I've been wanting to like maybe mess around with a girl. Like I dunno soo where it goes maybe. I'm attratced to girls, but not like I am to men, but I dunno. There are some girls that I'd really like to like for lack of a better word expirament with. I hate how that sounds, but I wanna like try things out, and see how it feels. Any good ideas on how to bring this up without possibly freaking them out? I think she's straight, but we're pretty good friends, but I don't wanna lose a friend over wanting to explore my sexuality. Not much if ANY of that came out the way I wanted it to. Like I'm having trouble getting whats going on in my mind on here accuratley.
i say get her drunk and pounce on her!
i don't think that there's a way to say something like 'i want to kiss you' without putting yourself at risk for rejection and outing yourself. It's just one of those things that you have to expect might happen. It may ruin the frienship, it may not. It might work and things go wonderfully and you gain this extra dimension of closeness with someone...
all that said, you may want to wait it out for a while, flirt with her to keep it interesting and see how she reacts. if it's favorable then i say go for it...
i had a friend that i kind of had a crush on too. i didnt know if she was curious about girls, so i started a conversation about porn. turns out we both like looking at the same kinds of stuff. then while we were looking at it, we both masturbated. it was very sexy! we've messed around a bit more now. its great. good luck!
im very bu curise but i also love to have sex with men . i feel really nervouse when it comes down to talking to a female about the whole thing i'm soo afaird but i cant wait to find someone that i can explore with .... i know ho wyou feel i really do
How about telling her that some lady tried to hit on you. Her reaction will say it all. Then say that you were curious about it and would like to try it someday. Again, her reaction will say it all. Good luck!
welcome to the wonderful world of ladies! heh.
as for experimenting with your friend:
be cautious if it's a close friendship and you wouldn't want to lose it.
this could be just me, but I've never been into the idea of dating/experimenting with friends... mainly because I don't tend towards long-term relationships in general, so I like a lack of hurt feelings and comfortability seeing them afterwards. :)
I didn't before, but now I live in what I like to call "Gaytown, NY," thanks to the high gay/alt population, so before i met SO, I had zero trouble finding people. but since that's not the case for everyone, and to make things easy...
so! there's wonderful internet sites! like alt.com, where you can search for bi people or girls in your area, and if you google "bi dating sites" and enter your town/city, there's specific ones for your area too, and hey, they're also valuable for getting information on people you already know. like what their sexuality is, since it's usually listed in their profile, which might help you out. :lol: I totally do that if I want to find out and don't want to ask...I google their names, and generally if they're listed on a dating site, myspace, friendster, whatever, they'll usually have thier sexuality listed.
hope that helped and have fun!
Interesting that you brought this up...I've never particularly though of myself as bi/curious, but I've noticed that - for whatever reason - in the past year or two I've had an increasing amount of dreams at night where I'm getting it on with one of my girlfriends, and I have the equivalent of a wet dream. I've never mentioned this to my husband, or anyone else, but I wonder what it really means.... :?:
I would NOT want to lose her as a friend. Maybe I'll just see where it goes. She's in a relantionship with her bd, so I dunno.
i wouldnt try to pursue it unless you are 100 percent certain she feels the same way. its not worth losing a friend over, and i'm sure there are plenty of women who would be willing to fullfill your curiosity.
I had a sexual relationship with one of my friends but she got really wierd about it. Kind of like a stalking boyfriend/girlfriend. It was more just sexual for me. But it was fun and i love having sex with women.
Just make sure she wants that too. That would be wierd for her ya know if she didnt feel that way.
I'm bi-curious. VERY. I have a special friend in Independence named Lacy and before I had Chelle, we messed around a bit. It was very intense, but I always found myself to cry after we "made love". I just wanted to be with my BD. I told him about her and he said it was O.K. She says she has feelings for me and she said she wants to raise Chelle as her own, and it hurts to say this, but I dont want my daughter to be like that. I have nothing against them, but what I got when I came out bi, could ruin her little life when she finds out (if she ever does). Maybe someone could help me a bit also?
Casey :?
Caseygurl-
Finding out that her mama had a relationship with a female will not hurt your daughter as long as you teach her tolerance and acceptance. If you teach her to fear or hate people who are different, she will see you as a hypocrite. Of course you are not her only source of information, but parents are their childrens first teachers, and most children keep thier parents values in general by the time they reach adulthood. It is the children whose parents fed them contradictions and lies who end up having problems. Be open and honest with her about those things. Teach her to love and accept all people. Teach her there are so many different kinds of families and people and cultures. :D
I have had a few crushes on girls that were friends of mine. I was never able to tell them about it, because I didn't think they felt the same way and I didn't want to lose them as friends. That was a long time ago though...