How many of you mamas have to live with your own parents? If you currently live with them, how is it going? If you lived with your parents b4 and have since moved out, how did you cope when times got ruff?
I am 19 and I still live at home with my mom and step-father. It is really hard sometimes. Most of my struggles have to do with my own mother trying to be my mother, and telling me what to do with my life and my son. I have seen a lot of vents on this board having to do with parents, in-laws, or whatever family you have to live with at this time. I thought this would be a good place to give us live-in mamas some support. I know I am at my wits end with my mother and I could really use some stories on how you deal or got through it, and some advice.
THAX,
Nikole
19 YO MAMA TO 4YO BEAUTIFUL BLUE EYED SON
i live with my mom and dad. we've been with them for the enitre 4 yrs we've had harper. we all get along well, but our house is big enough that we have our own space. sometimes you really have to pick your battles about what you need to inforce as rules. but i'm pretty lucky my mom is great. my dad is a bit of a yardbird, but he is good and fun with harper, just not a great babysitter for more than an hour.
i could never ever live with my MIL though, we do not get along at all.
it's a tough one.
you gotta do what you gotta do.
While I don't live in the same house as BD/DH's parents, we live in the guesthouse/appartment BEHIND their house. (It used to be a garage and they converted it into a two bedrom, one bath, frontroom/kitchen 450-600 sq ft living space.)
It's hard sometimes. I know that we are so lucky to have the support of them and everything they've done. We do pay $300 a month and that covers our bills like water, cable, and electric. However, we still have those days were I just want to be on my own. Like, sometimes they'll come in and make a huge fuss at how messy our bedroom is. (I admit, it can get messy, but its a bedroom...and its a small place so we don't have enough room for all of our clothes.) But then when they turn off our cable or internet, I get a little upset. I mean, we ARE paying rent. And the money covers all of it.
I lived with my mom and step dad for a month after Lyric was born, then moved in with BD's mom and step dad for a few months after that, then into an effieicency. We also lived with his mom the summer before we moved to Minneapolis. It wasn't that bad, it helped us save money. I would much rather live w/ his then mine though...
I still live with my parents. I'm under 18, so I can't really move out without it being considered me running away. Beyond that, I really need to know that if I'm about to go absolutly crazy because of watching my daughter all day, that I can ask for help by just walking to whatever room my family is in.
On the downside though. My parents are still technically married, though they haven't slept in the same bedroom since I was like in the 5th grade. They don't really like eachother, but stay together for monotary reasons. They don't fight verbally too often, and never physically, but there's definatly tension that I don't want my daughter growing up.
I'm with chocobotkid though! Definatly pick your battles. There are tons of thing I could nitpick with my parents about. About how my dad offers my daughter sips of his rootbeer, or how my mom is constantly ready to snuggle my daughter at the slightest whimper. But sometimes, a little rootbeer isn't going to hurt her..
We live in BD's parents house, but in our own seperate bit.
In our case, it works brilliantly...but I also know how lucky we are that it is that way.
Im living with my parents until the end of the summer, and then my boyfriend and I are going to move in with my grandfather, in time for the baby to be born.
BD and I moved in with his mom right before I went into labor and lived there up until Aria was 6 months. We slept on a mattress on the floor until we cleared out her extra/storage room. But I definitely can't complain because she helped us out A LOT. There were those times when I just wanted to be like "I know what I'm doing!! I don't need your stinkin help!". That would have hurt her feelings, though so I never said anything. We got along great and BD's sister lived there (who was my age) so her and I became friends and now take care of eachothers kids. After awhile I really wanted my own space and we found a great apartment 5 minutes from there. I do miss being able to leave in the blink of an eye when Aria drives me nuts, though. It's great to have an extra pair of hands when you're sleep deprived and pulling out your hair with a screaming infant attached to your side.
i live with my dad and my step mom they pretty much stay out of my buissness about jayden and things like that. i dont mind having them around they keep me company and give me someone to talk to when i am upset. but i still do wish i had my own house to live in which i will have sept 1st yeaaaaaa
I've recently had to move back in with my parents and my 19 yo sister. I've lived on my own since I was 18, I'm 22 now and its because I can't stand my family. I love them, but they are so aggravating. My husband is going to be in jail :cry: for the next six months, so I really have no choice. I can't save enough to get back out on my own until he can come home and help. I know I am lucky to have a family that is supportive and can afford to take me in so suddenly, but I am terrified to raise a baby here with them. My sister has never had a job and basically mooches off of my dad, and since I am not working and have no friends in the area, the household chores have somehow become my responsiblity :evil: Sorry I'm ranting. So, yeah, I'm back home,and I can't wait to leave, but I know it's the best for all of us right now.
Christina