Okay, this may sound kind of silly, but I was awake last night wondering about it. Is it weird to wait to have sex until marriage, even though I'm not religious at all? It's like, all past relationships I've had, I've been sexually abused. I really just want to find someone to take it easy with; watch movies, go out to eat, just hang out. And having sex looming over just makes me want to split. And marriage would be a fantastic deadline. Like, I wouldn't have to tell them, because if I say, "I want to wait to have sex till I get to know you better." I don't want them being like "Don't you know me well enough? Don't you trust me?" I don't want the guilt trip.
And I'm so iffy about sex, I think if I waited until we got to know eachother well enough, I would be a lot more comfortable with the idea of it. Yeah, so is it weird asking someone to wait until then, even though it has no religious drive fueling it?
I don't think it's weird at all. Even if you don't hold yourself to the marriage deadline, at least it lets the guy know you are NOT ready for it and you do NOT want it, without those annoying questions you'd get if you said "I just want to know I care about you first" or something. Less pressure, and you can get to know the guy better. Great screening system too, because those who book it at those words, are NOT guys you want to be sleeping with anyway ;)
I don't think it's weird either. It's your body and you decide when you're ready. Maybe you could tell guys you have a rule (like in this t.v. show, her rule is she can't have sex with guys until they've been dating for three months).
Anywayz, I think it's a good idea to get to know them first.
It isnt weird at all, personally i think its a great idea if it makes you feel more comfortable and relaxed. I reckon that if you meet the right person they will be more than happy to wait until you feel ready and telling them straight up "i dont want sex until marriage" will make it dead clear to them that you know what you want from the relationship and it might even make them feel more comfortable and relaxed with you also.
Its your body, your choice!
yup, I agree. sounds good. you might wind up getting some serious religious types, but I think it is awesome that you are deciding what your real limits are and finding a wy to stick to them!
No I dont think its weird either. You can wait as long as you want. Its not a bad plan really.