How to tell your parents you're pregnant

This is great because I know many, many girls come here because they need to know how to tell thier parents.
I am a bit concerned by #7. Maybe this isn't the way it is for anybody else, but when I was a pregnant teen I didn't have the option of just leaving. I wasn't allowed to leave the house without permision and I didn't always have access. I think #7 assumes that the teen in question has a vehicle or a supportive person with a vehicle or non-abusive parents that won't get more upset when thier daughter leaves.

#7 could be more like leave the room and just go cool down or also leave the house if allowed. Dont leave without permission because that could make things worse.

One of my friends actually called her mom from a phone booth and told her :lol:

Me on the otherhand I told my mom with my best friend and it was on xmas eve, we both exspected my mom to blow but she dident , not even a week later she was out buying baby stuff.

I would have LOVED to have this information telling my parents about my pregnancy. This will be a HUGE help.

Maybe this is the equivalent of tel them first.. but dont try and hide it. Baggy clothes, never being home, because even though sometimes your parents seem clueless, they'll catch on.

When i finally had the guts to tell my mom that i was almost positive that i was pregnant i wrote her a note. That worked for me and i am actually surprised because she didn't even freak on me!

My mum and I were really close and quite open anyway. So she knew right frm the start when I went for my pregnancy test. My mum always told me "If you ever find yourself in a difficult poistion, then don't be afraid to ask for help". My dad on the other hand was completely the opposite to my mother. I was very afraid of him finding out. So my mum told him. She told him at the right moment, which was in the middle of the night, so he had time to think it over until the next day. And because he used to get up early for work he would not see me in the morning, so he had all day to think about it. He didn't end up getting angry at me, my mum and dad have both supported since the day they both found out.

But my boyfriends parents took to it quite difficult, because they found out in the principals office. But they eventually cam round to the idea, and now they are very proud grandparents aswell.

My advice is diffenately DON"T TRY HIDING THE TRUTH, because its only going to break your parents trust when they find out. And it will only prove to them how immature you really are.

Just tell them and tell the father ASAP.

This last time when I found out I called BD right away and then I called my Mom and sister, who I knew would tell my dad and his side of the family, so I could call my friends.

My friend found out she was pregnant when she was like 18. She didn't tell the dad and she went away on vacation and he was killed in a car accident. She never got to tell him. How horribly sad is that? My BD is a beer delivery guy so as soon as I found out I called him and was like, "I have to tell you this because I'm afraid you'll die" (weird laughter on his part) I was like, "are you sitting down?" (he laughs again and says, "yea") "I'M PREGNANT". He says, "Are you serious"

I took my test out of blue... because of a fight I had with my boyfriend and I had a wierd feeling.. maybe instinct to test... I did it right after I got off the phone with him ( after the fight ) and I called him back 3 minutes later.. and said Oh MY Gosh! you wont believe it! I was in shock still but he was incredibly happy..

out of all 4 parents... my dad and mom and my boyfriends dad and mom..After I was 3 months pregnant I told my boyfriends mom first... She was the most supportive but put her critasism in of course. then she made me tell my mom... I used text messaging to tell her, i wanted to tell her for so long and I finally did... through my cell phone!... (whats the world come to haha) She replyed and was in shock... she played the over dramatic mother for a few weeks and got over it... before I knew it she begged to go into the docters room with me.. and rubs my belly and took my to register at babys r us.. and is helping me re do my room..!! It just takes time but I think what hurt her the most is that I didnt tell her in the beginning and I told her 3 months later... before you knew it... my gossiping family heard the news... and its wonderful... interesting at times saying "MY BABY" still gives me goose bumps.. but its amazing... and im glad its all happened and everyone has come around... it makes it a much more enjoyable pregnancy.. But heavens knows it was a long road to get people to come around!!...

I moved to Seattle in May, from about an hour south of St. Louis. So I'm three-thousand miles away from my mother.

I had no option but to tell her over the phone. She cried hysterically. We hung up with her crying. She called back 5 minutes later to tell me to drink lots of orange juice for the folic acid content and to take care of her grandbaby.

My step-dad was immediately ecstatic, because the baby is due near his birthday. Plus, he never had children of his own and the fact that he gets to be papa makes him happy.

My birth father was also happy.

BD's parents were another story. Both in their 60s and incredibly conservative, I expected the worst. I'm 19, he's 31. We're not married. We've known each other a hot 4 months. I expected all hell to break loose.

His mother took it well. "Oh, is that right? How are you feeling?" She's been fighting cancer for about 14 years, so the fact that she got to hear the words "you're a grandmother" was music to her ears.

His father was cold and stoic, as is his normal reaction to anything. "Well, neither of you are really in the position to have a baby. But I guess congratulations are in order." That was that. He walked outside to paint the side of the house.

Wow, what reactions.

Haha! I like your story Hippyfreek. Your BDs dad gave me a chuckle cuz I think thats how my grandma is going to react when she finds out. All my cousins are excited to finally have a new baby in the family as its been 12 years since the last was born so I think they have something up their sleeve for christmas, like getting me something for the baby, and me opening it and grandma sitting there watching, it's gonna be kinda funny cuz she'll be wondering why the hell 12 people bought by baby stuff. I think she'll be happy tho!

Those steps will definitely help. I remember the fear of telling the parents completely took up my thoughts for days, we agreed to tell them 3 days after we found out, all on one day so that we could get it over and done with. It was the hardest thing to do, but after it was done, it was like this incredible burden had been lifted and we could concentrate on other things.
I told my mom first and she started crying but was happy. Now she's so excited she's eating for two (but nobody tell her that...) My dad unfortunately had to move to NY last year (3,000 miles away from me and all of his family) and it has been really hard, we were so close, so when I had to tell him over the phone he kind of went into shock and asked to call me back? I was like....well ok...we'd talked for no more than 4 minutes...and he calls back with my stepmom and is like, now take care of yourself and we're supportive and everything. Now my parents are completely supportive and I'm glad that I told them in the beginning because over time they mellowed out more and are so happy.
My dear boyfriend's parents however were another story. Somehow his mother guessed over the phone while we were driving, well he was driving. She ended up yelling at him and getting very very upset, you see he is the youngest of the family, and his mother's favorite, her "perfect child" as you will. Of course she immediately asked him if I had seduced him into having sex. Yeah lady, after 4 and half years I finally got my way...anyways, we had to pull over because he was crying so badly. A few weeks later, after we'd told our parents we were going to wait to get married, the wonderful woman called me and yelled at me, saying the only reason i wasn't marrying her son was because i didn't want to look fat in my wedding dress and i wanted a big wedding. Thanks a lot, grandma to be....Now she is a lot better, she still has some sarcastic remarks but deep down I know she is excited for this new grandson
As an end to this, just realize that sometimes things will go smoothly, othertimes not so much, but in the end it's better to be honest in the beginning then waiting to break the news after you've been hiding it.

yeah, geez...where is the sence in waiting 4 years, eh? if you really just wanted sex, you've got rid of the guy a loooong time before that--hahaha...anyways, congrats and good luck!

--Kris :lol:

i didnt tell my parents for a long time. my parents were unaware of my pregnancy and gave me an ultimatum, stay under our rules or be homeless, i choose to be homeless, my cried her self to sleep for 3 years because of her mistake. i called my mom after a car accident, i was stranded on the side of the road and wanted to talk to someone ( she lives in a different state but i just needed to talk) so i spilled. she was upset. still is. my whole family has turned their back on me. since then my family has mellowed. it wasnt so bad because i didnt leave near my family and didnt have to hear what they had to say. i could never imagen what it would be like to tell my mother i was pregnant, its embarassing and scarey. i dont think it is a sign of immaturity to not tell your parents, after all its your body and women face physical abuse by revealing pregnancy. i think its importnat for young women to be strong, know your rights, dont feel itimidated by your parents, writing a letter is good. go out to a friends and spend the night call your parents and tell them. that way nothing can exclilate

How do you tell you are pregnant a second time?

I got pregnant when I was 17. The problem was my parents have high hopes for me. They envisioned me finishing school, getting a good job, making it real big in whatever industry I would be in, sending my other siblings to college. Well, I could never blame them when they suddenly kicked me out of the house upon learning about my condition. It's a good thing, though, that my boyfriend's family was supportive, and they let me stay at their home until I gave birth.

Right now, my boyfriend and I are no longer together. It seems like he isn't ready yet for the responsibility. And so I have to make ends meet for me and my son. I am working two jobs right now, renting a small one-room apartment in New York, and trying to go back to school. My mom and I started talking once again, and it helped me a lot because I get to have some pointers from her on how to raise a kid. He's big now, he's already 8 years old.

I guess girls like us just have to be brave to be able to face situations like these. We are born smart after all. :D

My girlfriend is pregnant what do I do???? :(

You be supportive of her and whatever decision SHE wants to make. Remember it's her body and her child should she choose to keep it. If you decide you're not ready for the responsibility, SHE is the one who will have to pick up all the pieces, so please be respectful of that.

Direct her to this site. Nothing against you, but we don't allow male members due to the sensitive information we post.

hey mamamayhem, just because someone's gf is pregnant, doesn't mean they're male...

well then paxcow, are you male?

My mom was suspisious that I was preggo cuz I was vomiting and sleeping more. So I went to the doctor and came home and told her and she told my dad without me there. In the beginning she supported me and now she doesnt. Neither of my parents do. It sux...

I AM 14 WEEKS PREGNANT AND I HAVEN'T TOLD MY MOTHER. I AM 23 YEARS OLD AND IM NOT SCARED BUT I DONT KNOW HOW TO BREAK IT TO HER. I HAVE AN APPOINTMENT NEXT WEEK FOR AN ULTRASOUND I WAS GOING TO FRAME IT AND GIVE IT TO HER....

I DONT KNOW SHE'LL BE HAPPY AND SHE SOMEWHAT KNOWS CAUSE OF MY BELLY :lol: BUT I WANT TO BREAK IT TO HER DA RIGHT WAY....

I ALREADY HAVE A 2 1/2 YRS OLD AND A 5 1/2 YR OLD HOPE SHE DONT FREAK OUT...

WISH ME LUCK.... :P

i wish my mom would have been not so....hateing me. she hates me it feels like. i told her last night and god, she was NOT happy. now i guess were not talking.

Hi, I'm 18 and I'm 7 weeks pregnant now. I found this forum and have been reading everybodys tips on how to tell my parents. The only thing is I'm not in a stable relationship. The father is my bosses son and he's 24 and one of my older brothers friends.It all started as a bit of fun and when my parents found out they thought he was just using me and hated him and have done ever since even though as time went on we actually started going out and doing things together like a proper couple. The other week he broke up with me because he wanted an "easy life" and I told my mum. But a few days after was when I did a pregnancy test and I found out. So I went to work and ended up bursting into hysterical tears and having to tell him. So now he's actually being really supportive and he's facing up to the responsibility. He promised to go through everything with me because I want to keep it and he's been to the doctors with me already. So I do trust him. Also, even when things were going well for us I didn't introduce him to my parents properly, so not only have they always hated him, they've never even met him and got to know him. Especially after I told my mum he broke up with me, she's really glad and thinks I'll have a better life now. How can I tell my parents I'm pregnant to someone they hate and have never even met? I've told my brother who used to work with him and he's been really supportive too. And the father's parents are also so lovely and supportive. I just don't know how to tell them because I'm a daddys girl and he's always had the highest hopes for me I'm his youngest child. I'm scared I'll make him ill. I just don't want them to hate him even after I've told them because it's tough enough as it is

Maybe tell them that. That it is hard. Maybe give them a chance to be around him. Let him suck up a bit to them and then tell them after they start liking him a bit.

i dunno how to tell my parents. so yeah im 2 months.

I found that it was really helpful to write out everything you plan on saying beforehand. It helps calm your nerves.

Karen

well im not sure if i am pregnant but i am 2 months late but i took 2 test and they both say negative so what do i tell my parents?????????????

Hi Jessy,

I would wait and take a test in another two weeks or try and go to a planned parenthood or other clinic and get them to do the test and a checkup to see why your period is missing. Also, skipping a period every now and then while you are young is not uncommon. It could be stress, or a growth spurt, or a change in what you are eating.