Everyone on this site seems very supportive of planned parenthood. I am too. I got both my pregnancy tests there, and if I ever needed an abortion, I know that is where I would go. However, in my experience planned parenthood did not seem very supportive of being a teen parent. When the nurse told me the results of my first pregnancy test was positive, I was overjoyed. I expressed how happy I was, and thanked her. She frowned at me, and told me how hard being a parent was, and how much it limited my options as a person. She said that I didn't have to live with the consequences of my mistake, that I could easily fix the problem by getting an abortion and birth control pills. I was extremely offended that she assumed my pregnancy was an unwanted mistake. I was SO angry, I am surprised I went back for my second pregnancy test, but my experience was completely different. I think it was because I was older, married, and it was my second child. Or maybe it was just thtat particular nurse was rude. Any thoughts?
That sucks.
The first thing that came to mind, was write a letter. Sit down writer, if you can find out the nurse who was giving you such grief. Carbon copy that letter to the whole clinic.
sorry again you had a sour experince there.
ames
i took my pregnancy test at pp also. i started crying when i found out because at first i didnt want to be pregnant. The nurse didn't really show any expression. she didnt try to say anything to make me feel better. she was like "how old are you?" and i told her 18 and my parents were going to kill me. she just kinda nodded and handed me a kleenex. Not that it's her job to comfort me, but i guess i expected a little more.
that really sucks though. Like ames said, it might help to write a letter. I thought about writing a letter to the hospital where i had my daughter, because they were really rude to me and treated me like a child. I never got around to it and its been over 3 yrs, but maybe I will still do it.
actually i think thats just everyone. i went to the healthdepartment and the lady just tried to grill me on my plans and everything, i felt offended because i came in there for a pregnancy test, not to be told i couldnt do it and i should just break down and kill myself because i " couldnt make it" and if i did then i would have a terrible life. i just think its these womens opinions. my ob also asked me if i told my mom, and when i said no she told me i should. im a grown women. ( i was 18) it insulted me because if i was 35 she wouldnt have said that and what if my mother was dead? what if, i run my own life and you just take my bloodpressure? ya know.
opps that was i am 18. not a smiley
I also went to the Healthdepartment amd got the same crap.She asked me where I was going to have the abortion or give the child up.I had not said anything about that.She said I was selfish and she'd be calling my mother.Poop is on her due to a fake phone # and address!LOL.I was 15 and scard.
When I went to PP. They wouldn't let my bd come back for the results. I didn't care but the part that bugged me is she took me back asked me what I would do if it was +. I Said I would keep it. She told me that is was + and my best option was to get an abo--- I interupted her and told her "I'M KEEPING IT". She said "fine go tell the father" all grumpy
A simalar thing happend to my friend also but hers was worse. I still went there later and would go there if I ever was pregnant again to get an abortion. I still think that they're a great place but there still human.
As for my doctor when I was pregnant He treated me extreamly bad. So I change dr. and My new Dr. keep telling me how great a parent I would be. Even asked me when I was planing my next. When I told him never. He tried to talk me into having more kids. :D . I love that dr.
When i took mine, the nurse was just like, arent you sad? but i wasnt sad, just confused and i think she expected me to be crying and stuff. I dont know, i guess i would rather have them be emotionless than be like, oh you should be sad and depressed, kwim?
I have to say I agree with you about PP. The first time I was pregnant - the person I talked to there was completely focused on abortion or adoption.
I also had an abortion through PP, and when I went in for a follow up vist, the nurse practicioner lady was MEAN. I would never go back to that location because of her actually.
The second time I was pregnant I saw a nurse practicioner and midwife at a low-cost clinic. They couldn't have been more supportive of what I decided. I think I was lucky because clinics like that can go either way.
i took my pregnancy test through PP too. I already knew going in I was pg but i needed documentation from a doctor so i went there. The woman wasn't mean but she wasn't nice. I think it would have been better had they had a social worker on staff to talk too. The woman couldn't answer simple questions for me and just didn't seem like she wanted to deal with me.