Most of you know the history with me and BD, so I wont go into that, but I need some help. My restraining order against BD is done, and he hasnt been bugging me at all, but he called me last night. He said he misses Riley and he wants visitation, even if its supervised. He said that he didnt want to bring it into the courts but he will if he has to. What can I do? What exactly is supervised visitation? Who supervises? I want Riley to know her dad, but I want to make sure shes safe and I just dont know. Does anyone have any info on this for me? Any advice?
I think that you should go talk to a lawyer and find out what your options are. There are lawyers that will work pro-bona (for free), and others will do free consultations, so you can find out what your rights/options are.
As I understand it, and I could be wrong, supervised visitation can either be supervised by the court (there will be officials watching him while he plays w/Riley, and it has to be done in a court appointed place), or by you or another adult you think is responsible. It mainly means that he can not be alone with her.
Thanks a bunch. Im going to try to find a lawyer, and see what my rights are. I want BD to see Riley, but Im just scared, you know. I'd never forgive myself if something happened to her. I wouldnt want to supervise, because I dont feel comfortable at all. Thanks again for your help.
I've never heard of court-supervised visitation, but maybe it's just not an option in my state. I know in extreme circumstances, visitation must takre place at a police station, but that's hard to get unless the person has a violent criminal record.
There are 2 types of supervised visitation I'm familair with, and it's not at all hard to get with young children.
First, is when you have a mutually agreed supervisor, for example, his mother or someone else in his circle who you trust. That person would be responsible for being at the house when he has visitation. The second type is public visitation, which is more common with olfder kids. This is when he would see her at Chuck E. Cheese or someplace like that.
I had supervised visition with my BD till he took me to court and got it lifted that fucker. It was court appointed so a lady from the court would come to the park with Chey and BD would meet her there and have Chey for few hours with court lady watching him and taking down notes on how allen handle her by seeing if he attened to her needs and how long it took for him to do that and if he did it at all. I got to see the notes that the lady took also so I would know how allen was handleing my daughter. That supervised visitation work out really well for me becuase I didn't worry when Chey was with him. So now she stays at his house every other weekend with out supervised visitation from the court. I'm not really worried about that anymore since he proved to be a dad. PM me Steph if you have any questions or need to talk. I think about you. I love you sweetie.
supervised visits differ from court to court and situation to situation.
sometimes the visits are held in a certian facility, a child care area, a room at DCFS, etc. they visits sometimes are taped, and sometimes the person supervising can be a DCFS worker, a court appointed person, even police. sometimes however, supervised is the judge sayin g"k..maybe this person needs watched a little, and maybe the other custodial paernt is just being a baby" and sends the person home telling them they have visitations as long as (in the case i knew of here) BD's mom signed some paper says she would stay with them the entire time he had the baby....you just never know.
I wish I had some advice, but I don't. I just wanted to say good luck Steph and I'm thinken about you!
steph,
go talk to a lawyer, from my experience bringing the courts into it could be the best thing for everyone,
Think about it, above all you want riley to be safe, and looked out for, and if you don't have anything through the courts you don't have the back up if he changes his mind, or decides to not follow what you two agreed on.
if you wanna talk i'm here ok?