vasectomy~ typing tubes?

I don't think anyone "makes" anyone else get a vasectomy. It's a decision between the couple, and usually at the point the decision is made they believe that they will be together for many years to come. I would rather my partner get a vasectomy (which is much less painful/invasive than tying tubes) than get my tubes tied.

And if your argument against vasectomy is "what if he wants more kids"...what if you break up and want more kids with a future partner?

No, I am asking the opposite, because you said "why not get your tubes tied". What if you get your tubes tied and eventually break up with your partner and YOU want more kids with YOUR new partner? (unless you also meant the opposite when you said "what if he wants more kids with a future partner" of the man getting a vasectomy...)

I guess I'm not sure what you're asking then. I think people can make these decisions and be happy with them more often than not.

I would never MAKE him do it. It's his choice. We'd have to both agree that we had enough children and both feel that we will be committed to eachother for years if not life. The reason we'd choose that route is that it's less invasive, and less dangerous. Also (though we wouldn't count on it) if we decided that we really did want more kids, we could try to have it reversed.

My father had a vasectomy after his 5th kid (3 (2 are twins) with his first wife, and 2 (me and my sis) with my mom.), he felt that 5 kids were plenty. I think that his choice was really a respectable and responsible one. He and my mom were happy with the kids they had, and didn't feel anymore were necessary.

I always think of Home Improvement when Vasectomies are the topic :D But I admired "Tim" in episode.

Vasectomies are WAY less intrusive than tubal ligations. A vasectomy is an outpatient procedure; it can be done in like 45 minutes, and there are very few risks of complications. Getting the tubes tied is major surgery, carries more risks, and is waaaay more expensive too. That's why more people in long term hetero relationships choose vasectomies over tubals, I think.

You can't really "make" someone get a vasectomy--it's up to them. If the man might want more children in the future, he can speak up and say so. It's up to each couple to decide which method is best for them. In my relationship, I don't want more children but I don't want to be on birth control forever, and I'm unwilling to get my tubes tied. My partner is open to the idea of a vasectomy, so it will probably be him getting the procedure.

I would never 'make' my husband do anything. We've discussed this and its something we both want. If we should ever divorce or decide to have children later on, a vasectomy is much easier & and a lot cheaper to reverse.

( He will be getting the snip next month :D )

I didn't make my partner get a vasectomy. I'm not sure how I could even do that, short of clubbing him over the head and performing it myself with tweezers and an X-acto knife!

It was a choice we made together. We are both 100% certain that we do not want to have children, ever ever ever. Not together, nor with other people should we separate. This is the key point.

The logical course of action, then, was for one of us to be sterilized. Unltimately, it came down to logistics. Here's a quick comparison of our situation:

Vasectomy -
The doctor at planned parenthood could perform a vasectomy in the clinic with only local anesthesia. It cost $700 and we were in and out of the clinic in under an hour. He had the procedure on a Thursday, took Friday off work and was back at work on Monday.

Tubal -
There was no guarantee of finding a doctor in town who would perform a tubal on a childless 24 year-old. The doctor at planned parenthood said she would look around, but it didn't look promising. Pisses me off to no end, but that's the way it was. If by some chance I did find a surgeon, it would have cost about $5000 for the procedure. My insurance would have covered about half of that (hadn't touched the deductable) but it's still a big chunk of money. I would have had to be under general anesthesia for the procedure and stayed at least overnight in the hospital. After that, I would probably miss about a week of work while recovering.

Really, it was a no-brainer! The situation may be different for other couples but it was a really easy choice for us. After 7 years of pills and an abortion, we agreed that I had done my part. :wink:

Another benefit in favor of a vasectomy is that it's easy to test if it worked! Not so with a tubal.

If he dies or we separate and I enter another relationship, I would consider getting my tubes tied. I simply don't want children. Being in a new relationship would have no bearing on that matter and I'm pretty sure my partner is the same way.

P.S. The typo in your thread title makes me visualize little fallopian tubes tapping away at a keyboard!

a coupla comments - yes, vasectomies are much less invasive and have better chances of reversal. and if kids where an option, i guess one could always freeze some sperm and go the in vitro route.

also, they have started a new type of tubal procedure that is non-surgical and out-patient. its kinda like getting a iud an they place some springs in the falopian tubes and scar tissue builds around it completely blocking the way from the ovaries to the uterus. its completely irreversible but lots less invasive. im thinking about going this route once im done with the whole breeding thing.

heres some info (apparently this should be available in canada)

http://www.kaisernetwork.org/Daily_reports/rep_index.cfm?DR_ID=8239

http://www.conceptus.com/what_is_essure.html

A vasectomy is far, far less intrusive than having your tubes tied. The healing time is also much shorter.

Yeah I don't like the risks that come along with the scar tissue in the tubes either. A vasectomy is MUCH more reversable as well.

I suppose he would get a vasectomy because HE doesn't want any more children either. It's very invasive to get tubes tied and has a risk for tubal pregnancies and stuff I believe- it's not minor surgery. And a couple that is at the point of making permanent birth control decisions will hopefully be planning on being together for at least quite some time. It's not something people would plan after 6 mos or a year together.

My partner and I have discussed this and agreed that we want, at most, one more child, and after that happens (*if* we have another child it won't be anytime soon), he will have a vasectomy. Why? Well, the other mamas have pretty much covered it, it's WAY less invasive to have a vasectomy than a tubal. My partner is very well informed, he knows that it's the best option for us. The choice between a major surgery for me and an out-patient procedure for him wasn't a very hard one. He is certainly capable of making up his own mind and he has decided on a vasectomy when the time comes.

What if he wants to have more kids with someone else if we break up? Umm, he can adopt. He will already have 1 or 2 kids that are genetically related to him. That's enough for him (his words, not mine).

having gone through 3 miscarriages, i decided not to try for any more biological children. period. it just hurt too much emotionally, and my last miscarriage was esp rough on my body and everything else. i was going to get my tubes tied, but didn't really see the sense in it seeing as my BF is already fixed. its actually a relief not having to worry about getting pregnant!

my feeling on this is that its your body. you only know whats best for you therefore its no one's decision except your own- and don't let anybody try to talk you into something so permanant.