I know this is probably like the 1000th time this topic has been posted, but at the same time its one of the hardest things to go through and alot of us will eventually be faced with this and its never the same situation and to each of us it will be very new. So maybe to alot of you this subject is old but to me its very new and very hard to go through. So here's my question.
I just currently broke up with my boyfriend of about 3 years. Our son just barely turned 2 on the 1st of August. We actually broke up last Oct of 04 and weren't together for about 6 months. Seemed like that time was pretty easy to get through than it is now because my ex boyfriend was the reason why I broke up with my BD. Things didn't work out with me and my ex so I was alone for about 4 months then me and BD got back together in May of this year. I was happy when we got back together because I really missed him and I realized what we had. We didn't really get along though through these few months we were together. The main reason is because he was on meth most of the time. Seemed thats all he wanted to do. Then a couple days before my sons birthday he told me he was going out of town. I didn't see him till the day of my sons birthday (the 1st of this month). When I went over to his house on my lunch break to wish my son a happy birthday (he watches him while I was at work), he had hickies on his neck! Ouch!!! :( So that totally ruined the day and I just said alot of mean things to him, he ended up ripping my shirt open and hitting me and stuff. Then I went to drop my son off a couple days after that before work and their was a girl there! A major ouch! So now I just totally need to get over him. I'm pretty strong but I just really need help and any suggestions would help. I really liked what one of the girls mentioned earlier in post about not seeing or hearing from or about the person AT ALL! I totally agree and so far its really helping. I have to go by his house on the way to work but I totally block it out of my eyesite. But anything else would help. Thanx!
just out of curiousity.. if he is being abusive towards you and is on meth, why would you leave your son with him? is there anybody else who could watch him? in my opinion that is very unsafe for your kiddo. i would stay away from him and if there isnt anything court wise with access to kiddo, i would go get that done asap. sounds like your in a bad situation.. i know it must hurt seeing hickies and another girl, but thats the least of your problems... he is very unfit to be around you or kiddo. think of it this way.. he is no longer your problem, he is now hers. you can do way better than that.. take good care of yourself and kiddo.. if your living somewhere where there is subsidized daycare i would advise trying to get it.. good luck mama oh and you might want to post something in Greetings (welcome to girlmom!!)
No sorry for not clarifying, he USED to watch my son while I went to work. That day his mom was watching him. She used to watch him ANYWAY when he was the one used to be the one. You know how some guys are....But yeah now my mother is the one who watches him! Sorry for the misunderstanding, and thanx for the advice!