Ok, me & trent live together and we get along. we're not dating, but we still do "couple" things but dropped the title. lyric has always been a mommy's girl. and a lot of times when trent wants to say hi or good night, she'll say leave me alone. it's been going on for a while. but sometimes they get along. well today, he said we should just move out.... he thinks she doesn't like him and he's not wanted. i don't know what to do. b/c he wants to be around, but feels like lyric doesn't want him to. and he grew up w/o a dad and he feels like it's a slap in the face.
Is there a reason she is responding to him like that? How does he treat her and you? When my daughter was little she didnt like her dad, and actually feared men, because many of his interactions with her were very negative. When he finally realized what he was doing to her (with my help) he felt really bad, and has worked very hard on developing a good relationship with her. They still have problems, but she doesn't cry anymore when I leave her alone with him, and even chooses to go with him sometimes. If Lyric's dad cares about having a relationship with his daughter, he should work on it. He can't expect the little kid to do all the initiating and all the work. Even if she rejects him, he has to keep trying. She is still very young and may grow out of it, or it might take extra work on his part. He needs to look at himself and his interactions with her to find out if he is inadvertantly doing anything to push her away.
Does he spend time doing things with her? Being with, showing her that he enjoys her? That he really wants her to be around and doesn't find her an inconvinience or interuption to what he is doing (i.e. that his hobbies and friends are more important than her). These things can make a kid standoffish. Also, how do you act around him, speak to him, respond to him? If she picks up your subtle cues that you want him to leave you alone, then she can feel and treat him the same way. Kids are very perceptive about those kinds of things. These may be some things to consider.
if he does not pay attention to her, or treats her in a way that would make her not like him, then maybe he should move out. But if he makes an honest effort, then him leaving is allowing your child to be in control of the family. Just because she's going through 3 year old moodiness does not mean that his presence is useless. Kids change preferences regularly and preferring one parent over another is not abnormal.
My son's the same way with my husband / his dad And I know he is great with my son. My son is horrable to him miguel says he'll grow out of it. My son wont even call him dad.Then there are days that my son is great with him.
My only suggustion is to give them alone time to build there relationship. tell him to keep trying, remember you'r family isn't the only one going through this. Sorry I couldn't help more.
Laerins dad is grea with her and me. plays with her and does everything for her that he can, but she does this.
She screams at him that she hates him. tells him only i am allowed to help her do things. i think that this is because we are so attached and really it may just be a stage. She sometimes has days where only he can help her (very very few days)
maybe explain to him that it is normal and a stage.