My ex-mil wants to keep Jordan for a couple of days. But if I let her, I know Sean will see her, and he has no visitation rights whatsoever. Even though he is Jordan's bio. father I DO NOT want her to see him. When she gets older and IF she wants to meet I will stand behind her but as long as I have control over it I don't want her to see him. His mom is a bitch in my opinion, but I can see why she wants to see Jordan, I mean it's her grand-daughter. But I don't know what to do. Does anybody have any advice?
Niki
rather than jordan staying there for a couple days, why not plan a day trip that you go on too, like to the zoo or an aquarium, or something fun and somewhat active for the 3 of you? that way she gets to see jordan, but it's on your terms, under your supervision, so you will be at ease that bd won't be present.
good luck and take care.
I think it's importent for your kid to have contact with the family just do whatever you think is right
I don't think it's necessary to keep in touch with family members who are potentially toxic, nikki.
I like the idea of doing something the 3 of you can do together, this is how i work out visits with my kids bd and his family.
Has BD been abusive? If he has then I probably wouldn't let your MIL take the babe. Like you said odds are he will see her. If he isn't though then I think it might be good.
I second the idea about doing something with the 3 of you. If she says no to that then, IMO, she doesn't want to see her that bad.
yeah, like this shouldn't be about control- her trying to control the situation. rather, it should be about her spending time with her grandaughter. you could adknowledge that it may not be ideal in her mind, but that is what you are most comfortable with for right now.
Thanks for everyone's ideas. Yes BD was abusive, to me, he never layed a hand on Jordan whatsoever. But he abused me, and I don't want Jordan around him. I haven't talked to ex-mil yet, but she wants to come over tomorrow. I don't really get along with her that well either. She always thought I was the slut type of person, and cheated on BD which I never did. I'll mention the 3 or 4(her husband) of us doing something together.
Thanks
Niki
Since abuse was in the picture, I wouldn't risk letting him have contact with her.. I'd take control o the situation and like others suggested making a day out or something that you're at too. That way you know what's going on. From there you may be able to build a foundation of trust or something, but until then I wouldn't risk it.