Ok lemme give some backround. Taylor and I have recently gotten back together because we want to make things work for us and for our daughter. So today Kiarah (our dauhgter) was leaving with his leaving with Tays sister and niece to go to VA to visit family. So i took a cab to there house and requested Taylor to come get us. The dispatcher told me he wasnt working 2nite...i got mad because he was supposed to and if he didnt he could of came and picked up Kia b4 she left 2nite. OK so well im sitting there just waiting for him to come home and nothing. So by 1145 i said <TOS> it and called a cab to go back home. A mutual friend of ours Jay picked me up and I was aking him if they get to keep the nextels (the cabs communicate off of nextels and not 2-way radios) anywho so he was like nah but he has his from yesterday (he never turned it in) want me to hit him up and I said yea. So hes talking to him and he was like where u at. And he said with Pud on the way to pick up Nikki (Puds gf) so i grabbed the phone and was like wtf y are u out when u should be at home with your daughter b4 they leave to VA and he ignores me. So i hit him back and said hello...nothing, and again i said yo...nothing. So i tried again and he turned the phone off. So OBVIOUSLY he is up to something. Then 2 wks ago i was going through his rhyme book (he writes rhymes because he raps) and I came across a letter to come girl name Janee. So i was reading it and it was i cant wait to be with u this and that. And i'd do anything in the world to be with the girl I love. And yadda yadda yadda. So i confronted him about it. He found it funny and was like thats to my cousin I just put that in there because i know u like to read the <TOS> and I wanted to <TOS> with you. So i just left it at that and didnt hold my guard down. So when he was here the other day he left his phone here so i wrote all his numbers down, and her number was in there. I wasnt going to call but i said <TOS> it 2nite i did. I asked her if she knew anyone by the name of Taylor and she said no, then I said JR (he sometimes goes by that) and she said no. I was like really thats funny because ur in his cell phone, and she was like well if i am i dont remember him. So i know he is lying about the whole thing...idk if shes just saying that because he warned her or what. So right now IDK what to do. Yes I love him, I want to be with him but im confused and IDK what to do. This is so stressful. And I SWEAR if he did me dirty 2nite maaaaaaaaaaaaan hes going to be in a lot of <TOS>. I swear if he cheated on me I'll flip on him. I dont understand what I ever did wrong to deserve my life to be this way I really dont. Im ready to call my father and just move to FL and be out and talk to no1 up here anymore. My best friend and I are not really speaking because I hate the fact that she doesnt call and its just not fair that if I dont call her I dont speak to her. Sorry this was so long but I needed to get it out. ::pulls out hair:: <SOrry if i cursed i put TOS where all the curses whould be...im sorry if i happened to miss one!!!>
oh wow.. i would sit down and have a serious conversation with him. call him on the "another girl" and tell him how your feeling. if your done with him, pack everything up and go. if you still want to try with him, then you both need to be willing to keep an open relationship (communication) and be there for one another, not lie and go behind one anothers back.
hope that helps
What does TOS mean?
I hope that whatever happens, its for the best.
If he is doing the dirty on you, you deserve much better, leave him, coz thats harsh doing it right in ya face like that.
Stay strong xx
Mama im sorry, i know that is way stressful, but even if he isnt cheating on u, he is obviously hiding something from u and completly disrespecting you and ya'lls daughter. I wouldnt put up with that shit.
When I used to hang out on AOL, TOS stood for "Terms of Service." Part of the TOS was you weren't allowed to curse or swear in chat rooms, so a lot of people just substituted "TOS" instead of the bad word. :)
I agree.. but I worry about how productive the conversation would be from his end.
It's worth a shot either way.. if he's not willing to listen, he's not worth your time.
I think if you ca move to FL to live with your dad that would be great.
Your relationship really lacks respect. He shouldn't cheat on you and you don't seem to tlak to him very nicely. Just break up.
Lots of people think staying together for their kids is the right thing. While it's a noble idea, the fact is that a child will do better with a happy single parent than with parents who fight and do not trust and respect eachother.
if things are this ricky now, they will only get worse and the older your child is, the harder it will be on her.