amazing" and it's super cool. bodies of all ages, sizes, colors! it goes in depth about consent & the "science" of how babys are made. it talks about feelings. its GREAT! highly recommended (well for preschoolers to teenagers!)

seriously, FIND THIS BOOK. its the BEST!

im going to totally get that book! you can view some of the pages on amazon.com.

abortion is even in the index! speaking of which, how does one bring up that topic? obviously ive got a while before sex will even be brought up, but i want to be perfectly honest about my experience and the realities of sex and choice.

i have bought this book by the same authors for a bunch of kids in my life

It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health

i am gonna order the amazing one right now!