Again..
So I went to fargo yesterday to pick up my daughter. She was at my mom's for a couple weeks in Minot and my sister & our friend drove to fargo to bring her to me and we met our dad there, too. Anyway, all yesterday & today right before we all left, she was like, taking control of the situation with Lyric. Like, trying to do EVERYTHING with lyric and telling lyric not to do things and trying to discipline her right in front of me. And lyric was like, I have to pee! And my sister was like, okay let's go. It really bothers me. She like, thinks she has a say in how lyric is raised. But Lyric is MY KID and it really bothers me the way Crystal acts. At breakfast, Crystal asked lyric is she wanted more syrup and I was like, no (b/c she had just made a huge mess w/ it) and crystal was pissed off. Then when Lyric says something and Crystal says, "what..." then I tell her, crystal will say, "I know what she said..." ARGH! It pisses me off. She tries to act like Lyric's mom... she takes it a step too far. And she wants to get Lyric's footprints from her birth certificate tatooed on her back and I really don't feel comfortable with that... It's like, crystal thinks I am incompitant or stupid to be a mom...how can I approach her on how I feel?
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Sun, 2005-04-03 18:48
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I'm a little confused. Was Lyric staying with your mom and sister? Or did your sister just drive her to you?
The way I see it, however long your sister was with Lyric [if she stayed with your mom and Lyric or if she just drove her to you], she had to act like the mommy in that case. Because you weren't there, someone needed to be mommy and so your sister seemed to take on that role. I think your sister loves the idea of being a mommy. She clearly liked taking over your job for a little while and it sounds like she is jealous [for a lack of a better word]. It seems like she wants her own and she wants to be a mommy.
You have to let her know that YOU are Lyrics mom. She is just her aunt. let her know when she overrules you in front of your daughter, it shows her a bad sign that mommy isn't right and aunt [or XYZ] is. It could result in Lyric not respecting/listening to you.
Your sister needs to learn her place. Talk to her honestlyabout it. Good luck, hun!
I would sit down and talk with her about it. You can tell her how you appreciate her watching L. but that when you are around, you are the parent and she needs to respect that. You could also tell her that you understand that she wants a tattoo of L.'s feet a b/c but ask her if she wants to save that for HER kids and get a tattoo of something else representing L.
Can you talk to your mom or dad about it and see if one of them could talk to her and tell her to back off a bit?