I'm at 27 weeks and my friends decided to throw me a surprise baby shower for tomorrow. I know it's a little early, but with school and such, it's the only time they could. And I'm really thankful for it!
The only catch? My cousin is going to be there because one of her friends is my best friend. Now see, my cousin and I used to be BEST FRIENDS. But when I got pregnant, she didn't even talk to me. She saw my growing stomach and told me that it was nasty. And she says really hurtful things behind my back.
Sooooo...I don't want her there. At all. I feel uncomfortable around and I feel like I can't even talk openly. But it's tomorrow and she's already been invited. Do I just...suck it up and pretend to have a good time? Or tell the person that's throwing it that I'm not okay with her being present?
That is really a tough situation, whoever planned it should have thought about that!! But I would just go and if she says anything hurtful or anything that makes you uncomfortable just ask her to leave. If you can't ask her yourself (you might not be that outspoken- I'm not) have someone else do it- YOU are the guest of honor NOT her. Someone else might have a better idea- but that is the only thing I can think of.
by the way- that is way not cool what she said about your growing belly- you know it is beautiful!!! Maybe you can talk to one of your closer friends that is giving the baby shower and ask her what to do.
I talked to the friend that's throwing me the party and she totally understood. We just don't want to be mean about things. Because she is my family. And I do love her.
So she's still going to come. And I'm going to have fun, no matter what. It's going to be a slumber party like thing, because that's just so darn cool. And she won't be staying the night.
She's always been a very jealous person of me. (Not trying to brag.) And she likes being center of attention. So she'll probably end up leaving anyways.
I know my stomach is beautiful. My *true* friends know my stomach is beautiful. My family knows it's beautiful. And I'm proud of it. Nothing is going to ruin tomorrow for me. I will not allow it. Thanks for posting such great support Stephe.
You are beautiful your stomach is precious and Im glad that everything is going ok... I hope you have a great baby shower and you have the best time of your life.. Baby showers are grrrreat!!!!!!
Have fun.. :wink:
glad to hear things are working out now, hopefully she doesn't do anything mean to you tomorrow, but i guess even if she does you'll have a room full of people who DO support you.
i think a lot of us girlmoms have had friends and family act really mean about our pregnancies, it just goes to show that even when someone is supposed to love you, they can't get over stupid myths of what it takes to be a mama. concentrate on the good msg's people give you, and anyone who says differently should just be ignored. (even if you have to rage about it a bit, as we all do/have, try not to take it to heart, if you can).
let us know how it goes! i wish i had gotten a baby shower, they sound so fun :)
Hopefully your cousin will be on her best behavior. Enjoy your baby shower! :D
if she was invited and didnt want to come, i doubt she would.
if she's coming to stir up shit - im assuming she will be summarily put in her place by everyone else in attendence.
maybe shes come around and realised that she acted immature in the past?
regardless, have a great baby shower.
I had a really good time at my baby shower yesterday, even though she was present. I believe she spoke about 5 words to me, but oh well.
There was a TON of food. Including homemade salsa. Ohhhhhhhhh so good.
And I got a lot of cute things too. My best friends bought me a memory box that has "Kade William Edward Morrison" engraved on the top and a trucker hat to wear after he's born that says "I </3 Kade". I got stuffed animals, a handmade quilt, LOTS of diapers, a small diaperbag that has a diaper pad, an outfit, onsies, and lotion from the healing garden to make me sleep better. Oh, and a medicine ball.
I am so thankful for everything. I couldn't stop crying!
Sorry im late girl..I was out of town!! Im soo glad u had a GREAT time and u didnt let her ruin it for u!! =)