Is it normal to have these "oh my god, i'm gonna be tied down with a kid forever" feelings? I was in the car with my bf, and it was suuuuch a pretty day and i was remembering how fun summer is and stuff and the beach and all that, and then i think, oh yeah, i'm pregnant..it wont be like that anymore... :roll: I know thats probably not true, i mean i know it will be different, but maybe good different.... but i still have these little moments where i FREAK out :shock: ..and then sometimes i'll think about my little kid running around in floaties smelling like baby sunblock and chasing birds... :D and its all really good...its so WEIRD how hot and cold my feelings can be! It's normal right? has anyone gone through those feelings of anxiety of having a kid to being like, amazingly happy?
Thats completely normal with all pregnancies. I'm guessing that yours was unexpected (just like mine were), and I went through that a LOT. One minute I was crying, the next I was smiling. Life has ups and downs, but honestly, it WILL be different, but not nexessarily a bad kind of different. Some days are hell for me. Some days are also terrific. That happens with anyone, mamas or not. Hang in there sweetie. You'll be just fine!
That is totally normal! Having a baby is such a huge life change--it's normal to have mixed feelings, whether it's excitement, apprehension, or whatever. My kid is 4 and sometimes I still have moments where the enormity of parenting hits me and I'm like "Oh wow, I'm going to be his mom FOREVER," hehe. So yeah, I think that's pretty common! :)
I think most people have those feelings, and believe me they don't go away after your first pregnancy. I know every once in a while I'll hear about a great club opening up, and I get a little depressed because I can't just get up and go at the last minute. But you can still have fun when you're a mama. Sometimes even without child in tow, if you can find someone to watch him for you.
I have those feelings too all the time. I always think what life without baby would be like. I would get to go away to college and live in a dorm, i would be able to go away for spring break and all this other stuff. It can be very depressing. But Eric has also been a very good change in my life, i feel more sense of responsibility and i feel like my life has more meaning. It can be really hard but also really fun.
Sometimes I still get sad when I think of all of the "kid" things I missed out on because I had kids. Like going to college living in a dorm, a real wedding, being spontanious and not having someone need me to be up early the next day. Sometimes it's depressing, but then I love my kids, and I love doing stuff with them, so it's ok. What you are feeling is totally normal tho.
I've had those feelings too. And I still do alot. I think about how my life would be if I didn't have Rylee and it sounds like alot of fun, but then I look at her and she is also the best thing that has ever happened to me. I think when you're a mom you find different things to be happy about. I'm not saying you will get over these feelings, cause you probably won't, but like everyone else said, you can still have fun when you're a mom. It might be different kind of fun or you might have to get a babysitter, but you will still have fun. And you will be surprised at how much joy a baby will bring you!
That's totally normal! It is a huge change, When it's your first child especially you Wonder what you're doing, you have no idea how things are going to change but you know they are! I got so scared after Aaiden was born that I actually gave him to my sister to take care of for a few months, and Now the 3 of us are a little family (also her daughter so theres really 4 of us)
Mine was planned and I still occasionally freak a little.
Becoming a mama is a big huge gigantic thing that changes your entire life forever and if anyone says they aren't scared by this they are either a liar or absoloutely crazy.