Im having alot of trouble with my son & my 3month old daughter. He wont let me hold her without him crying and throwing a fit. He never was like this before she was born. What should i do to break him out of this???
He's having a hard time adjusting to the new baby. It's pretty hard for a child to go from being the baby to being the older brother or sister. You can try setting aside some time for the two of you, while the baby sleeps or while someone is watching her. You can snuggle him, or play games with him. You can also see if he wants to help with the baby. You can have him bring you a diaper for her, or a toy for her to look at.
i would also try to get him more involved with helping you with the baby. Depending on how old he is you can give him 'jobs' like getting the diaper ready when you're changing her, have him pick out clothes or pajamas for her... just small things like this will help him become more independant and make him feel more like the 'big brother'.
Yeah It's just a reaction and also a phase my daughter was exactly like that with her babysitter when there was a new baby, she even went through the nappy bag and threw out all the babys things so the baby would have to go home!! (it was kind of funny at the time0!!
Like the other mamas said, helping your son feel like he's important to the baby can make all the difference. My step-daughter loves it when we talk about how much the baby loves her. It's totally true, too. I try and back off and let her play with him, even when it makes me a little nervous (big kids can be rough and really unaware of themselves, you know?). We say that he's her baby too.
All kids have a tough time with the transition, but I think that we are doing something great for them in giving them siblings. And the learning that comes with that transition is one that's really important for life--this is when they figure out how to go with the flow and how to think of other people, how to share, etc...
good luck, mama. this is a tough time! But it will get better, I assure you.
He's having a hard time adjusting to the new baby. It's pretty hard for a child to go from being the baby to being the older brother or sister. You can try setting aside some time for the two of you, while the baby sleeps or while someone is watching her. You can snuggle him, or play games with him. You can also see if he wants to help with the baby. You can have him bring you a diaper for her, or a toy for her to look at.
get him a baby so every time you hold or feed the baby he can hold or feed his baby.
i would also try to get him more involved with helping you with the baby. Depending on how old he is you can give him 'jobs' like getting the diaper ready when you're changing her, have him pick out clothes or pajamas for her... just small things like this will help him become more independant and make him feel more like the 'big brother'.
He's not spoiled. That's a totally normal reaction to having to deal with a big adjustment in his little life.
Yeah It's just a reaction and also a phase my daughter was exactly like that with her babysitter when there was a new baby, she even went through the nappy bag and threw out all the babys things so the baby would have to go home!! (it was kind of funny at the time0!!
Like the other mamas said, helping your son feel like he's important to the baby can make all the difference. My step-daughter loves it when we talk about how much the baby loves her. It's totally true, too. I try and back off and let her play with him, even when it makes me a little nervous (big kids can be rough and really unaware of themselves, you know?). We say that he's her baby too.
All kids have a tough time with the transition, but I think that we are doing something great for them in giving them siblings. And the learning that comes with that transition is one that's really important for life--this is when they figure out how to go with the flow and how to think of other people, how to share, etc...
good luck, mama. this is a tough time! But it will get better, I assure you.