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Do you dress your kids the same way you dress yourself? Tommie wears flared jeans, baby doll tees, skirts, bell sleeved shirts, and even has a couple pairs of heeled (barely any of course :D ) shoes. Thats pretty much what I wear. Since Niko is still so little I pretty much dress him in onesies, sleepers, and little matching sweatsuit outfits. He does have a few pairs of the soft crib shoes though...some jeans and tshirts and such...he even had an easter suit lol. I'm just wondering if you dress your kid *differently* than you dress yourself because today I was talking to another mother of a little girl in Tommies preschool class and she complimented and said my daughter is very well dressed but that she would *never* even dream of dressing her daughter up everyday because children aren't dolls. I wasn't sure how to take that comment? I don't treat her like a doll I treat her like the equal PERSON that she is!! This woman is 37 though and do you all think she was judging me because I am so much younger?

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no way, i have a girlie girl, while i prefer running pants tee and flip flops. i cant take her shoe shopping, EVER, cause she always wants dress shoes. she will wear the same dress everyday when i let her, and now that she is in pre k, i have to really watch her and what she decides to wear

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Jenna prefers dresses, and her favorite pair of shoes are a red shiny pair. She always wants to wear them, but I can't get them on her anymore because she outgrew them. I dress her pretty much the same as I do myself, but thats because she wants to be like mommy. Well, I gotta go she just woke up from her nap.

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Wow- that sounds like a snooty comment, if you ask me. Yeah- you are young so you must think your daughter is just a doll to dress up, right? I bet you anything she wouldn't say that to a mom her own age! Oh well.

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ugh, yea that comment sounds really ageist...what a silly ass.

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I dress Austin in lil sweat suit outfits with sweatshirts...and he has a bunch of nike shoes and stuff that people gave me for him, and jeans n bibs...but mostly i like puttin him in one peice sleepers..they are just easier..

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Letti, the other parent's comment does sound judgemental on the surface of it. The "children aren't dolls" portion of the comment seems entirely unnecessary; anyone who is raising a child is well aware that children aren't dolls. I can understand your concern.
Let me ask you a question; do you expect the preschool personnel to keep your child's clothes clean while she is at school? Do you hold the teacher responsible if your daughter's clothes are stained, soiled, or damaged in the course of normal school activities?
I work in a montessori preschool. Most of our curriculum for toddlers is based around tactile and sensory experiences. We have a toddler garden, and the children garden every day that it is not raining. The children have free access to paint, glue, clay, and other potentially messy art materials. Many days we cook; the children help with measuring, mixing, and stirring ingredients, kneading dough, etc.
One of our rules is that the children wear appropriate clothing to school; appropriate for the montessori environment. That means comfortable playclothes that it's okay to get dirty. It is against our school policy to restrict any child's creativity, play, learning, or exploration of his/ her environment because the child is inappropriately dressed (ie. wearing expensive clothes that might get "ruined" by these activities).
However, the center director explains this policy, and the reasons for it, to all prospective parents before they enroll their children in our school. If the parents do not feel they can abide by this policy, they usually do not enroll their child at all, and instead seek a different school that better suits their needs.
I would never make the comment to a parent that this woman made to you, and I would never condone another parent making such a comment within my hearing. However, if a child in my class was routinely so overdressed that it seemed to be inhibiting her play and learning, or if a parent had frequent complaints about the condition of a child's clothing at the end of the day, I would politely ask that the parent take her concerns up with the center director, who would go over the dress policy with the parent and explain why we have such a policy.
Maybe that's what you should do, since the woman's comment bothers you. Make an appointment for a conference with the director of the school, and ask her, "Does this school have some policy about appropriate attire for the students? Because another parent made a comment which I interpreted to mean that she felt I was overdressing my child. Is there some valid reason why she might have felt compelled to make such a comment?"

Good luck to you; I know what it's like to be a young mom. and people often do discriminate against us. When my son was a baby, strangers routinely assumed that I was babysitting him for someone else. Now that he's a teen, strangers assume I'm his sister (or in one memorable case, his girlfriend :? ). Hang in there and keep doing what you feel is best for your child. You're her mother, and you know best what she needs, not some middle-aged stranger. I would double-check with the center director, like I said, and make sure that you are dressing your daughter appropriately for the activities being offered at that particular school. But as long as you are, I feel you'd be well within your rights to tell well-meaning but condescending strangers to mind their own business.
Good luck, ~ fairy

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Fairy~

I totally agree with you that kids need to run and play and be creative. I understand if her clothes get dirty or stained at school. I'm complely okay with going home, washing them, and then dealing with any stains that may have set. I don't hold her teachers responsible and I don't yell at her or anything if her clothes get messy. I don't expect them to be clean by the end of the day. Most days at home I do creative projects with Tommie that are messy too. So actually as I write this I see how it may seem silly why she wears clothes like this then really and I probably look like a mom who spends excessive amounts on namebrand or trendy clothes for child to ruin, but I really don't. My mom and her dads mom spoil her and buy new outfits for her weekly. My mom also does the same for my niece who is a little older than Tommie and by the time my niece has outgrown them Tommie is ready to fit them and my sister hands them down to me for her. I never realized that other parents thought she was over dressed or anything until that other mother made a comment to me about it. Tommie LIKES to wear the clothes that she does. Often times she tells me how she dresses just like mommy so we must be twins. I send her to school with an extra set of clothes everyday incase she has an accident or something spills or whatever. I'm comfortable with how she dresses and so is she. So you think if her teachers were uncomfortable about the way she was dressed they would have approached me already? Or do you think I should take the initiative and ask? I don't want to make a big deal about it but I dont want to be the mother all the other mothers are talking about just because of the way my daughter dresses I already get knocked down and dirty looks everyday by them for being so much younger ya know?

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Alexis dresses BETTER than I do. LOL. She wears flared pants, baby tees, pretty skorts, tank tops, halter tops, etc. I dress in whatever's clean, pretty much. A hoodie and some jeans. I'm stylin'. :lol:

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Letti,
yes, I think if her teacher was uncomfortable, she would've said something. If you have questions about the dress policy, you should approach the teacher or the center director. But if you feel there is no problem (other than this other parent's rude comment) then I would just blow it off. There probably is no problem. The woman who said that to you is probably just insecure about her own parenting. Older moms can be just as insecure as younger ones, if not a whole lot more so.
Keep your head up, and don't let the comments get to you.
~ fairy :wink:

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I guess my girls dress somewhat like I do. Plain clothes, cotton fabrics, no pictures or emblems.
Actually though,I'm not so much about dressing them like me as I am about dressing them in matching/coordinating outfits. They are still small though so they like to, and often I ask Isabella what she wants to wear and then put Sophia in the coordinating outfit. I'm sure they'll hate me for it later.
My girls almost always wear dresses (because I love finding crazy bright colored tights to go with their outfits. It's their trademark) or overalls because they just seem to keep everything looking neat. Isabella recently got her first pair of pants/jeans...and she is three and a half. When she wears them, she says she looks like me. But they drive me crazy because they are constantly slipping down.

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I have been torn on this issue since my son was born 2 years ago. I used to dress really goth and at first I thought it was cute to dress my son goth too. Now I feel very differently(partly because I am smack dab in the middle of a huge identity crisis) because he is a completely seperate person and should dress as so. He really has no interest in clothes so I still pick them out, but generally it's nothing too over the top preppy or goth. I wear skirts every day and he does like to dress up in a dress on occasion. When I used to dress him gothic and even style him up with little mowhawk my family hated it but mostly he was intimidating to other kids his age(not to mention their moms !) and that is really something that he should decide on his own. He is a huge kid anyways so he can fit into all my old babydoll concert tees but he really has no opinion either way yet...

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I am a pretty preppy person and I dress my kids the same way. I guess because I pick out their clothes I just pick what I like. Brayden has tons of khakis and button down shirts. I buy a lot of their stuff at Old Navy. Brayden also has a bunch of sporty stuff. I have never really thought much about thir clothes I just get what I think is cute and let them wear it.

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i've gotten comments about how cute my dd is dressed, though in that case, it was meant as a compliment.

thinking about it now, she is similarly dressed. i buy her clothes, so i guess i just get what appeals to me anyway. she wears jeans or corduroys with long-sleeved solid color t-shirts and sneakers (unless the weather requires a snowsuit and snowboots which i don't wear, lol) in winter, 3/4 lenght pants, brightly colored t-shirts or tank tops or simple dresses in summer - she loves her flip-flops too, though for daycare i make her wear some teva-style sandals. that's pretty much what i wear. recently, she's gotten a lot more into dresses and anything pink and glittery, so i indulge her in that.

i would never put her in something that's uncomfortable, restricts her movement or cannot get dirty, but it's really not more work to wash a cute shirt than an ugly one.

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My kiddo is total skater. Every time Kikwear goes on sale, I buy far too much. lol. I've taken to buying him chuck taylors for summer shoes (a little pricey, but lately I find myself never buying clothes/pretty much anything for me, and spending any spare money on stylin' the shortie! Honestly, kid clothes are just more fun to shop for!) When he was a size 4, a friend of mine gave me some baby Vans and Airwalks too.

They make chucks from size 5 on up, and I'm hard pressed to find cuter shoes for chubby legs! He wears hoodies, big pants, long-leg shorts, etc. I just find it adorable!