I know this may be too much information but I dont know exactly what to do or think. I have a lot of pain when I have sex. Granted I dont have much of a sex drive but my husband - i just feel so bad for him sometimes.. He tries to act like it doesnt bother him but I know it does. But when I was pregnant with Hailey it didnt hurt, and now I just wanna cry sometimes. Anybody have a clue about what could cause this or is it acctually normal? thanks girls.
What exactly is hurting? saying it hurts when you have sex could mean different things. Does it hurt going? Do you feel too tight? Does it feel like it is 'hitting' the top or back of your vagina once he's in?
It could be you just need some lube. Lots of women have drying issues after they have a baby for a while, it's no big deal. if it's that you're too dry do lots and lots of foreplay and also consider using a lubricant. Have him get you off before he penetrates you, like via oral sex and/or hand stimulation. This will make you all juicy as well as very relaxed. You both will enjoy it more.
What kind of birth control do you use? if it's an IUD or something like that go to the doctore and make sure it's not coming loose or not in place right. if it's the pill or other hormonal birth control, sometimes they affect your membrane tissues and even your sex drive. If you don't want to do it, you willoften tense up which can cause hurting. If you are onhormonal birth control talk to your health care provider about it or maybe consider just using condoms.
Hey. Im not on BC anymore.. I am pregnant again. 5 months. I mean like everything in that region hurts. I get lubricated enough but it doesnt help... Its like yeah its uncomfortable goin in but then its like as soon as hes all the way in i just wanna cry. Its like we've tried different things to help but i dont know if it means there might be something wrong with me and my pregnancy or if its normal because I had hailey only 8 months ago, etc....
I have problems sometimes because my BF will hit my cervix if he pushes too far.. it's only in certain positions, so we've had to make adjustments to help the situation - and it's worked well.
Also, if you really don't want to have sex at that moment, it usually isn't going to be pleasant. Remember, you don't have to do anything just because he wants you to.
It is normal, IMO, and it's probably just your hormones going crazy and it's decreasing your sex drive.
You should talk to your doctor or other health care provider about this at your next appointment.
Some times when I have sex it burns SO badly afterwards.
I remember when I wasn't quite.. "loose" yet, and my bf came inside of me, it burned because I was ripped. It was like putting salt on a cut!
That's how it feels some times when I have sex now.
I'm 5 and a half months preggo.
Burnign and having trouble getting the penis in sounds a lot like a lack of lubrication. Pregnancy hormones can affect how wet you are druing arousal.
You should try to engage in more foreplay, perhaps invest in a vibrator or toys, and ask your partner to give you a little more attention. Don't rush penetration until you are very aroused.
Also, consider increasing your fluid intake. Extra water certainly wouldn't be bad for you. I've had lube problems when I was proabbly not hydrated enough. Especially since you are pregnant, aim for at least 64 ounces of water a day.
See, that's what I thought too!
But no.. It wasn't lack of lubrication.
We used TONS of lube..
I talked to my dr and she said it's just because everything is a lot more sensitive down there during pregnancy.
i read sex is sort of like giving birth, if you are uncomfortable an nervous its going to tighten up even more down there and hurt worse. i had the same problem until i made J spend more time on foreplay, physically it actually opens up more down there when you are horney, and the cirvix moves out of the way a little to make room. so If you goes in you before u are ready its like theres not enough room. also I bought this little bullet vibrator to use while we did it and now it doesnt hurt anymore!
The clit tickler!!! I love those! :D
me too! mine is on the fritz though. it only works if i bend the wire while i hold it.. ive only had it a few months but i think it was only like 30 bucks. I went to the porn shop and got it when i was peggers so i got alot of "you go girl!"s
oops meant to type "Preggers"