maybe you girls can help me a little or maybe some of you are like me, but when i have sex i have never had a orgasum coz it dont make me feel the way i should you know all pleasureable and stuff. i have never felt different with any of my ex partners ( only 3 so i cant compair alot) all it feels like is pressure down there and thats it. i dont want my boyfriend to find out so i fake it but i aint ashamed but wondering if im the only one that feels this way through something so personal
WEll I have felt like that with most of my parteners, only 2 have been able to pleasure me..... the first and the last which was my BD..... I was always on top and thats pretty much the only way I can be pleased...
Are you always on bottom?
Have you tried different positions??
I think you really have to be able to comunicate with your partner and verbalize what you want. It's really important...I didn't have good sex until I was able to do that.
By the way, welcome to girlmom! Have you been here before? your name sounds familiar. If so, welcome back.
If I'm not already feeling really aroused before I start to have sex, then it will feel boring at best, uncomfortable at worst.
If I'm turned on before we go there, it feels awesome. But I won't get turned on from intercourse. That needs to come first.
But position definately does change things. I like to be on the bottom, but with my legs up in the air (getting harder as my belly grows though!), or on my sid with him behind me. "doggy style" would be great, but it hurts my knees for some reason.
hope that helps a little
yeah i was on here b4 but i think with the new webby and everything my name got deleted.
yeah you got it right coz i only have like just over 2 weeks left till my baby is due we havent been able to do any positions like me being on top or stuff like that i have been restristed to my back from day one i think it was because we liked to explore and we would find places like fields but he would have to go on top because he could bend his body lower than me
at the moment sorry if this sounds dirty i tell him to tell me when he is about to cum so i know when to start faking the big sounds its not fun every time but i see he dont mind it and im just happy making him happy lol
though at the moment we are looking though pregnancy karma sutra to see different positions
I've faked it plenty of times... But the last time my bf gave me a wicked back massage and that really turned me on. I exploded. :D
that makes me so sad. DONT HAVE SEX IF YOU DONT WANT TO OR IT DOESNT FEEL GOOD. There is nothing wrong with you. YOU DONT HAVE TO HAVE SEX JUST TO MAKE A GUY HAPPY.
start reading erotica, reading about sex. figure out what makes you feel hot when you are alone. explore your OWN sexuality, away from a partner. Explore that side of you without giving even a second thought to ANYONE else. Take your body and pleasure into your own hands.
check out http://www.scarleteen.com
good luck!
I was never able to cum from penetration only until I let my partner know what was up and what felt good to me and I told him what I liked and what I didn't like. The only position I am able to cum from is missionary. But if you just let him know what's going on and say I DONT LIKE THIS and I DO LOOOOVE THAT sex will be 100x better I promise. I used to fake all the time to but now I love sex. Like Alli said though If you dont like sex then don't do it. No guy is worth being uncomortable over have sex for you not him. well enough of my book now lol :lol: I hope things work out.
For me, it's a lot better when I'm totally relaxed. Doing it at home never feels right cuz I think I'm gonna get sooo caught.
It's fun most of the time, but I always feel guilty thinking it might lead to another baby, even though we're really careful. I definitely don't want to get pregnant again...
In my experience, sex doesn't feel good unless it's been a few days since the last time. If we have sex every day, then it just becomes boring, no physical feeling, and I just want him to get it over with.
Have you ever tried being on top? Sometimes that's the only way a woman can get any pleasure out of it, and that's because they can choose the speed, position, etc.
Communicating with your partner about what you enjoy is also a plus if you're able to do it.
ive been there, ALOT. and really it just aint worth it if your not enjoying it, and its so much more worth it if you are.
i still havent found the perfect way through intercourse, its hit or miss. and for me, if there is no foreplay, there is no orgasm.
talk to your man, do more positions, more playing, bring out some aides if that is something you like
you say you only have two more weeks? well maybe the thought of having sex is making you uptight, not able to relax?? i dunno, th e thought of sex while i was pregnant was enough to turn anyone off, but other mommas i know had the best sex every while preggers.
well, maybe the partners that you have had just didnt understand your needs in that sense... ive only had 3 partners and the only one to get it right was my last... my husband... and he did something strange... he figured out my anatomy by feeling out the placement of my organs before we had sex for the first time... it sounds strange but he has never missed yet.
I didn't orgasm until I was 18 and started masturbating (I lost my virginity at 15, which was just sad cause I did it to piss off my mother)
My advice would be to explore your own body. Learn what you like and don't like. Until you know what makes you feel good, you won't be able to communicate that to a partner.
Also, be honest. Tell your guy you're not getting off. Most guys want to get the girl off, even if it's only about a pride thing.
And if you don't like something, or you don't feel right about it, DON'T DO IT! It's YOUR body, and it belongs to you. It's not there for the exclusive pleasure of others.
oh you're not alone! I've never orgasmed during sex I don't find it unpleasurable but Its not the greatest feeling! And for the sake of my partner I fake it too! I don't want him to feel like he's incompetent!
Your partner can't learn how to do what actually DOES make you feel good, if you aren't honest and don't tell him.
I didnt have any sex the entire time i was pregnant. I hated it! not everybody gets a enhanced sex drive with pregnancy.
Not many women can orgasm from penetration alone. Maybe start rubbing your clit while he's going away, and then let him take over ;) Faking it doesn't solve anything.