I told myself I wouldnt have sex for awhile..and well I guess I lied to myself because I had sex tonight. I was really horny (TMI??) And then to top it off, I was upset bcus of BD, so I dont really know why..but I had sex with my friend. I dont regret it really, but I just feel like I shouldnt be having sex right now. It felt good at the time, and Its not like I feel like I dont want to..i just feel like other people think I shouldnt. I dont know. Im so confused.
I think that you have had a lot a lot a LOT of stress to deal with, lately, and sometimes you just need to find a way to release that tension.
If you were able to do that with someone else, good on you. Do what feels right.
And you know what? It's no one else's business what you do. Other people can shove their self-righteous noses where the sun don't shine, because I know that you are strong woman capable of doing whatever's necessary for your and Riley's health and happiness...and you're DOING it.
I don't know if this will help you stop critisizing yourself, I don't think any of us can ever be completely un-self-critical...but I just want to reiterate that you deserve to completely revel in anything you find pleasurable.
If YOU are comfortable with what you did, then it's ok. I think it's a good idea to take a break from having sex after you've been through a lot, just because it CAN get complecated, but if it didn't, and you're cool with it, then do what you are going to do.
The other thing is, just because you HAD sex, does not mean that you have to continue to do so. If you don't want to, then don't, if you do, then do. I would caution that you examine the reasons WHY you want to have sex, though, before you have sex, just to make sure things don't get needlesly complecated.
I guess it depends on why you're giving yourself a "break". Me, personally, I feel really vunerable since I left BD and I'm not ready to let anybody get that close to me right now. But if you feel like that' s not an issue for you, and you are able to have sex and not let it interfere with your mind and feelings, then by all means I think you should enjoy it! Sex can be a great way to relieve stress, as long as you don't let the other person stress you out!
I'm trying to uncover the reasons why I feel like i want to have sex, because Im really not sure if i even want to, or if i just want to feel close to someone. I have issues with sex (obviously), and I really am trying to work through those but im having a hard time and i feel like i have no one to go to.
Because you don't want to have sex, I wonder why you're making time for it. You're a full time high school student, you're taking a CNA course, you're trying to make a plan for your life and find a place to live, and you're a single parent to a baby. I don't see how a sexy date could easily fit into your schedule. So, why is it your make the time? You said you're searching for why you continue to have sex, maybe go back to what you're thinking when you make the decision to spend time with that person, even if you didn't plan to have sex at the time. I'm guessing you need a baby-sitter for these escapades, so if I were you, I'd tell the baby-sitter to not agree to baby-sit unless you have a really good excuse.
From what im getting her, you enjoy sex, you like sex, you wanted sex, so you had sex, and now you feel guilty because "shit someone might look down on me!"
honey, as long as you are being smart about it, get on it, and dont give a shit if someone thinks you should have waited longer.
i have sex cuz it's fun sometimes and like stevie always looks hot when he's about to get off?? maybe you do it cuz its fun! idk im in a silly mood.
She had identified that she tries to have sex to lift her self-esteem and was trying to find better ways to build self-esteem before deciding to have sex again.
I'm scared, but I think Im going to talk to my sister about this, and see if she can help me. I think abstaining from sex is a good idea for me right now, because of all I have been through and all that i am going through right now. Does anyone have any good insight onto how I could bring up this conversation with my sister, and what I should say? Im nervous, but I really need some help and some support.
sorry for displaying my ignorance here but scared about what?
Dont worry about it sweetie, im glad you asked if you didnt know. Im scared to talk to my sister about my sex issues, but I need support with it. I feel like all I have to offer a guy is sex, and I dont want it to be like that.
I dont understand tho where you would even get the time to have sex, i mean working/high school/cna class/riley/hanging out with friends probably consumes so much time, shit if i had to do that i wouldnt even be on the computer!
but to bring up the subject maybe just be like so sis got laid lately? but then again though i'm more of a blunt person and me and my sister converse about shit like that :P
damn girl another horny post... you should come and visit lol
i think you should just take a break from men all together for awhile. buy yourself a vibrator and stay home with that gorgeous lil girl of yours...
Steph, I know how you feel. honestly, I felt like the only way to make a guy like me was to have sex with him. Obviously, this plan backfired on me, and while I thought Id feel better, like it would raise my self esteem, all it did was lower it. I always felt used (which really, I was) and it just... sucked... i think it would be a good idea for you to abstain. if you wanna talk. PM me your phone number. I have free long distance... love you
Thanks babe!! It feels good to know that you understand! Im here for you too, if you need me!! Im BUSY as all heck right now, but when Im done with this class I will definitely exchange numbers with you and we can call eachother and hopefully arrange a get together sometime (with kell too and Kristy and Jenni if they want and whoever else!!) I love you!