Chey is 18 months old and she won't sleep in her crib. When I put her in it she cries until I take her out. She will only sleep with me but I need sleep also. Chey moves around and kicks so much that Larry and I are not getting any sleep. So in the morning Larry is cranky for work and he needs slepp becuase he works 12 hour days at a hospital as a nurse. I haven't moved in with him just staying there almost every night. What can I do so she will sleep in her crib? She has never slept in a different room withtout me there.
this sounds harsh but maybe just let her cry it out?
I have a futon on the floor beside my bed. I nurse and cuddle my baby to sleep there, then when he is asleep I get in bed with my husband. It works great for us! You might want to try a similar arrangement.
Chey never had any problems before sleeping in her crib when I would sleep in my room. The crib was in my bedroom so she saw me when she got up or was put to sleep. Now that I'm staying at Larry's house more often he got her a crib for his house but the crib is in a different room than where we sleep. I have tried to let her cry it out but she dosen't stop crying. I need more suggestions becuase crying it out dosen't work for her. Chey can't sleep with us becuase she moves around and kicks. Larry needs sleep so he can go to work for his 12 hour nursing shift the next morning.
From the way you described things I'm not sure if you cosleep at home at your own house with Chey or not? Is the transition from crib in your room with you to her own room or is it from cosleeping the same bed with you to her crib? Are you planning on moving in with Larry? The reason I ask is, most babies are used to the smells/sounds of their own house. You probably would have better luck of transitioning her into a crib at home where she will normally be first and then trying her in a crib out at Larry's house. Most babies are also comforted by blankets/pillows/or stuffed animals that smells like someone or some place familiar to them. I know when I moved out of my parents house with Tommie she would cry at our new apartment and they only thing that would calm her down was her blanket that smelled like my parents house or a t-shirt of her dads that smelled like him. This may sound a little odd, but maybe wash and dry a special baby blanket for her so it smells fresh and spray your perfume on it so it also has traces of you. Then take the blanket to Larry's house and let it absorb the smells of his house, mixed with you. Bring it back and forth from Larrys house to your house so that she gets used to the smells and surroundings of both places and can use it as a source of comfort if you choose to let her cry it out. I think the crying out method is successful (or is fair to use) if you have given your child a way to comfort themselves. You can't just expect her to be able to calm herself without tools to do so. She may cry until she notices the blanket and is able to smell familiar things, or Tommie was comforted by rubbing her fingers over the corners of her blanket. You have to remember that babies who cant use their words yet are apt to using their other senses more frequently. I'm not sure if any of this will help, but I wish you the best of luck and PM me if you need anything.
Can you move the crib into the room where you and Larry sleep? You could take one of the sides off, and put a guard rail up on the bed you sleep in, then move her crib up right next to it. That way she'll be close, but she'll stay in her bed when she's sleeping because of the guard rail. Kayla has yet to sleep in her crib, sometimes I can get her to sleep in her bassinette, but usually it's with me.
You said that Chey didnt have any problems when her crib is in the same room as you are sleeping, so would it be possible for you to move her crib into the bedroom where you and Larry sleep? That way she could still see you, and she wouldnt keep Larry awake with her kicking and stuff.
sorry, I didn't see your other reply...is there any way to move her crib into Larry's room until she adjusts to sleeping at his house? Then move her into her own room once she is familiar with the sight/sound of his house? Also is it possible to have her play in the room that her crib is in during the day so she can get used to the room itself? And then put a lamp or night light in the room so it looks the same as shes used to when its time for bed? Can she take naps in there? I think the more she gets familiar with the room the more she easier she will adjust to it.
She dosen't cosleep with me. The crib is too big to fit into Larry's bedroom. I'm not planning on moving in Larry, not for a long time anyway. I will try to have her play or at least nap in the room. Larry watches her on his days off so I'll tell him to do that instead of having her on the bed to nap. I'll bring a blanket with my perfume on it and give it to her to sleep with. I really don't want Chey to sleep in the bed with us or in the same room becuase I really don't like to be quiet when having sex or whispering to talk. If it comes to the last resort then I will have Chey cry it out but I really don't want to that. Thanks for the advice mamas.
Could you try rocking her to sleep, holding her for 20 minutes or so, and then try putting her in her crib? That way she falls asleep with you, but doesn't sleep all night with you.
I have tryed to rock Chey to sleep but she will not stay still for me to rock her. She hates to be the holding postion and will wiggle and whine to get free. I breastfeed her to sleep most of the time and she falls asleep but the second I set her down in the crib she wakes up and I tryed to pat her back or rub her head but that dosen't work, soon she is standing wanting to get out of her crib.
I think at her age letting her cry it out is okay, just make sure to check in on her in a calming way. Go into the room, lay her back down if she is standing, quietly tell her it's "bed time" or another cue word, and leave the room. Be consistent, do the exact same thing every time you check on her. I also think a comfort object like a blanket or favorite toy is a good idea. Maybe also a spill proof cup of water. Good luck!
I really don't want her to have to cry it out. If I do let her cry it out what will that do? I do lay her down when she is standing but she will just get right back up or fight me from laying her down. Should I give her breastmilk in a cup instead of the water or just water? I do say to her "its night night Chey" so I'll keep saying that. I gave her her blanket with my perfume on it. Larry is going into the room also to help soothe her. Should I not have Larry go into the room to calm her? How long will this take for her to adjust to the new surroundings? As I type this she is screaming and saying MAMA. I hope this stops soon.
i don't agree with CIO, it just NEVER worked for me, it bothered me too much and aaron could go on screaming forever.
I think it's incredibly super important that you comfort and re-assure chey as much as possible that you're not going anywhere. Make the room dark, tuck her in, give her her cup or bottle, read a story, give hugs and kisses and cuddle for a while, then tell her it's time for mommy to go night night too, and leave. Check back every 10-20 minutes. If she gets up, just put her back in bed and say 'it's time for night-night!' tuck her in and leave again.
It can take a while for this all to work, but it WILL work eventually. Be consistent and persistent. Try to stick to a schedule as closely as possible, even if you're not at home.
Cry it out won't work for Chey she just screams and dosen't tire herself out. I put a cup of breastmilk in the crib with her but she is not instrested in it. I go in the room every 15 minuets and say it time to go night night and lay her back down in the crib and kiss her good night. I also gave her a blanket with my scent which she holds but it dosen't soothe her. It 9:30pm amd I have to get up at 4:30am for work. I NEED to get to bed but can't with her screaming. Should I just let Larry(he has tomorrow off so he can sleep in)take over for me until Chey is asleep or should I keep doing this till Chey gose to sleep.
Maybe you could put a futon or something on the floor in the other room instead of a crib so you could lay down with her until she is asleep.
i don't have anything like that or else I would. I'm starting to loose my cool. Thankyou for the help.
Why don't you just put the crib mattress on the floor for now? She is over 1 year. At that age, my daughter didn't want to sleep in a crib, but she slept fine in a toddler bed. I guess she felt trapped.
Its going to take time for her to get used to Larry's house. She wont automaticly be willing to just sleep through the night there on her own in a new room. New surroundings always take time for babies. Like others have said, being consistant is key. She has to learn how to comfort herself, crying is her way of letting you know she needs your comfort for security because that is what she is used to. I think you will see more results the longer she spend time at Larrys house. I want to stress how important it is for her to take naps in there and also have the same comfort/security object (in this case its a blanket) when shes there. You want her to form an attachment to the blanket as well as be familiar with the room so she feels safe instead of feeling that you are the ONLY thing that she is comfortable/familiar with in these new surroundings. I think its a good idea, for now at least to at least put the crib mattress on the floor in Larry's room. Have her take naps in the crib during the day when shes there with Larry and then at night if shes not comfortable to stay in there herself on the crib mattress in Larrys room. Eventually she will be able to transition into the room herself and I know its very frustrating wanting your baby to adjust quickly. Just remember to keep the same routine with her and familiar objects around her and give it time. PM me if you need to talk.
Aren't most kids out of a crib my 18 months?
And she probably just doesn't like sleeping at Larry's house. This is probbably less of a crib issue than a strange house issue.
Thats what we did last night was put the crib matress on the floor next to the bed after she cried for 2 hour straight. She won't sleep in a toddler bed so thats why she is still in the crib. After I put the matress on the floor and she saw me go to bed she went right to sleep. She is going to take her naps in the crib when Larry watches her. I gave her a blanket with my scent on it and that helped. Hopefully this will go smother from now on. I'm going to slowly transition her from the crib matress to the crib in the other room. Thanks for the help everyone.
Jasmine's the same. I've tried the pick up put down method and even putting the shirt i wear during the day in with her (so she still has my smell). But neither's worked. So i'm going to look through these replies and see if any of the girls suggestions will work for me
btw. bottles in the crib are bad for babies, it rots their teeth because the milk pools in their mouth.
what i did with kayleigh, she also hated her crib, she wasnt as old tho. i let her play on the floor with her boppy pillow and then took the same to bed with her. when she got older i let her sleep with my silky robe. it smells like me and she loves the feel of silky things. i also have a little music maker near her bed. i play it whether she is upset or not, that way she knows when she hears it is really time for bed. so when she starts to cry i turn it on and it distracts her from her crying and sooths her enough to let me leave the room.
Chey is doing so much better sleeping in the crib in the other room. She will sleep in the crib at nap time while Larry watches her and will play in there too. At night she will whine for about 5 minuets holding the blanket with my scent on it. I have only given her water in a sippy cup. I just lay her down and say its night night time and mommy is go to sleep too and she will calm down. Larry and I are getting sleep now, thanks for all the help.
samantha did not sleep in her crib for the frist 6 months she slept in her car seat she would not sleep in any thing but that damn thing lol but i did fianly get her to sleep in her crib and now she will only sleep with me becasue one night she was sick so i put her with me and now she wont sleep unless she is in my bed.
love stacy and samantha