ok i love my boyfriend and this is why i have not been on girl mom very often and yea i think he is going to ask me to marry him but thats not the problem the problem is that i dont enjoy having sex with men ever since i had jayden. like with no one. i only enjoy sex with women. i want to be with him but i need some ways to get over this problem any ideas?
I have never been in your situation, but I just wanted to say that you should NOT get married unless you are absolutely, 100% sure that it is what YOU want. If you don't enjoy having sex with him now, that is something that needs to be resolved before you agree to marry him, because it is less likely to get better after.
I agree with Monkey. You shouldn't put yourself into a situation like marriage unless you are 100% sure it's what you want to do. As I'm sure you know already, alot of women don't enjoy sex(especially penetration) right away after giving birth but return to their pervious sex selves after some time. Give it some more thought and you'll know what's best for you and Jayden. Don't let anyone pressure you into to doing anything you don't completely want or that may not be very good for you.
Im in the same boat as you.
I am pregnant, and since about the 6th month, I have had no sex drive at all. It dosnt really bother me either.....I just go on living happily without the sex. I dont think its a matter of you loving the guy or not, because I love my SO, A LOT. Ive never been happier.
Maybe just let it come naturally. Your hormones are probably still all funny, and if you arent interested, there is probably little you can do to make yourself interested. I know when i try to make myself like sex, I enjoy it less.
I just pretty much live my life, and try not to think about it. I know i will want it some day, and ive just found other stuff that we like to do, that doesnt involve sex.
My sister is bi and she is getting married to a man either this summer or next, they haven't set a for-sure date. She doesn't talk to me about it, but our friend tells me how she misses having sex with a woman. I don't know how she is going to handle it, but I know you're not the only one... I don't know if she has talked to her fiance about it, but I do know she loves him and does enjoy sex with him, just misses it with women.