I know it's been less then 2 weeks since Ceilidh was born, but Xander's acting out is seriously making me question my sanity lately. I am really feeling like I can't deal with him, Ceilidh is such a sweet good baby, and then there's this almost 3yo that yells at me, won't sleep at night and destroys everything in his path. He's wonderful for anyone else, but refuses to listen to me and tells me constantly that Im "mean" or that he is "mad at mama!!".. he won't even call me and brett's room "mamas room" anymore.. he wont acknowledge I even sleep there, he tells me "No.. that daddy's room!" !@#$%^&* :evil:
Im just about to go compeltely empty his room of anything not necessary because he has started throwing things and keeps coming way to close to hurting himself (and Ceilidh) with anything he can find (he pulled this light that was in the wall off and broke it because he didnt want to nap this afternoon too) ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!
That doesnt sound like fun, seems to me like he wants to spend more like with you (?). All I can think of is maybe going on a special outing with him one day (when some1 can watch the baby for an hour or two). Do something that he likes (going to the playground or the mall), let him get a little spoiled and explain to him why he needs to be a good boy. Almost 3 year olds are very smart, he should understand and hopefully he will cooperate even if its only for a little while
I think it's an awful phase. Alexis misbehaves constantly as well. She says that I'm mean... that she wants a new mommy... that I'm a bad mommy. She throws temper tantrums and throws things around. She also hits and kicks and pushes Mason. I don't know what to tell you. I have yet to find a solution. I need to find some good discipline books so I can learn how to deal with this... it's crazy.
That doesn't work. I tell Alexis all the time that if she's a good girl she'll be rewarded. She doesn't care. She's very defiant. If she doesn't get something she wants she just throws an even bigger hissy fit. Material things don't mean a thing to her. I've tried the Santa thing and it's worked a few times. But now she tells me that she doesn't want anything anyway and if Santa doesn't get her presents, than I can in his place. Uhhhh... no. It doesn't work that way. LOL. But rewards don't work anymore. It's so frustrating.
Could he be jealious of the new baby?
I'm sure that he is very jealous of the new baby(who wouldn't be?!!) but it sounds as if whatever he has, my son does too and he's my only kid as of now. Nothing but hateful words come from his mouth, he doesn't enjoy the time we spend together, and he is the picture of defiant. Maybe it's just being "3" ??? The storm is passing over here a little but the hateful words are just as rampant as ever. Good luck getting through this.
i am in the same boat. i was actually going to start a thread about wild 3 yr olds but then i saw this. I'm sure it's like 100x more stressful for you since you have a new baby. So i won't say that i know exactly what you're going through in that regard, but i am so frustrated with my 3 y/o right now. She is so grumpy, won't take naps anymore, but won't go to bed til 10:30 (which would be ok except for the fact that we have to get up by 8 am). If I say "come here sweetie" she's like, "NOO MAMA!! DON"T CALL ME SWEETIE!!!" and starts throwing a fit. It is a battle to get her dressed in the morning, to get her to eat at all, to get her to quit clinging to me when i take her to daycare. Yesterday when i dropped her off at daycare, she was screaming and crying and i just went and got in my car and started to cry. I feel like the worst fucking mom ever. I don't know where I went wrong, but everyday is stressful with her now. She does not listen to me, tells me I'm "being mean to her".
I am sorry that I'm taking over your thread here, that was not my intention but I had to get all that out. Just want you to know that you are not alone in this, and I know your kid, mine, and Heather's are all around the same age and so it must be just a phase. Or atleast I hope so. When people say terriible twos now, i'm like shit, wait til the 3's!! Two's was nothin. This didn't start until maybe a month ago, and she just turned 3 on the 20th. So maybe late 2's , early 3's would be more accurate. anyways, i am babbling now but good luck mama. pm me if you ever need to vent! seriously, i mean that!
I have heard tales from moms of 3.5-4 year olds that all went through this shitty phase that once they turn 3.5 things clear up for awhile. Mostly moms of girls have said this so maybe boys will be a little later, but I seriously hope that they aren't just saying that so we will keep our sanity a little longer. LOL. Good luck with your "terrific"(sarcasm) three year olds !!