for all that dont know my story. i am dealing with a very abusive relationship, physical and mental. i have been trapped with no where to turn. he is my only form of a baby sitter. i cant afford to pay anyone and i make to much to qualify for assistance. this man attacked me while i was pregnant and the abuse continues to this day. I can not believe how happy I am right now. My sister use to watch Zavion for me sometimes when bd acted up. She has 2 boys, 2 and 4. When she watched my son he was going thru the whole stage where he didnt want any one but me and she called me at work one day and said he was crying for 2 hours straight and her 2 year old couldnt nap because of him and was making him cry. i left work went and picked him up and she never watched him again. i am so tired of my bd controlling my life. i have to tip toe and kiss his ass, if i piss him off he will not watch zavion and i will have no one. well i talked to my sister today because he is ok to be around her now and she agreed to watch him tuesday - thursday. i offered to give her some money but she said no. i have 2 friends, one is off on fridays and the other on mondays and i am off every other friday so we are gonna cover the other 3 days. the whole point of this story = I AM FINALLY FREE! i do not have to kiss his ass, deal with his mental or physical abuse, i dont have to be around him. im tired of fighting to keep him in his son's life, and being threatened if i persue child support he will leave town leaving me without a sitter. he has not paid a single cent for anything for his son since zavion was born. all i have to say is bye bye. if you choose to run out on your son, that is your choice. i will tell him everything when he asks and he will hate you, not me. i no longer have to stay by myself. i can actually go out and meet guys and give them my number. I CAN FINALLY LIVE! :D
That's awesome! I'm so glad that you were able find alternatives!
Yahoo!! You must just feel like a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders. I'm so glad for you :D
You should sue his ass for child support now eh.
Yay for you!!!!!!!!You are such a strong mamma!!!!!
congratulations mama! i'm so happy for you!
now that you don't need him for childcare, do you think you'll go after child support? you could use that money to pay for childcare to make sure you never have to rely on him to babysit. what an asshole move, hanging that over your head like that. i'm glad you found a way out of it though. i hope all goes well for you, good luck. :)
the only problem is he doesn't have a job. he wont work in Virginia because he has warrants and he's worried about them coming to a job to get him. I do plan on getting it in the system but I also know he won't show up at court and will probally leave the state. they come to his house every day now, and until he commits a felony they can't do anything if he doesn't open the door. i am going to file but i will probally not see anything any time soon.
filing, even if you don't think you'll get anything, is a good idea. child support will start accruing then and someday when he does get a job, you can collect back child support.
I know in Minnesota law, if the person being assigned child support to pay doesn't have a job, they'll assign it baised on "potental earned income", which means if you have a highschool degree or less, it's minimum wage, and if you have collage or tech. school degrees, it's more.
And, you still have to pay it, even if you're not working.
Congratulations! And good riddance to him!
hey whats awesome congrats! :)