Sooo last night, my BD and I decided that it would be good to invite his mother and new husband over to my grandparents house for saturday night dinner. My grandfather made a big ham for the meat eaters, and a curry veggy pie thing *it was honestly delicious* for my mother. He pretty much spent all day cooking, and I cleaned up, and cooked for my cousins lunch and whatnot. So anyway, at our house we eat at 5:00, and they new that. Didnt have a problem showing up 20 mins late. We let that go, and we ate dinner. After dinner my mother started talking about her ECE diploma, and some of the ideas shes practicing in her classroom. She dosnt like reading books that are race, sex or gender biased. BD's mom started going off, asking what books she deemed to be "gender biased" and my mom used Cinderella as an example, because the princess is saved by some man she dosnt know...and his mother just laid into her, telling her that was the stupidest thing shed ever heard...And my mom just kept telling her that she didnt care what other parents thought, in her class there wouldnt be anything that forms a bias or stereotype.......and this women wouldnt calm down, going on to blame immagrents for the reason why we cant say the lords prayer in school, and why we have to have black, white, and brown dolls in the class room. I finnally said "well with my child, I will not be reading him cinderella, or anything that promotes a bad image of other people, or raising him with religion, so I appreciate non-biased teachers" and then she gave me crap saying "ooo soo if i read this stuff to your kid, and take him to church, are you going to ban him from seeing me"...and i said "no, but I would tell you my wishes, and hope you would respect them"...at that point my mother got fed up with this argument, and just decided to go home, and walk away.
WELL....his mother chased her to the door, screaming about how rude she was being...and then turned to me, (im 33 weeks pregnant) and got in my face, YELLING *the neighbours could here* at me for "getting her son in this situation* when he should be in college. Then yelling at me because i "sit on my ass all day, while he works two jobs". I was let go from my job when I was 25 weeks pregnant. NO ONE WILL HIRE ME. and i dont sit. I clean, and cook, and read parenting books, and take an online credit. Plus Im very sensitve about that issue, because I REALLY REALLY REALLY want to be working right now. Making up all these lies about shit i "told her" about my mom. But by this point my mom was in her face yelling, because she was 1. yelling at me in my "state", and 2. Blaming this pregnancy on me, when CLEARLY it takes 2 people to concieve a child. His mother said a lot more hurt ful shit, and finally left. It was such a scene. She did this infront of her 13 year old son, my grandmother, who is a stroke victim and was trying to sleep, and my blind cousin, who really dont re-act well to this kind of environment. To make things worse, i had to go to L&D for spotting and high blood pressure after that. 140/68...highest its been in my life....i was railing though....really pissed off!!
Sorry to make this soo long..i just needed to talk about it.