Could anyone give me stats from non-biased sources explaining the prevalance of sexual activity, to back up the claims that more and more people are having sex young?
No matter how you dismiss it, I don't see how an open, honest relationship with a child can do anything but good. But thanks for wholly dismissing my post without any real response.
And I wanted to add that I remember reading that 1 in 5 adolescents under the age of 15 has had sex. That, to me, represents a very high number.
There is no doubt in my mind that the abstinence-only based sex education has played a part in it. I'm all for opening the door to thorough sex ed in school.
However, I can only go so far. We, as mothers, will make plenty of decisions for our children until they are of legal age.. these decisions can be as simple as what food we buy at the grocery store, to what age we want them to go on their first real date (bad example, but you get what I'm saying).
We do not make these decisions to keep them below us or to show ownership, we make these decisions because we want to keep them safe. Along the way we impart our words of wisdom and hope that they take hold. That doesn't mean we give them advice and let them loose - most children thrive in a world where they have structure, and yes, even rules.
I wouldn't take that number seriously, nor would I represent it as fact if it's "just something you've read once". Especially, with any statistic, you have to take into fact what's behind the statistics, bias, things left out or misrepresented.
I wouldn't take that number seriously, nor would I represent it as fact if it's "just something you've read once". Especially, with any statistic, you have to take into fact what's behind the statistics, bias, things left out or misrepresented.
I didn't present it as fact.. I just said it was something I remembered reading.
In 2002, the proportion of never-married females aged 15-19 who ever had sexual intercourse was 46 percent. It declined significantly for younger teen females (age 15-17), and stayed relatively stable for older teen females (age 18-19)
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First intercourse was nonvoluntary for 9 percent of teen females. This percent was higher among those who were younger at first intercourse.
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Teenagers are delaying sex until older ages. In 2002, 13 percent of never-married female teens had had sex before age 15 (compared with 19 percent in 1995), and 15 percent of males had done so (compared with 21 percent in 1995).
I had sex at 16 and 2 days with my boyfriend who was 19 at the time. The DC age of consent is when the girl (this may flip but i dunno) is 16 the guy can be up to 20 but once he turns 21 she must be 18. So it was legal when we lost our virginities to one another. If I had lost it three days earlier it would have been illegal but does that mean that I would have regretted it? NO. I loved him, and still do, because Justin is Justin doesn't matter his age. Of course I question guys motives, no matter what age they are, but I would do the same about a girl. It's just natural to want to protect yourself. Justin will be 21 in 20 days. I won't be 18 until January. Though we broke up last October we have recently started to have sex again. It will be illegal in 20 days. Are we going to stop having sex just being it is illegal? Naw. I don't think they should be able to tell me not to have sex with someone whom I love dearly and I know he feels the same way. Just seems goofy and ageist to me.
Your stats certainly don't back up the "1 in 5 under 15 statement". I'm currently going through peer-reviewed journals, and I've found that the stat that you heard was created by the....
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National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy.
Your stats certainly don't back up the "1 in 5 under 15 statement". I'm currently going through peer-reviewed journals, and I've found that the stat that you heard was created by the....
dun dun dun..
National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy.
I wasn't presenting my stats to do so.. I was presenting them to show what the actual trends were.
About the 1 in 5 stat, again, all I said was that I remembered reading it. I didn't know where I read it, or if I'd read it right.. that's why I didn't say it was fact.
When Tenzin's riding his bike he has to stay beside me and only go as fast as I'm walking. He asks why and I tell him, if I can't see you and I don't know what you're doing, I can't keep you safe. When you give your kids reasons to sneak around and you have an authoritarian relationship rather than an open one, it may seem like they're following what you say, but chances are they're in dangerous situations because your rules have made it that they can't come to you for help on how to be safe.
Our kids are incredibly smart, and that only increases with age. If we're raising them with confidence both in themselves and in us as parents, we can guide them into making choices that are comfortable for us to accept, while knowing that the responsibility for making good choices is because we parented them well. And when they leave us, we can feel good about it, because we know they're going to be okay.
Right, this makes sense. But as parents, we have to be discerning enough to only put our kids in situations they can handle. You stay with Tenzin while he rides his bike because he isn't old enough to be completely safe on his own; you probably wouldn't teach him bike safety and then just let him ride away on his own, at his age. Similarly, when our kids reach adolescence, it is important to continue to teach and guide them. Our ultimate goal isd to prepare them for self-sufficiency one day and to arm them with the knowledge to make good choices for themselves, but at what age do we send them out on their own? Is it okay to send a 12 or 13 year old out with a 20/21 year old man and hope that things will work out, becuase we can't shelter them forever? In my opinion, no. Part of responsible parenting is not putting our kids in situations they aren't ready for.
(I am not trying to classify all 13 year olds as "kids," I am just looking at it from a parent's perspective)
Could anyone give me stats from non-biased sources explaining the prevalance of sexual activity, to back up the claims that more and more people are having sex young?
No matter how you dismiss it, I don't see how an open, honest relationship with a child can do anything but good. But thanks for wholly dismissing my post without any real response.
And I wanted to add that I remember reading that 1 in 5 adolescents under the age of 15 has had sex. That, to me, represents a very high number.
There is no doubt in my mind that the abstinence-only based sex education has played a part in it. I'm all for opening the door to thorough sex ed in school.
However, I can only go so far. We, as mothers, will make plenty of decisions for our children until they are of legal age.. these decisions can be as simple as what food we buy at the grocery store, to what age we want them to go on their first real date (bad example, but you get what I'm saying).
We do not make these decisions to keep them below us or to show ownership, we make these decisions because we want to keep them safe. Along the way we impart our words of wisdom and hope that they take hold. That doesn't mean we give them advice and let them loose - most children thrive in a world where they have structure, and yes, even rules.
I wouldn't take that number seriously, nor would I represent it as fact if it's "just something you've read once". Especially, with any statistic, you have to take into fact what's behind the statistics, bias, things left out or misrepresented.
I didn't present it as fact.. I just said it was something I remembered reading.
And also, I never claimed that there were more younger teens having sex... I never even mentioned it until two posts back.
From the CDC:
I had sex at 16 and 2 days with my boyfriend who was 19 at the time. The DC age of consent is when the girl (this may flip but i dunno) is 16 the guy can be up to 20 but once he turns 21 she must be 18. So it was legal when we lost our virginities to one another. If I had lost it three days earlier it would have been illegal but does that mean that I would have regretted it? NO. I loved him, and still do, because Justin is Justin doesn't matter his age. Of course I question guys motives, no matter what age they are, but I would do the same about a girl. It's just natural to want to protect yourself. Justin will be 21 in 20 days. I won't be 18 until January. Though we broke up last October we have recently started to have sex again. It will be illegal in 20 days. Are we going to stop having sex just being it is illegal? Naw. I don't think they should be able to tell me not to have sex with someone whom I love dearly and I know he feels the same way. Just seems goofy and ageist to me.
Your stats certainly don't back up the "1 in 5 under 15 statement". I'm currently going through peer-reviewed journals, and I've found that the stat that you heard was created by the....
dun dun dun..
National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy.
oh, snap!
I wasn't presenting my stats to do so.. I was presenting them to show what the actual trends were.
About the 1 in 5 stat, again, all I said was that I remembered reading it. I didn't know where I read it, or if I'd read it right.. that's why I didn't say it was fact.
So there's no need to get snarky about it.
Right, this makes sense. But as parents, we have to be discerning enough to only put our kids in situations they can handle. You stay with Tenzin while he rides his bike because he isn't old enough to be completely safe on his own; you probably wouldn't teach him bike safety and then just let him ride away on his own, at his age. Similarly, when our kids reach adolescence, it is important to continue to teach and guide them. Our ultimate goal isd to prepare them for self-sufficiency one day and to arm them with the knowledge to make good choices for themselves, but at what age do we send them out on their own? Is it okay to send a 12 or 13 year old out with a 20/21 year old man and hope that things will work out, becuase we can't shelter them forever? In my opinion, no. Part of responsible parenting is not putting our kids in situations they aren't ready for.
(I am not trying to classify all 13 year olds as "kids," I am just looking at it from a parent's perspective)
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