Hey everyone! My name is Melissa and my friend told me about this great website so I thought that i would check it out and she was right. Well i dont know if i really fit in or not but me and my boyfriend are trying to have a baby, and it just hasent happened yet and i think that all my friends are sick of hearing about it so maybe you all could help me get threw this...well let me start off with my little story.
I am 19 years old and my boyfriend (Jeremy) is 21 we have been together for almost 2 years and we have been trying to get pregnant for about a year now and nothing has happened. I mean we have got books i have been to a million websites and nothing... we want a family more than anything (and i think thats why it hasent happened) i just dont know want to do nether one of us does drugs we dont drink, but we do smoke ( i know i know i need to stop) i just dont get it... i had a miscarrage about 2 years ago, so i know i can get pregnant, and he has a daughter that is 2 years old, so what are we doing wrong? is the a special positon, or someting! Help me i am about to go nuts!![/code]
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Sun, 2005-05-22 19:07
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Hey Everyone!
hey, welcome to girl-mom.
I don't know if you're doing anything "wrong", but stress can certainly make a pregnancy harder to achieve. Were you on birth control before you began trying to conceive? If so, your body may just not be ready yet.
At Girl-mom we are very supportive of young parents, but we also encourage young women to explore WHY they need to get pregnant right away. This may be a good time for you and Jeremy to work on securing other aspects of your life- like completing college or buying a home. I know that income and education make no difference in what type of parent a person will be, but concentrating on these things now ceretainly won't hurt. I have 2 kids that I very much wanted, but I know that an extra year or so would have made a positive difference for me.
Good luck!
I think smoking can lower your chance of conception. Anyways, welcome, I'm a 20 yr old kidless ally, hoping to try to concieve when I graduate in a year or two.
hi ya im chontelle in newzealand due with my first in oct this year im 19 years old , your stressing waiting for this baby best thing is not to get your hopes up, and read up on everything not even trying will probably get you pregnant , if you really want this dont even think about it and i am sure it will happen for you good luck D if you ever need to talk
Hey Yall!
Thank you so much for replying! I love to get advice on this!
Anyways...
Jeremy and I both have good jobs, no we dident go to college but financially i think that we are ready. We have our own home (thanks to the help of his mother) not that she pays for it we do. and we both have cars that are paid for.
I know that smoking is bad for me and if i EVER get pregnant for the baby too. I have cut down a lot since trying to get pregnant. I guess i just really need to push my self to completly stop...(easier said than done though)
As far as birth control i havent been on it for about a year and a half, and i was on the patch. but before that i was on the shot, i think that thing kinda messed me up, i dont think it is natural not to have your period.
I just dont get it when i wasent trying to get pregnant i did, and i worried and stressed so much about being pregnant at 16 i think that is why i lost it.
I dont know iam trying all these like conseption calendars to see when iam ovulating and i have been taking folic acid for about a month now. I guess i just need to chill out about it?!?
Has any of you ever used those calendars to get pregnant do they even work?
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welcome, good luck.
actually i was on the pill when i got pregnant...! so not much advice on that:)
my name is heather, 22 year old mama to 3 1/2 year old lyricariah.
OHHHHH Gosh, girls I am sooooo happy!!!! I havent quit smiling for like 2 days now! Okay heres the story!
On Friday I came home and Jeremy was already home from work which never happens, he was like what do you want to do tonight, i was like nothing iam tired and i just want to be lazy so i want to stay home if you want to do something then go ahead, i dont i want to stay home.
he was like no no we are going to the races at lakeside (which is a dirt track) i told Lloyd i would help him with his car and i want you to go! i kept telling him no i dont want to go its boring and i always get ignored. Well he kept telling me that iam going and i told him i wasent so he finally just picked me up and threw me in his truck and we went.
Well when we got there we went in the pits and talked to Lloyd everything was normal, then when it was time to go sit in our seat and watch Lloyd race (i noticed that a lot more of his friends were there then normal) they called our name over the speaker and told us to come to the track, i was like oh great what the hell is going on? Well we went down there and Jeremy took the mike and was like Melissa the reason i drug you here tonight is because i wanted to ask you to marry me, i started balling, he was like please dont say no in front of all these people. I gave him a big hug and kiss and told him yes, so Lloyd gave us a ride around the track and everyone was screaming and cheering it was soooo neat and romantic because that was the place we had our first date! Guys iam so happy! I dont know what to do with myself! I cant wait for our wedding, its going to be fun and beautiful!
Maybe God just wants it the way it is supposed to be first comes love then comes marriage then..........comes the baby!!!
I know iam a dork....But iam sooooo HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!
hey i'm glad your engaged to be married, but from a girl who did it the "wrong" way, maybe you could try and watch what you say at a site were very few people had a marriage before a baby.
i agree pleas just try to avoid the sterotypes that you need to be married to have a baby or that it is wrong to have a baby before marriage. welcome to girl mom my name is lisa and my son jayden is 10 months old
Hi, and welcome. I'm Britney, 15 and expecting my first in late January. Welcome again, hope you like it here.