My finance is spending all his time at work and not at home. My kids don't see there daddy enough. He's always saying that he goes to work to bring home a check to pay bills. But our bills are paid, my dad pays for everything so we'll have money to buy for our house and our kids. Every other night my babies are asking me,"where's daddy" with puppy dog eyes and it really hurts me. What should I do?
I would sit down and talk to him. Explane that your kids want to spend more time with him and maybe sigest that he set aside a day to spend with them and take them out.
i agree with kat. sometimes men forget their responsibilities at home and just think of their place as a "bread winner." Have a talk and hopefully he will see how you and the kids feel. trust me i feel you on this one...
what does he do? is he picking up overtime or does his job naturally lead to long hours? if you are financially doing well, and he doesnt need the extra hours, he should be with the family.
I took you all's advice and sat down and talked to him in a calm tone and came to an agreement that three times a week he has to come home and spend quality time with his kids. He "brokedown" and told me he was working the extra hours to buy me a better engagedment ring. So sweet, you think? He told me he was going to get it next week. Erik works to Miller, the beer company.
congrats!!!!!!
im glad you got things settled.
That's soooo sweet!!!!!! I'm glad things worked out for you!
Wow. He sounds like he really cares about you, and was trying to do something really nice for you. It was good to let him know that you just want him home with the family, and that is all you need.
Good luck to you guys!
I am a single parent who is treading the day when my son asks me wheres my daddy? you'll feel very lonley but you'll survive cause your a srtong women who has given birth to two precious babies! :D
i'm glad things worked out with you and your partner. lots of couples have problems with time management and parenting duties, so its probably a relief to see that he does commit to you and your family together.
just a note: as a single mother, i think it needs to be said that saying that you "feel like a single mom" kind of seems like an insult to those of us who are parenting alone.
being a single mom is more than having kids who "don't see there daddy enough" or feeling hurt that those kids are sad that their dad isn't around. it takes a lot of strength to parent alone, and from my 3 years of experience in doing it, i've learned that the days where my bond with my son and our happiness with our life together far outnumber the days that he asks me where his dad is. kids are smart enough to figure out that having people in their lives who love them is enough, even if those people don't happen to be a Mom and a Dad.
i'm not attacking you by any means, it just sucks to see the various myths of dominant culture (like that the nuclear family is actually normal, or that being a single mom is something bad) showing up on the girlmom forums without anyone saying anything. moms here come from all backgrounds, and its important to ensure we aren't dissing anyone else in expressing our frustrations over privileges we feel we are lacking. single moms are some of the hardest working, most dedicated, most badass kickass strongest women i've ever met. just thought that needed mentioning.
again, i'm glad things worked out for you. just remember to consider your privileges and words before comparing yourself to another group of people, especially moms.