So I have an 8 month old baby. I am getting married in August. His first birthday is in October. I really really want to go on a honeymoon, and I really don't want to bring the kids. What do you guys think?
Indie doesn't eat that much solid food (yet), he nurses to sleep at night, and we're both super attached. When is it reasonable to go away for a few days? Am I gonna traumatize him? It doesn't have to be right after the wedding, I don't mind waiting a few months (maybe til after his first birthday) if it's gonna make a difference, but I have no idea! And how long is okay? I just don't know!!
We got married when Xan was 2.5 months old. We went away for the night but that was it lol. By a year he was getting more use to being with other people (due to both me and his father going to school at night). I would try having him stay with your parents or inlaws little by little up until you decide to go. Who would he be staying with? Thats who I would get him to stay with. I would try small incriments up until hes staying the night there with no problem so you would feel okay knowing that he will be fine there...
When in August are you getting married?
I'm getting married the 14th.
I went away for a weekend the first time I got married when Bella was almost 5 months. i was nursing exclusively, I pumped bottles in the weeks leading up to my vacation.
i think you should be okay. i can't remember my first time... i think lyric was around 8 months old too... she went to my dad's house for 5 days. it was a shock for sure and i didn't breastfeed, but i showed my dad how to use formula, etc... i think it will be a good thing, though. and i think both of you will be fine :)
The last thing I want to be is a party pooper, god knows you deserve a honey moon. But I wish somebody had warned me. When my daughter was 18 months old I decided to go for a kid free weekend in San Francisco. I figured it wouldn't be a big deal because she didn't really nurse all that much, and she ate and drank other things by then. I was right in way, she was totally fine. I was SO not fine my breasts became soooo engourged, after a day without her I was about to explode. FYI, don't try looking for a breast pump in the castro. I had to keep reminding my friends not to hug me, cause I was so sore. I couldn't even wear a seat belt on me way home. Hand expressing was not doing the trick at all. Bring a breast pump, and try not to be gone too long. Don't go nuts with the pumping right before you go, cause you don't want to kick your milk supply into overdrive right before you leave. Try stock the freezer with breast milk a while in advance. I'd also think about waiting til he's a year old. You won't tramatize him mama, he knows you'll come back.
Where are you going??....any where exciting??....honestly, I'd be excited by any kid free place :wink: .
thanks for the help, ladies. The wedding is set for Friday the 19th. We are hoping to take the honeymoon to someplace like tahiti or fiji. We haven't figured it out yet, but I'm hoping we can stay in one of these:
:D
I've been married 9 months and still no honeymoon... no money and can't decide where to go. I'm ok with delaying it though, I'm not much of a traveller.
Wow, that looks amazing!
Is your baby used to staying with people other than you & his dad? If not, maybe you could help to transition him by having him spend an hour or two here and there with another caregiver (whoever would be watching him if you decided to go on your honeymoon sans baby) while you do errands, get some down time, etc. That way he'll become more used to it. Just a thought. I went out of town overnight for a show when my son was maybe 7 months or so, but since he'd stayed with his grandparents before that, he didn't think it was a big deal (although I, of course, freaked out a bit, but ended up having a great time).
Whatever you decide, I hope you have a great time!
we're getting the honeymoon as a gift, otherwise we were planning on doing our wedding registry at a travel agent!
WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GORGEOUS!!!