So, Zoe is two, and her dad is barely involved. She saw him two weeks ago, and before that- June 17th. He doesn't call to talk to her, he doesn't write letters- nothing.
About a month ago, she was in the bath tub and she took a toy dolphin she has and said "Look mama, a Zoe dolphin!"
"Oh," I said. "A Zoe dolphin!"
"Look mama, a Mama dolphin!"
"Oh, A mama dolphin!"
"Look mama, daddy dolphin!"
"Oh, a daddy dolphin!"
She then THREW the "daddy" dolphin across the bathtub, pointed to the "zoe" dolphin and said, "Zoe cry."
She has also started asking for him- saying, "Where's daddy?" Her sitter told me that the phone rang and she said, "For me! It's daddy!" He hasn't called in 3 weeks.
I've been talking to her lately when she asks about him, telling her that "daddy loves you very much, but he's working right now and can't be part of our lives." And sort-of leaving it at that.
But, I don't know what else to do. Are there any good books about this? Should I take her to a theripist?
I can't MAKE him be part of her life. And, I refuse to be the one to take the initiative and call him- it's not MY job to make sure that he has a relationship with her. But, I don't know what to tell her when he doesn't call or anything.