I look even younger than I am, and even when I was pregnant with my second child, people were asking me if I was babysitting my little sister. People ask so much, that now my daughter walks up to complete strangers and says "My mommy's not my sister. She looks like my sister, but she's really my mommy." It is sooo embarrassing. :oops: Does this happen to anyone else?
People sometimes think Riley is my little sister. I just smile and say "shes my daughter" if they make a comment. I've learned to not care anymore.
after the firstt coupla times i just got into the habit of saying "mommy" when refering to myself allllll the time.
"mommy's gonna put you in the stroller"
"do you like the shirt mommy is holding?"
i didnt like to show it but it really embarassed and hurt me so i just did as much as icould to avoid it happening.
Lindsay,
I do that too :lol:
I look young for my age too, I look about 15 now even though I'm 19. When I was 15 and had a newborn and I looked about 11 I got it all the time! I know exactly what you mean
Everyone says that I look young for my age too but I have never had anyone assume that Tay wasn't mine!
I used to get that all the time! Now adays however, we have a sifferent but related problem. If my eldest and my youngest are out together, people assume she is a young mom. She has even had people cluck their tounges at her and wisper about "those teen moms" when she is out with her baby sister and thier dad.
Never ends let me tell ya, never ends. :roll:
lol i look like iam 14 and iam 18 i was 17 when i was pergnet and people would ask me how old are you like 14 right umm no iam 18. i have a 14 year old sister and everyone thinks we are twins because i look so young in a way that is a good thing but a bad thing too lol.
love stacy and samantha
God I hate that one "You look too young to be a Mom!" In fact, there is a book called that and it is all about success stories of young moms (it is on my Christmas list!). I use to get, "Are you her sister?" But now I have two and people just look at me like I am the scum of the universe. I think that some people may be asking if you are the sister to be nice. They may think it's more offensive to ask if you are her Mom. So... maybe not all of them have bad intentions. BUT A LOT OF THEM DO!!! I just don't answer people because I don't go around asking them how old they are or if their hair color is natural or what their bra size is, so why is my business their business?! Sorry to be so cynical, rock on with your awesome Mama selves.
- Susie
21 year old Mom to Melinda (5) and Margaret (5 months)
A few mamas from this site wrote stories/poems/etc in that book!
That is really cool! Now I am looking even more forward to reading it! It sounded like a great book - something that was actually positive about young parents. I hope Santa brings it to me!!
- Susie
21 year old Mom to Melinda (5) and Margaret (5 months)
It is a great book! I love it! I believe that Julie has a story in there...but I'm not 100%.
Rosie and Alli do, not sure who else...
Caitlin (malakais mama) also has a poem in there, she doent post here much anymore tho.
I am so sick of the "is she your sister" s#!t. I am now 27 with a 12 y.o. daughter and I look very young and she looks more and more mature all the time. It is starting to seem like people don't ask as much lately because they are SURE that she is my sister and not my daughter. It is soooo painful to have to explain to her (especially when she was younger) that there is nothing wrong with us. Unlike most 27 year-olds, I am so looking forward to turning 30 and hopefully getting some respect.
I also must vent on a similar note... As a young doctor, I was trying to reassure the mom of one of my pediatric patients that she was not a bad mom for not bringing her son into the doctor sooner. He was very sick and no one would have seen it coming. So, I told her that she was not a bad mom and I know how it feels to wonder if you are always doing the right thing as a mom, because I am one. She instantly blurted out that I didn't look old enough to be a mom and that I look like I'm still in high school. I was enraged. a) I was trying to be nice to her. b) At 27, I am plenty old enough to be a mom. I may have been young when I started, but millions of 27 year olds have kids, for crying out loud!!!
I've said it before on this website and I'll say it again, since I haven't been here in so long: I am so happy there is girl-mom.com! Teenage parenting is hard and not recommended as an ideal but when it happens, we need all the freakin' support we can get.
Don't feel bad! I'm only 15 and I have an 11 month old son. People mistake him for my little brother all the time! Its got to the point where now when he wines in a store I say "Its o.k. Mama's boy." even though it does get me alot of dirty looks! LOL :lol:
When my mom and I took Tay to see Santa this year he refered to my mom as Tay's mom.. I laughed!! LOL!!
No one ever asks If I'm his sister because around here 31 year olds look under 21. I do get stared at when I'm not with my husband. (He this they maybe intimitated by him, he's 6'2'' and thick) I do however (And this is so strange) get a lot of guys that think I'm easy and hit on me because I have my son. I accually have had guys that were both my and my husbands friends think I'll cheat on him because of my son
I usally explane to them some times more then one that wont happen
i get that a lot because i look really young, but i don't care... i just reply saying, "no she's my daughter." and leave it at that, you know they sometimes seem like they really wanna go into how old you are and how old your child is, but it isn't their business. i don't care what they think about me. we are all damn good mamas no matter what age we are!
Welcome to GM!! Sorry this comment offended me. I want to talk about it. There have been studies that show the teenage years can be an ideal time to have children. Teen moms and young moms are less ambivilant than older mothers and tend to have more hands on support. I am curious as to who you're quoting when you say it's ont "reccommended as an ideal?" Also there are mothers on here who chose to try to concieve on purpose.
I do agree that mothers need all the support we can get- being a mother is HARD WORK. I'm not trying to offend you at all- I just want to generate discussion about this :)
most people dont assume my little girls my sister. they just look at me as if they just know im one of them! those girls who , gasp have babys young.
What is it with guys thinking that just because you have a kid you are willing to sleep with them? This happens to me all the time at school and just walking around, and i really hate it! :evil: I dont really get the "is he your brother" thing so much because i look older than i am, but i remember when i was younger and would take my baby cousin out, people would assume that i was her mom and would say things all the time. People can be so dumb sometimes...
i aint had that yet my baby not here not conceived yet! i look older than i am :d