What to do, what to do. Bd and I broke it off recently. Or should I say, he broke it off. We were engaged to be married, but I'm too fat, and crazy you see. Or so he says. Well we have a long past of breaking up and getting back together, mainly because of the 3 cheating incidents, and two breakups which led him to another woman. Well three weeks ago, when he canned me, he found this girl named Megan. He was with her for three weeks, and decided she's not for him, and he wants to be with me again. I need advice on this. It's just very convienient, because he is leaving for the Navy on Monday, and knows he's going to have to pay child support. I just don't know what to do. I still love him, but if I go with him in three months, to wherever he is based, I will lose my family. If I stay, I lose him. And not to mention my family keeps telling me I could do better, and that I deserve better. So, mama's, what's your take?
Don't go away with him. It will only make your situation worse, you will be more isolated and controlled by him. He is not treating you right, and he doesn't deserve you. Stay where you have support. I speak from experience.
I agree with MamaButterfly.
He sounds, from your brief description, a lot like my bd -- charming, and manipulative.
Maybe he will turn around, but from his past behavior, it doesn't seem like it. I wouldn't go with him. See how things are when he gets back, if nothing else.
I strongly agree with the other girls!!! Your bd sounds VERY manipulative to me, and it doesn't sound like he treats you with much respect. I hope you get this figured out soon!
agreed. stay where yo are mama, you need that support. If it were just a question of getting back together I still wouldn't give my recommendation, but moving away with him just sounds like a bad situation.
Yep, i totally agree with the other girls too...
Agree with others. He sounds very manipulative an if you go with him you risk being cut of from family,and it doesn't sound like a stable relationship.Stay where you are,and see what happens when he returns
he sounds like a complette BEEEPPPPPPPP lol you dont need that weighing on you , when he gets borred of you hes only going to looks for someone else till he gets borred and so on , he comes back to you cos he knows youll take him back , stop being this guys door mat and stand up for yourself , you have support here if you need it , but you dont need him mama !!!!
Thankyou all so much. With your advice, and support, and that of my family, I'm moving on. It hurts so bad though. But I know somehow in the future, I'll get over this, and move on. In the meantime, I'm going to school, and focusing on that. Thanks mamas.
I'm glad you are sticking up for yourself. You can find someone who will love you all the time. He sounds like a jerk! I very much agree with Chontelle's post. It's time to start focusing on yourself. Leave him in the dust!
Please don't go with him. My ex and baby's daddy was probably your guy's twin. I moved off with my guy against everyone's better judgement, including my own, and regret that I did. I'm thankful that I have a son on the way and that my family took me back in... but that's it. Once he has you away from everyone his true colors will show. He can pretty much treat you anyway he likes, knowing that there's very little you can or will do about it.
If you're like me, you don't really have anyone to call and talk to about it. Everyone says the same thing... " I told you so." Stay where you have your family. If your guy really does love you he'll come back to you, not the other way around.