I watched Oprah "After the Show" tonight and felt totally ancient and out of the loop.
Can any GMs explain the Down Low to me? I must admit, I've always presumed that if a man had sex with another man, that meant he was gay. But, on the other hand, is my thinking skewed because I can see two women kissing and/or caressing and not think they're lesbians? Does society condition us to that viewpoint? Also, on this show, one of the "experts" (don't know his actual credentials, sorry) said that "gay" is a "white word," and that "homosexual" was a better term. Again, I feel completely clueless - I thought "gay" was a sort of universal acceptable word for male or female homosexuals, of whatever ethnicity. Can any GMs please give an enlightened point of view?
I don't know exactly what my question is...I thought I was open-minded regarding sexuality, but this show has made me re-think my ideas of lesbianism vs homosexuality. As I mentioned earlier, to me, two women being intimate was sometimes just a gesture of closeness or comfort and didn't necessarily mean they were homosexual, but I'd never had the same viewpoint towards men. Can/do heterosexual men become intimate with one another? I apologize in advance if my head has been in the sand all this time.