Working in a stripclub?

I have friends that have done this before and I used to hang out in them (only god knows why). No matter the amount of years that pass by, they still feel low and can still feel those pervy men touching them. There are a lot of ways to make extra cash. I bought a book about how to make necklaces and things and I make a killing off of it. All you need is a little money to invest but it will pay off. Keep in mind, I am NOT judging you. I just think stripping is for those who are not in it for money.

Most strippers are in it just for the money. It's a job like any other.
Most places have rules about touching and inappropriateness. I'm sure you'd deal with lewd comments from asshats, but if they were stepping over a line you could talk to someone about it. Businesses like to retain their workers, and the ones I've been to have had no problem sending management or a bouncer over to guys who had been inappropriate. I'd imagine it would be the same as working in any bar. I've worked in regular bars before and dealt with more harrassment in them then I had witnessed or experienced in strip bars. I have a few ex-waitress friends that I worked with that during down times would get gigs waitressing in bikini bars or strip clubs and they told me it was pretty much the same, I was considering it for a bit but quit waitressing all together.

How is stripping for the money any different then serving people at a fastfood restaurant for the money? Both are jobs that take some skills and talents (in different areas but still require something of the person) and most of the people I worked with in the Fastfood buisness weren't there for the job title. They were there to make the money they needed to get by or to get whatever. I think that if a person wants to strip to get by and make the money they need or want and for that alone is a perfectly acceptable reason to do it.

Sugar-coating the job isn't right but you don't have to love every bit of your job to have it be worth it.

can you explain what you mean by that?
I think if you want to be a stripper, then go for it. I dont care what you are in it for.

To the op, I assume it would be similar to working in a regular bar. Have you been to the club before, maybe that will give you a better idea of what it would be like. If you apply, just talk to the manager or whoever and ask kind of what an average night is. I'm sure they have security there in case anything gets out of control.

I don't feel at all negative about my past, and I was NOT simply working in a strip club!

Honestly? If you can work a job in the sex industry, whether it's a strip club or prostitution, that can be awesome money. I never had a kiddo when I was an escort, but I made about $200 for an hour's work. That could damn well come in handy, and could mean more time with with people I cared about!

My point, in case I'm getting side tracked, is that IF you're comfortable, go for it!

Just got a job at a strip club. As a dancer though, not a waitress or bartender. Anyway, my point is, it really depends on the club. Like all work environments, it depends on the people around you. That includes dancers (who you may be working with if they get a commission off the drinks, and anyway, they'll be in there as much as you will) bartender, DJs, bouncers, managers, AND customers.
Will you get lewd comments? You might. Especially if the bar serves alcohol.

But you will get quite a bit in tips.

And yeah, I'm "in it for the money." But how many of us really have passion for our job other than the paycheck?

Also, you can always tell your family your a cocktail waitress in a nightclub.

I worked in an upscale topless club that served alcohol some years ago.

While I was disturbed by the shallowness and fakeness of the particular girls I was always around, the money was good and the guys were so, so friendly.

I don't think it's a bad idea and like naivete said, a lot of places has policies about people touching you, etc. You can make a lot of money, too. One of my dad's girlfriend's friends does it here in Mpls and makes a decent amount on the weekend and she doesn't need to work another job. I personally, would think about it if I could do something like that, I personally wouldn't take it serious enough - but more power to you if you can - I'd say go for it!

I think its funny how much cash a man will hand over, because he see a set of boobs. We have a male strip club around where I live, and none of the girls who go, go to get off...they go because its kinda funny. I dont think strip clubs are degrading to women, they are degrading to men. They lower themselve to animals at the sight of a topless women, and its funny.

Most legitamate strip clubs that I have heard of are very protective over their women. Bouncers will beat the hell outta you if you touch what your arn't supposed to. But my friend is neighbours to a stripper, who has had to deal with shit like stalkers, and men coming to her house when she was trying to sleep...ect. But any job you get, that cnn happen with essentially i suppose.

Some women, it will bother, some women, it will not. I cant really say whether you could handle it or not, but if you could, i would imagine your tips would be pretty great.

I worked as a stripper for several months. The waitresses who worked there made good money too. The guys were more interested in the half naked women then they were in the waitstaff. The places I worked had a strict "no touching" rule. If a guy laid his hands on a girl, even if it was just her leg or arm, the bouncers were right there telling him to back off and if he touched a girl again he would be gone. I never really saw the waitstaff having to deal with touching from the guys, but if there was a problem, the bouncers would protect them too.

As for your family, I told my parents that I was a waitress in a bar. That way the hours I was gone weren't so odd, and neither was the amount of cash I had. My family lived several states away, so I didn't have to worry about them wondering what bar I worked at or any other details.

Simply because the people I have met, who do it only for the money, end up miserable with a tremendous amount of guilt. On the other hand, the girls who do it for pleasure, as well as money seem to have a ball. I guess it doesn't apply for everyone, but this is what I have gathered through observation.

I clearly said my friends.

I've never met anyone who stripped for pleasure and to whom money was an added bonus.

Funny though, all the girls I know who've stripped don't have tremendous amounts of guilt.
Granted I am only just getting in the industry, but I'm not miserable or guilty.

Trust me, I know some freaky girls. Same with the girls I know who do porn. They just like sex and to be in the public eye. They could really care less about the money.

I've heard that before, though, lots. That seems to be the popular opinion about sex workers, that they just REALLY LIKE doing it.

I also work at a law library, and I'll tell you, I don't stay awake all night thinking of law books.
It's a paycheck.

Lol. Good point.

I realize that, but because you didn't make any mention of people you know who are OKAY with what they've done, I wanted the original poster to know that some people are okay with it. More than okay with it, in fact. Happy. Pleased. 100% sure they made the right decision.

I tend to get the feeling from you that you don't think ANY relatively sane person would really work in a sex industry because of the money. Is that true?

Oh no, not even. To tell you the truth, I have had my own experiences with that life.

I can't say that your experience with these "freaky girls" is untrue, but I must say that I'm meeting your claim with a good heaping of scepticism. Popular culture seems to be collectively slobbering over the fantasy that sex workers are really freaky girls with a big fetish for exhibitionism. And while I'm sure many porn stars or dancers are exhibitionists, this is no more true for them than for anyone in the public eye--rock stars, actors, whatever. These are careers that often attract people who enjoy showing off.

But to say that these girls are doing it for fun more than for a paycheck seems like wishful thinking to me. It's good, fast money. Like any job, there are those who are cut out for it, and those who are not. Consider working for a big advertising firm that makes lots of money off of consumerism. If I were working in that kind of industry, I'd probably "end up miserable with a tremendous amount of guilt", but there are many people who wouldn't have any issue with that, because they don't look at the world the same way I do. Does that mean that they have a fetish for fostering consumerism? Hardly! They just don't think about it the same way I do.

It's important to realize that what's going on in your head, or in that of your friends, is not true for everyone. We make sense of the world very differently, and I don't think we can make statements about why others choose the work they do or, furthermore, why some succeed in one or another industry.

I have never worked as either before so I dont have any real life experience advice but perhaps you could go into the club and speak to some of the women who serve there and see how they enjoy it. Also you can observe the atmosphere. See how the customers interact with the servers. You would be able to get a better idea if you would be comfortable there.

10 yrs in the industry and I've never met anyone like that.

Its not a "kind of life".
Its just a job. and one I'm getting sick to death of being mythologised.

Especially here.

I am so sick of this shit.
I had my first night back last night and come on and see this same old crapola being dragged out again and again.

I have ONLY even done it for the money, never met a sex worker who was for any other reason.

ignorant, ignorant, ignorant.....

As a lesbian sex worker, I ask, do you purport that i'm doing it with the guys for fun?
As the housemate of Maja and friend of many workers and having been in the industry for 5 years (porn, sex, bdsm and stripping) I will assure you that none of us are doing it for fun.
Uh, maybe to raise our kids and spend the most time with them possible, to pay our rent, to pay to study, there are a million things that money is needed for in this world and sex work is a legitimate and easy way to get alot of money.
I am not miserable and ashamed because I do not listen to people like you, to our society that looks down on me for supporting my family.

To put it bluntly, people like you make me sick, I have absolutely no respect for you and your ignorance and your prejudices against hardworking women trying to make a dollar and in most cases support their family.
Your rudeness and assumptions are incredibly arrogant and hurtful, you talk about "observation" but you are not one of us so don't presume you can cash in on societies prejudices to give someone information on working until you have worked.
You have no idea, you are not worth my time.

What experiences?
Because you don't seem to know anything about the adult industry.

to the original poster:

I worked as a bartender in a strip club, and I made good money. since the men (and women, occasionally) come in there already expecting to tip people, they've got cash to burn and spread around. A lot of times they'll hire male bartenders because they're less "distracting", but if you can get a job there as a girl it's worth the money.
I don't know if this will work as a server, but I'm guessing yes because you'll probably be cocktailing: I never had a problem with pervy dudes because I had control over the alcohol. If they messed around with me, I gave them one warning, and then I cut them off. the girls that cocktailed for me could also cut guys off, and they'd tell me and I wouldn't serve them either.
just make sure it's a decent place to work, that it respects the women that work there (otherwise it WILL be bad for you too, even though you're not stripping) and make sure they pay you a wage. if they try any crap where "we don't pay girls because they make enough in tips," run far, far away. as a cocktailer, befriend your bartender and it will make your life in the club much easier.

as for your parents, just tell 'em you work in a nightclub.

about the rest of the thread, I can't say I've ever met a stripper for whom the money was just an added bonus. sure, some people are exhibitionists, but dealing with the kind of behavior that men can display in clubs isn't generally an enjoyable prospect. if they really enjoyed stripping for people and didn't care about the money, they'd probably tour amateur nights rather than take up full-time employment in a club.

Stripper, waitress, doctor, nurse, janitor, whatever, I think whatever YOU wanna do is cool...

But I think YOu need to be comfortable with it, and the way you posted (I could be wrong) you didn't seem too excited about the idea...

I work as a waitress, and make AMAZING tips... If you could get a waitress job, if you are good at what you do you could make just as much money maybejust as an idea... I make 10 dollars an hour plus tips, some nights i go home with 90-100 dollars in tips. slow nights i go home with 60 dollars, but this works out my wage to be 20 dollars an hour on a slow night...

Whatever you think will be fun, and good for your life, you should do. If you dont feel ok with lying about where you work, you might want to look into waitressing, i dunno just an idea

I agree with what a lot of the posters are saying - if you want to do it, go for it.

And, I think that the attitude being shown towards sex workers in this thread is shameful and really messed up. I have quite a few friends who strip, and I know no one who is doing it because they are "freaky," nor is anyone I know deeply ashamed of it. It's a job, like working at McDonalds, or a bookstore, or anywhere else. They have good nights and bad nights, sometimes they have great customers and other times they don't. The same as any other job.